Anyone getting nervous to announce to friends/family ?

delos2 · May 2015

Since my family live out of town. I get nervous thinking about telling them. I already have a one y/o and I feel like my mum will be worried for me. Since I don't have a lot of support, only my husband. We are thrilled to be having a second baby. But I feel a bit nervous making the announcement! I want a positive happy reaction. I don't want to be disappointed.

monaclemere · May 2015

Me, me!!! This is number three, so you'd think this would be easier, but it feels like this will be the hardest one yet! This pregnancy was not planned, I was hoping to try for a third maybe a year from now. My kids are almost 5 and almost 2, so this will be a little closer in age than I would like.

I think my mom will be "concerned". I'm a married woman in her 30's with a good job- but I think she thinks two is plenty for us. Our house is tiny and I have to continue working full time even after this one. Also, my sister had a miscarriage in February at 13 weeks. I'm scared to tell her because I know she's been trying to get pregnant since and I'm 99% sure she's not yet. Since this was a whoops- I feel that much worse.

I know everyone will come around, but the thought of not getting a positive reaction at first is hard to think about.

bkc92 · May 2015

I just started getting nervous today. Mostly because we think our cousins that live near us are pregnant with their first. We don't want to ask without them telling but we don't want it to be awkward if we both announce at the family reunion this summer...

gerd1986 · May 2015

This is my first pregnancy so I'm nervous to tell people too incase anything would happen. On the other hand, I'm also really excited and am tired of trying not to talk about it in front of people bc were waiting a little later to spill the beans to everyone.

mommaSimpkin · May 2015

So I suck at secrets and such. I have already spilled the beans.
For some people it was exciting. Others I was so nervous.
My mom knew we were trying, and she was super excited for us. She's concerned due to the fact that (DH is military) we are stationed so far away, and I will only have DH when he's out of work. The rest falls on me.
Telling my MIL was weird. But she was happy and excited for us.

Telling my grandmother and my younger sister was the bad part.
My grandmother told me at my wedding (last august), that we needed to wait at least 3 years. So telling her that we were pregnant only being married 9 months, was a little hard. But she ended up being happy for us.

My younger sister miscarried in March when she was about 7-8 weeks. She took it super hard, she snapped at me for checking up on her.
When we told her, she said she was happy for us. But I have yet to hear from her again. It's been 3 weeks..

I love that everyone we want to know, knows now. So I don't have to hide anything. But part of me worries, now that they know. What if something goes wrong.
Staying positive though. Positive thoughts.

DaphneMoon1 · May 2015

I'm a little anxious at some of the reactions we may get.

We are getting married this Saturday. We started TTC early this year for several reasons. DH is already 37. The worst time for us to have a baby would be summer because of his type of work he does. Our wedding date has been set for about 9 months, so we knew we could possibly be pregnant at our wedding and both of us are 100% comfortable with that. The alternative was to potentially wait another year. We are thrilled to be pregnant and are announcing it at our wedding.

We are having a very intimate ceremony and reception in our backyard. We bought our house a year ago and have been planning it since we closed. We will have about 40 guest.

The reason I'm slightly anxious is that his mom is religious and very conservative. She's made several comments about us living together before marriage. She's thrilled we are making it official, but wishes we would do it in a church. I'm just afraid she will have some type of negative comment about we should have waited. Or she's disappointed (again). I'd really love for her to just be happy for us and say congratulations. She knows we both want children because we've been vocal about it.

I'm trying to tell myself that it doesn't matter. She will eventually come around. This timing works better for us. I guess we always hope for our parents approval though. And I couldn't be happier so I hope she sees that and is happy for us too.

keshakdavis · May 2015

The only people we have told are my parents. Hubby doesn't want to tell anyone else because he thinks it is bad luck. We both have children from previous marriages but this is our first together, which we planned. No one knew we were planning. My son is almost 13 so I'm sure it would be a shock to some who probably thought we weren't going to have any. That was the reaction of my dad. He first said he thought I couldn't have anymore. He thought I had my tubes tied but then after saying all of that he was happy, I guess. Now my mom, she is overjoyed. My dad is coming around. I think he is a little worried because I am going through the pregnancy without my husband who just left for deployment. But the good thing is he will be back in time for the birth as long as they do not get extended.

ChloeSmith · May 2015

this is our third and it doesnt get easier! my whole family was shocked! now they happy i guess.

the funniest was my stepmom - we were at a braai and one of our friends who has 4 kids said its time for a little girl (we have 2 boys) and my stepmom said "oh no please, 2 is more than enough" (she only has my brother, i think they battled to have anymore) and in the next sentence i said ' well we will find out in August, everyone went dead quiet and my stepmom went as white as sheet. she was so embarrassed.

i laughed. to be honest as much as you want their approval they have lived their lives, they should never make you feel bad for how you choose to live yours. that being said im glad they came around

mamaksweez · May 2015

My DD will be 1 on Saturday! My mom is a teacher, so when DD was born my mom was here to help all summer. It was fantastic because we had a lot of trouble nursing and I got really baby bluesy. I totally needed her (as my husband took 1 week off, but normally has to work.) So... I think my mom will be concerned that baby will be coming in January. She thinks we'll have another next summer or after (she is retiring after this school year.)
I think my in-laws will be shocked! They waited many years between kids (like 4 then 5 more). No way I'm having babies for 10 years! I'm so excited that ours will be close in age. Hopefully this time the blues will stay far far away and I won't NEED my mom so much.

SBH041815 · May 2015

@ChloeSmith this is my third as well and I agree it hasn't gotten any easier!

I haven't told anyone yet but I know everyone will be very surprised and I am hoping happy for us

I'm praying for no negativity!

flutepharm87 · May 2015

At this point, I don't think I'll get a positive response unless this baby is a girl. The youngest girl on DH's mom's side is 13, on his dad's side is 19, and on my side is 24. Most people will likely look at us and say something to the effect of "you DO know how that happens, right?" My OB offers the Panorama test, so I think we'll do that and add the sex onto it. We have a $4000 deductible so the sooner we hit that the better off we'll be for delivery. Might as well do all the testing we can and be as prepared as possible! Then we can announce the sex with the pregnancy.

That being said, should we be blessed with another boy we'll be thrilled. I just don't think our families will care. My cousins each have 2 boys, plus our 3...another boy will get a "meh" reaction for sure!

kmcc14 · May 2015

I'm definitely nervous to tell my family. They live out of town, so I will be making the announcement long-distance. This will also be the first grandchild for my parents. I know my dad will be over the moon, but my mom has always brushed me off any time I've brought up babies. I'm not really sure why. I'm 28 and will have been married for 2 years in July. I think it may have something to do with my older brother not being married yet, but who knows. When I announced that I was engaged she didn't even tell me congratulations, so I'm dreading getting another bad response when I tell her that we are expecting. We're planning to wait until I'm 13 weeks to announce.

DH's family, on the other hand, cannot wait to see another grandchild/niece or nephew/cousin, so it will be exciting to tell them. I accidentally spilled the beans to one of DH's aunts at the family picnic yesterday. She cornered me, I tried to give a non-answer, and she took it as a yes. I have a horrible poker face, so I just told her the truth and asked to not say anything because we won't be announcing for a while. She kept winking at DH the whole time, so now he knows that she knows. Woops!

EC2016 · May 2015

I have been really nervous. I didn't mind telling my close friends but feel weird about telling our families for some reason. We found out on out 3 month wedding anniversary so I worry people will think it's too soon. Also my SIL is pregnant so I don't wanna steal her thunder.

KaraEpp16 · May 2015

Why does everyone always get all worked up over whether a pregnancy is planned or not? Everything happens for a reason. People didn't plan their pregnancies in the caves. They didn't even "plan" them 40 years ago. It's so upsetting that we feel the pressure to "plan" something like this from other people. Sorry it may be hormones. And I'm not saying there is anything wrong with attempting to plan a pregnancy. So please don't take offense.

Firsttimer16 · May 2015

Starting to feel really nervous now! Kind of enjoying having a little secret with my husband - we are still wrapping our own heads around it! We are ten months married and still coming down from the excitement of that!
Plan to tell our parents around the 10 weeks and everyone else about 12. I do feel guilty about keeping it from mum though- anyone else?
I'm the baby of the family but it will be the first grandchild so im a little anxious to how my older siblings will react!

delos2 · May 2015

Thank you ladies for all your encouraging responses. I am happy that I am not the only person who feels this way. Even at 29 and second baby it's still difficult to wish others will join in your happiness. I think at the end of the day, you have one life to live, and should celebrate and rejoice in the way you feel you should. Let people keep their opinions, their thoughts and concerns. And let us be happy, feel blessed and not regret these beautiful moments.

Mamabeagle · May 2015

I'm sort of in this weird place, where I'm SO excited but also petrified as its my first pregnancy. DH convinced me to tell our parents sooner than I wanted to, but it made sense. We agreed we could each tell one friend-he told his best friend and his girlfriend that night, and I told my local best friend, my work best friend from out of town and my best long distance friend. Total fail.

But he gets to tell all our guy friends on a bachelor cruise in Mexico in a week and a half, so I think he will get over my total and utter betrayal! Haha

winnie1122 · May 2015

I was really super nervous with our first pregnancy since we'd only been married a little over a month!! Everyone was really excited though, which definitely put us at ease. I was glad we told our families early since we lost that one and had to go through d&c at 11 wks and it was so good to have their support. I kind of regretted telling some friends so early that time though. We didn't tell anyone with pregnancies 2 and 3, and I missed the support with those miscarriages. I'm extremely excited to tell our families with this one, but nervous to lose another. We will probably tell them sometime this week if we get good hcg numbers back tomorrow, because I'm tired of keeping secrets from them. I like having people knowing and praying!

Mommyduclos · May 2015

We've told quite a few people already. I was really nervous to tell me parents because I told them I was considering waiting an extra month since my daughter is a January baby as well, so I was nervous they'd make a rude remark about us not having self control or something, but they were really happy. We told my husband's dad as well and they were very happy and then I've told a handful of friends who of course we're happy. I'll probably tell my mother in law after our first appointment, I'm not sure how she'll react. She'll probably be happy but maybe very surprised. This is our third and she only had one. A lot of people know we ultimately want four, but I'm not sure she does. I'm partially making my desire for four kids very well known so I don't get the typical big family responses when we announce.

ByeByeSpotts · May 2015

Hi, I'm new and would love some advice. Im 29 yrs old and 5w (so still very early).

I'm nervous to tell my younger sister. She has been baby crazy ever since she was born. My Husband and I got married this past November and my little sister's wedding is next April. My husband and I have decided we would do a baby shower next summer when the baby is 5/6 months so that my sister doesn't feel like we are stealing her spotlight (she keeps saying she doesn't want a wedding just a baby). I know my parents will be over the moon when we tell them but the first concern will def be about how do we tell my little sister. Any advice is greatly welcomed.

willashbaby · May 2015

I've already told my Mother and Grandmother and a few coworkers whom I'm very close with and see daily (they would know something was up anyway). Tomorrow is our US and if all is doing well and we see a HB we will tell DHs parents. Once that's over we'll tell people as we see them. No FB until we know what's cooking in there. I'm not nervous to tell anyone. If anyone has anything negative to say they can piss off.

jonesl12 · May 2015

DH and I have been married for 5 years and together for 8. We built a home and both have good jobs so right after we got married ( about 6 months after) we were at a family reunion and I mentioned kids and everybody freaked out and told me to wait that it was too soon for that. I listened and I'm really REALLY glad we did. We have traveled a ton and gotten to do many things most people never have a chance to because we had nobody to think about for 8 years but ourselves. We got all the partying and sightseeing we could stand out of our system and now we are looking forward to sharing our much toned down travels with a LO. We are in no way shape or form nervous to tell our loved ones about the lil babe because there's not a reason in the world not to share our lives with a child.

LauraFi · May 2015

I hope that your announcement goes well! We are kind of in a similar situation, living far away from our family so without much of a support network at the moment. We are going to tell our parents in the next couple weeks, waiting until they come visit so we can tell them in person. I think that my parents and the in laws will all be really excited, but I'm sure they will be a bit nervous for us too since this is going to be our first child and we are living pretty much on the other side of the world (the Netherlands from western Canada). I think it will be a bit of a relief once people know, even if they don't live in the same town you can sill talk to them and have support that way. I'm looking forward to having the additional support going forward and being able to ask my Mom questions.

EC2016 · May 2015

@ByeByeSpotts
I think you just need to tell your sister. Just because you have a child doesn't mean she can't have one in the future. And being an auntie is awesome! Maybe do something fun like buy her a onesie that says I'm beautiful like my aunt or something. I'm sure she will like that and make it easier for her.

MssyMmmy · May 2015

We told our in laws today. We just posted the photo below in a family photo sharing album and waited to see how long it would take for them to figure it out. It was awesome!

claireloSC · May 2015

@DaphneMoon1 Congrats on your wedding! That's so exciting! I hope your wedding dress is comfy.

I bet your family is gonna be so excited to hear at the wedding, how cool. I'm sorry about your MIL. Is there any MIL who isn't a pain at least sometimes? Mine told me I looked fat in my wedding dress before our wedding so I got a new one.... Regardless of their reactions I'm sure they'll get over it and be excited. Not much can make you come down on the high of being just married IMO, so I bet it will be a great day no matter what. Hope you aren't too sick on the honeymoon!

Sovvy · May 2015

We didn't tell with my son until I reached past the point of my loss of my first, and hope to do that again, so I'm mostly nervous about keeping it a secret. I'll tell my mom around 9 weeks though because she's having major surgery in June and I want her to know before it happens.

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