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None of my business but.....

jonesl12jonesl12 member
edited May 2015 in January 2016 Moms
I am currently at Daytona beach for the weekend and about 2 spots down there is a very clearly pregnant woman sitting on her beach chair smoking a cigarette. If I had to guess she is on her 5th or 6th since she got here about 2 hours ago. It's none of my business but her kid is crossing the road between the parking on the beach and the water constantly as well. Another woman told the mother that she needs to watch her child cause he almost got hit by a car. She got defensive then did nothing about it . I find this situation so infuriating . Its none of my business how somebody raises their child or their decision to smoke but it makes me angry and sad.
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  • MommyduclosMommyduclos member
    If a child's life is in danger it absolutely IS your business. If I saw a small child running around water or where cars are and clearly not being tended to I would not hesitate to contact authorities. The smoking is less of your business but still sucky for the babe.
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  • willashbabywillashbaby member
    If I noticed the child was constantly unattended I would call the police or security. Wihtout hesitation.
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  • jonesl12jonesl12 member
    Another mom on the other side of her told her 2 times to watch her kid at this point. There are cops and lifeguards that drive up and down the beach and I wouldn't be surprised if this other lady doesn't flag them down herself . I'm just watching it go down. I almost had to get up a few min ago because I saw a car coming and the kid running towards it , luckily the kids mom yelled his name and he stopped. She should really get off her ass and watch her kid . Currently the kid is digging in the sand with a beer can.. It's almost comical it's so rediculous
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  • jonesl12jonesl12 member
    Update: the Marlboro mom is arguing with this other lady again. Marlboro mom also has a potty mouth. The kid is making good progress diggin in the sand with the bud light can
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  • EC2016EC2016 member
    I live in daytona. This does not surprise me...
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  • jonesl12jonesl12 member
    ChipMonster said:

    Oh man!

    Dear ladies, if you're worried about being a bad mom, think of this story and remind yourself that you ain't so bad ;)

    Very true.
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  • nicoleann21nicoleann21 member
    I turn into a raging bitch around anyone smoking, I'd probably end up in jail if I saw a pregnant woman smoking.
    Me: 28 DH: 30
    TTC #1: April 2015
    BFP: 4/25/15
    EDD: 1/5/16
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  • amt20amt20 member
    My neighbor has to be well into her 3rd trimester of pregnancy and i always see her smoking. It takes so much out of me to not say anything to her about it. I know its not my business but It is infuriating and hurtful that people who probably shouldn't be reproducing have multiple kids that they just ignore anyway, but people who do everything right and would actually make great parents have so much trouble TTC and suffer losses.
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  • mrsgetz4000mrsgetz4000 member
    Small world, I lived there for ten years. That's Daytona for you
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  • msrere1985msrere1985 member
    I agree 100% with you we have had a miscarriage a year ago and just found out we're expecting! But there are woman who smoke and drink while pregnant and yet the can get pregnant by just looking at a man. It's sad.
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  • jonesl12jonesl12 member
    msrere1985 said:

    I agree 100% with you we have had a miscarriage a year ago and just found out we're expecting! But there are woman who smoke and drink while pregnant and yet the can get pregnant by just looking at a man. It's sad.

    I work in a OB/GYN office and it seems like the most fertile ones are the girls who should not be reproducing. We had a girl once who was 25yo G7 P5 and 1elective AB at the age of 15 . She had custody of only 3 of the children , pregnant with the 7th and every child per the mother had a different dad . She was excited that this last baby's dad was in the military and that her benefits were going to be awesome . He kids were dirty , skinny, and unmanageable. It was sick and sad. So many people just want one and would do anything for that to happen yet this kinda stuff happens and it's not fair.
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  • Jamilla9Jamilla9 member
    l4rk said:

    These situations are tough. Women who don't treat their kids well are often uneducated, living in poverty or otherwise suffered great misfortune in life that make them incapable of making the best choices. It's really not a fair deal for the kids, and I understand the desire to step in, but it's also a very challenging situation--my mom is a retired social worker and even kids with terrible parents are often much better off with those parents, than taken away and with "better" parents. If you think the kid is in danger, then absolutely step in (by alerting the authorities), but these situations are rarely as black and white as they seem to an outsider. I try to treat women and children in these situations with empathy, compassion and understanding. (Maybe I should be posting this to the Unpopular Opinion thread! ;) ) 

    Love this. It's easier to judge than try to understand a situation and show compassion.

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  • amt20amt20 member
    Yes UO thread. It's like providing compassion to a rapist or murderer...yeah i know what he did was wrong, but he had a hard life...blah. life is hard. People get delt unfair lots in life but not everyone turns around and hurts and abuses others. You can rationalize til the cows come home but the bottom line is that people need to take responsibility for their actions.
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