Emotional wreck!!

tdavis1038 · May 2015

my baby's father and I separated just before I found out I was pregnant and it's been hard to worry about doing it alone but I've been managing and doing a pretty good job at it, but my sister (who is my best friend) dropped the biggest bombshell on me tonight. She is moving 16 hours away to be closer to our family. She is my only family here and the only one I trusted to get me through labor. I wish I could go with her but my ex and I have two other children together too and he will not allow me to move more than 100 miles away (it's in our custody agreement)
I don't even know how to describe how I feel right now, but I'm pretty sure my heart is exploding.

estick814 · May 2015

I'm so sorry to hear it. Chin up.

sarahsnowball · May 2015

Sorry to hear this. She might consider staying with you for a while when baby is due, then she could still support you during the birth. Where there is love there is always a way round these things.

VexyMommy · May 2015

I'm sorry you're going through this. Perhaps your sister will be able to come to your town during the birth. That would probably be best for now.

I would also suggest reading your custody agreement thoroughly. They usually don't forbid you to move, but say that custody would have to be changed/revised based on a move of over 100 miles away. It's common for people to think they would lose custody or are forbidden to move based on similar wording, but it's really just a logistics thing. Most existing visitation agreements don't work at that distance.

carlyhbennett · May 2015

I know that a split is hard enough on you and your kids and hormones first of all, and then to lose your sister at a time like this to a move is a big deal. Try to see some good though like this isn't your first baby. You actually know what your doing thank God. Your sister can hopefully come back for the delivery. Maybe you can schedule the birth so you know she can be there. Try to rely on a close friend instead. I have never had my best friend in the room, but since this is my last baby I might have her there. Is there any possibility of the dad being there or is that too much to handle since you guys just split?

mmk29 · May 2015

I'm sorry you're going through this, but I agree with a previous comment. Read the custody agreement very closely, you may be able to work something out. Good luck!

tdavis1038 · May 2015

Thank you all for the support. Our custody agreement is that we have to have consent from the other parent to move more than 100 miles away. (We even have to give permission to travel out of state) I don't think I could really move my kids away from him anyway. We didn't work out but they love their dad. That said he is NOT someone that I want for support when in labor (he cheated on me then left me and I am still very hurt)
I did reach out to a good friend today and she was very supportive and gave me some hope.

I am so over all these emotions! One minute I feel like everything has fallen apart and there's no hope and by the end of the day I think, "this is going to be so hard but I think I can do it".
Thank you again for your support!

nikkihutton · May 2015

Sorry to hear this I'm still

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