Co-ed Baby Shower

TnT051813 · May 2015

So I would really like to do a co-ed baby shower. I think it would be way more fun if the hubby could be a part of it all and also to have the whole family. I am getting some push back from my mom who thinks this is a weird idea. Has anyone been to a co-ed shower? If so, what were your thoughts, likes/dislikes, advice?

MadBloom · May 2015

Do it! A BBQ in the summer would be fun

I would have preferred it to be honest. It would have taken a bit of the attention off of me haha. My husband loves opening gifts too so he would have really enjoyed it.

mrskelly731 · May 2015

We did a meet the baby party after DD arrived and it was co ed. It was much less like a shower, more of a get together by with gifts. I liked it way better than a shower because I hate shower games and the attention just on me.

kmd91 · May 2015

Every shower that I've been to has been coed, and I prefer it that way. I think it's a lot more of a common thing these days, but I can see where your mom may be put off by the idea, seeing as I'm sure she's used to the female only shower thing.

cdepperschmidt · May 2015

My husbands cousin had an AWESOME co-Ed baby shower! Their theme was "a baby is brewing". It was a very modern style shower. Not your typical sit around and Ooo at gifts. However, even the 80 year old grandfathers enjoyed it!

nano1 · May 2015

Our shower was coed, but it turned out to be a lot more people for that reason so if your host isn't into it I wouldn't push it. It's a party they're throwing you.

CEB37 · May 2015

Having a co-ed shower can double the guest list and increase expenses for your host, so if you're getting push back, don't force the issue. A shower is a gift and you really shouldn't be making demands.

MoRay05 · May 2015

We have a co Ed shower and it was great! It was simple, no games and our friends who hosted grilled out. I preferred it that way bc I didn't want all the attention on me.

MargaretC5 · May 2015

Two of my friends did a coed baby shower. One was a BBQ and the other was a more traditional kind of baby shower with all the games. The men at the BBQ had a much better time, it had some kind of beer theme but I cannot remember what it was. The men at the traditional baby shower were bored, the only game the liked was the one where you melt chocolate bars in diapers (so it looks like poo) and guests try to guess what type of chocolate it is. They loved that one, some of the guys went so far as to taste it.
If you are going to go with coed I would just keep the guys in mind while planning and make it a little less traditional, not sure if traditional is the right word but u know what I mean.

Also your host is the one throwing the party so it would ultimately be her decision. If she is dead set against coed I think you need to respect that.

CEB37 · May 2015

That chocolate in the diaper game is repulsive.

MargaretC5 · May 2015

CEB37 said:
That chocolate in the diaper game is repulsive.

I agree, but at that shower the guys loved it. Honestly I don't remember any of the women playing it.

lulamagoo · May 2015

We had a coed shower and it was so fun. We did NO games and had a bbq and beer. It was pretty casual.
If my hosts had said, I don't want to host a coed shower, I would have followed their wishes.

CarrieOct15 · May 2015

My mother & sister are hosting my baby shower, & they offered to make it co-ed. My only concern is, I don't want them to incur additional expenses hosting a party with a much bigger guest list. I'm still thinking it over. A summertime BBQ sounds fun, though.

jsawicki · May 2015

A friend of mine did this and they said it was awesome! You could look up some cool team games to put the men against women etc.

Kitta+1 · May 2015

whatever you do, don't play that board game "battle of the sexes" it reaches a level of sucks that you cannot fathom.

I was just thinking about the co-ed thing, but I am pretty sure mamma and my sister are trying to plan a 'surprise' baby shower so I didn't want to ruin their fun by talking about it, lol. They are coming here in July - most of my family lives far away - so I am pretty certain they will do it then, so the most people can be there. Not saying I'll be upset if they don't or that I feel I'm entitled to it, I just know they are very traditional and enjoy any chance to party anyways, hehe.

mjzeppelin · May 2015

Co-ed all the way! I want people to have fun, drink and eat. My hubby wants to have a poker game. I just want people around me that I love. I'm always SO uncomfortable in your traditional shower setting. They are usually boring and silly. I'm not into it, especially the traditional games. I say do what you want. If your host is worried about expense, you can pitch in.

mmk29 · May 2015

We went with a co-ed party and it was wonderful. I wanted my husband there because it was his baby too, I wanted him to be able to thank people personally and enjoy the same joys as me.

ElleMF728 · May 2015

Is your mother hosting? Showers are expensive and a lot of work, co-ed typically means twice the people, twice the food and twice the space needed.

Elyse1384 · May 2015

My parents through me a surprise co-ed shower for DS and I loved it. So much more relaxing, no annoying games and I got to have a good time with everyone without all the focus on me. They just had an open bar and dinner buffet at a steak house. I think some of the guys were shocked at what a good time they had! They thought all showers were like that and they had been "missing out".

TnT051813 · May 2015

It's not the cost that was the issue, it was more that it is non-traditional that my mom was not sure about it. She has never heard of a co-ed baby shower so I think she just thinks it is an odd idea!

CEB37 · May 2015

TnT051813 said:
It's not the cost that was the issue, it was more that it is non-traditional that my mom was not sure about it. She has never heard of a co-ed baby shower so I think she just thinks it is an odd idea!

Well, if she's hosting then ultimately, it's up to her. If she's uncomfortable with it or has a specific idea in mind, then it's up to her and since it's a gift to you, it's not really polite to push her into it.

dogsombrero · May 2015

I agree with PPs it is up to the host. My shower was just ladies and honestly they wouldn't have shared all those new mom stories if there were dudes hanging out. Plus I got some things like breast pad set that weren't on the registry from mom friends and that would've been weird opening around my male friends/family. DH did come by for present time because I asked him to but he really wasn't into hanging around the whole time.

kmkrushi · May 2015

CEB37 said:

TnT051813 said:
It's not the cost that was the issue, it was more that it is non-traditional that my mom was not sure about it. She has never heard of a co-ed baby shower so I think she just thinks it is an odd idea!
Well, if she's hosting then ultimately, it's up to her. If she's uncomfortable with it or has a specific idea in mind, then it's up to her and since it's a gift to you, it's not really polite to push her into it.

You could always have a coed party after the baby is born. Like a sip and see but for the guys to be comfortable, I probably wouldn't call it that!

TnT051813 · May 2015

While I appreciate the people who actually answered my question about their opinions on co-ed showers, I did not ask about whether or not it is appropriate to ask for a specific kind of shower. I would never push my mom into doing something that she was uncomfortable with or that she could not afford. I do not even know if I want a co-ed shower, that is why I was asking for the opinions of others who have experienced this particular type. Thanks to those who shared their experiences, it has been helpful!

CEB37 · May 2015

TnT051813 said:
While I appreciate the people who actually answered my question about their opinions on co-ed showers, I did not ask about whether or not it is appropriate to ask for a specific kind of shower. I would never push my mom into doing something that she was uncomfortable with or that she could not afford. I do not even know if I want a co-ed shower, that is why I was asking for the opinions of others who have experienced this particular type. Thanks to those who shared their experiences, it has been helpful!

Well since you asked, my H (and most men in our circle) would rather lick a toilet seat than go to a baby shower. Even if you tried to disguise it as something else, like a BBQ.

However, I will state that the reasons you got the responses you did were because you stated you were getting push-back from your mom who most probably assumed is your hostess.

You don't really get to dictate the kind of responses you get, there's no reason to be so snippy. Sorrynotsorry.

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