Jealous friend?

amybabbay · May 2015

This one friend I had changed since I told her I'm having a girl ( she had a boy she really wanted a girl ) since then she hasn't texted, seen me or anything and has even blocked me and unfriended me on fb

Why are people like this? Makes me laugh

kcanfield15 · May 2015

Unfortunately some people are just really cool like that your better off with out her.

Thj417 · May 2015

Similar problem here - she stopped talking/texting, didn't unfriend me on Facebook but I suspect that's because our husbands are friends. I try not to dwell. But it sucks because I'm in a new town with only a few friends. Bah silly people. Get over the pettiness people!

Seed0824 · May 2015

I have a few people like this in my life. I feel sorry for them that they don't know how to be happy with what they have and happy for their friends. One person never has the best everything but should be able to enjoy what they do have. To unfriend someone because of jealousy is sadly someone you are better without in your life.

Kimk1616 · May 2015

Wow, that's a terrible way to act! With so many people having difficulty getting pregnant, you'd think she'd be happy with a healthy baby!

When I told my BIL we were expecting a girl, he didn't say congrats or anything just that his wife was going to be pissed because she wanted to have another child and have it be the first girl so she'd be spoiled. My coworkers were all taken back by his reaction (since I was at work when I told him) but whatever. You don't get to pick the gender of your baby and I'm just happy she's healthy!

alyciamrs · May 2015

So childish. Sad but there is many people out there like that. Maybe she'll realize her mistake when you have a beautiful little girl whose life she is not a part of.

johannaspisak · May 2015

I'm having a little girl this time around. My first two were boys, and I wouldn't have traded that for all the world. People are silly.

kelseyrayay · May 2015

Honestly if she was a true friend she wouldn't act that way. She would be happy for you. You would probably be better off without her anyways.

acgonzalez22 · May 2015

My "best friend" has been acting jealous since I told her I was pregnant. I don't have FB, so no unfriending going on in cyber world, but I have "unfriended" her from my life. She stated she couldn't come to my shower for some bogus reason, she never calls/texts, makes rude comments- I think she is just unhappy in her own situation. However, I pride myself on surrounding myself with positive and supportive people. Sometimes people just drift apart and I am okay with that. I pray she finds the happiness she is looking for.

sjra1028 · May 2015

People can be immature... No advice bc I'm going through something similar. My friend is pregnant and due in 3 weeks with a girl. Well ever since we found out we were having a girl instead of a boy like we initially thought, she has stopped talking to me! We chose baby names around the same time. I'm wondering if maybe we used the name she wanted. No clue though bc she's gone silent!

malamaza · May 2015

That is definately not your friend and you are better off for it! I would seriously suspect someone having mental issues if they would get mad or not want to be my friend because I'm having a child or the gender of my child! Something not right in the head with her!

holli0801 · May 2015

Is she going to shun her baby like that too bc it's a boy? People are crazy.....

strauber · May 2015

I wouldn't decide the friendship is over until both of you have your babies. Once she sees him and loves him she won't care that you happened to have a girl.

breezymeema7 · May 2015

It's always hard when someone you considered a friend, turns out to be something else. I do agree with PPs, you don't want someone like that in your life.

Miz_Liz · May 2015

Wow, not only do I feel bad for you, but I feel horrible for her son!!! I had a boy first and wouldn't trade him for 100 girls. I am having a daughter this time around, and am excited to experience that too...but always expected to have 3 boys and I have always been perfectly happy with that! I agree she is not a true friend. One of my besties has a boy, I know she was scared of having a boy before (she only has a sister, new territory), but she has NEVER acted jealous about me having a girl. What I do feel bad about is she is having a hard time getting pregnant again and recently miscarried.... Even so, she has not even remotely pushed me away.

Saratiff · May 2015

Man you are such an inconsiderate friend. [-X
Clearly the only thing to do it reach up and change the genitals of your child that you had so much control over to fit her personnel preference.

God people really piss me off. We had a patient who went into pre term labor and the baby was born sleeping at 28. For fucks sake how can people not just be great full for a healthy baby? It really makes me sick

mrsb30 · May 2015

It's so hard for me to understand how people have such a strong preference of the sex of their child. I'm thrilled we are having a girl, but would have been just as happy with a boy. I just wanted babies

Starynightsky24 · May 2015

She already has a boy?! How could someone seriously be that upset when they already have a healthy boy in their arms? I feel bad for her son. What a brat.

kat+1 · May 2015

Sounds to me like your friend is really struggling and could use some time to heal from her disappointment. Some moms fall in to depression during pregnancy, hopefully she isn't suffering from it.
Is there any way you could reach out to her with a special kindness maybe see if there's more to this then what she is letting on. Even if she doesn't get back to you it might help her in this dark time just to know you haven't turned you back on her.

I hope your friend can see what a blessing these children are for both of you.

gulimz · May 2015

That's terrible. Very immature. I can't imagine caring so much about the gender of the child. I'm happy that I am pregnant with a healthy baby thus far. She happens to be a girl, but if she was a boy, I'd be happy with that too, as long as it was a healthy baby it shouldn't matter.
You should actually be glad she unfriended you. Who needs friends like that?

laurajam · May 2015

My friend miscarried a while back and since telling her I was pregnant she has also blocked me on FB, not tx or been in touch at all. We had a very close friendship also, we have been friends for over 10 years I was even a bridesmaid for her. Iv not heard from her in 7 months and feel extremely upset that our friendship has Complelty dissolved. I was going to ask her to be my baby's god mother but I have since changed my mind.

Jenni329 · May 2015

This is such a shame, it is a huge blessing and privilege to be included in a baby's life. It's her loss. One of my best friends has suffered so much through an ectopic pregnancy and then an unfaithful and emotionally abusive husband. although she openly admitted to being jealous of me being pregnant she said it gave her the strength to realise that if she wanted a chance of children and happiness she would need to leave him and start fresh. She has been so supportive despite her desperately wanting the same for herself that it makes me so proud of her and have asked her to be gaurdian to my little one. This is what a true friend should be and not someone who makes you feel guilty for being happy. I hope your friend comes around and realises her stupidity.

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