Not sure what to think...

JLW0504 · May 2015

Earlier this week, my husband's Grandmother passed. She is a truly wonderful woman. DH is taking her death pretty hard.

Just an hour ago, we found out that his stepsister passed away in her sleep. DH is inconsolable. They've been siblings since he was 5. She had a lung disease (I can't think if the name) and she was a serious chain smoker (not helping her condition). We knew she would be gone soon, but this close to losing his Grandmother?

I don't know what to think. I am saddened by her death but, I'm also angry with her decision to chain smoke. Knowing that she could have been with us--with her two daughters for another 10 years had she just quit smoking she just wouldn't. I am so sad for her girls. They have been through so much this past week.

I'm not asking for love fits or prayers but, if you can just tell your loved ones that you love them. Hug them. Kiss them. Be happy that you have them. That they have you.

I know you all are a bunch of internet strangers but, I'm glad that you've allowed me yo vent this out and for all of the advice you've given.

Thank you.

P.S. Sorry for any typos/grammatical errirs , I didn't edit before posting.

Pontot31 · May 2015

I'm sorry for your loss. That's a lot to take in one week.

I know how you feel about the smoking part. My grandma died of cancer as a result from smoking and my mom has COPD. It's so addicting. And sad to think of the what could have beens.

thegingeravenger · May 2015

I'm so sorry for you and your husbands losses this week. You're in my thoughts during this hard time.

LizQ2 · May 2015

I'm sorry for your loss

cigarettes should be illegal they're so ridiculously bad for you. I will certainly hug my loved ones tighter today. Life is so precious and you just never know when you'll see someone for the last time.

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CarrieOct15 · May 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending positive thoughts to you & your husband.

kmkrushi · May 2015

I'm sorry for you and your family's losses. I hope all works out well for those two girls. I'm one of the lucky ones who quit smoking early and easily. I know it's not easy for everyone but I know how horrible they are.

denisamom · May 2015

Sorry for you loss.... Truly. My grandmother battled alcoholism for 30 years before she succumbed to liver failure. It's been 15 years and when I think of her and how great she was im so sad and angry that she was gone so soon and what she has missed. The feelings of grief and anger and empthy are very much intertwined. It gets better, obviously I have great memories but those trigger being mad sometimes. I don't blame her, but I still get mad! It's a hard line to balance in death when someone admittedly caused their own demise even if they couldn't help it. Anyway, just saying that I totally understand and it's totally m

TallyKyle · May 2015

My husband lost his grandma this week too. He was pretty upset, but I couldn't imagine losing someone else on top of that. Know that there is someone that empathizes with you and I am sending g some good vibes your way. I will also hug my family extra tight this weekend.

maura+c · May 2015

I'm so sorry for your husband and his stepsisters girls. It is extremely hard to lose one person, but two people in one week is an emotional overload. So sorry y'all are having to go through such a horrible week and sending you good thoughts. I was sure to hug my family after reading your post, as you requested. Life is truly precious. Hope this wound heals quickly for you and your family.

mmk29 · May 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss and my heart breaks for your husband. I feel the same way about cigarettes and I've had the same fight with my FIL and MIL. Why give up even a minute more than you have to on this earth?
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

dogsombrero · May 2015

I'm sorry for your losses. It is hard to watch someone you love doing things that results in catastrophic damage to their body. T&Ps for your family and extended families during this very difficult time.

JLW0504 · May 2015

Thank you all for your kinds words ad sentiments. I am sorry @TallyKyle to hear of your DH's Grandmother. My prayers are with him and your family.

Life is so very precious. It's so easy to take it for granted. I'm finding that everyone I speak to, I make sure to tell them I love them before I hang up, leave, email, etc.

So, I love that we are internet strangers. I'm sure if I knew you all in real life, I'd love you all.

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