DH, SO, Fiancé, BF rant???!!

amargaret24 · May 2015

Anyone want to get their frustrations off their chests regarding the partner in their life? I know sometimes the only place I have to complain is on this board to strangers and yet it feels so good! I can't complain about my fiancé to him! And I'm keeping this pregnancy under wraps until 13 wks (pgal)....so you're all I have ladies!!

6wks today

Fiancé has been great today but yesterday we flew to NYC and he had 6 drinks between the airport and the flight itself. Needless to say he was smelly and drunk by the time we finally got to the Hotel. And my MS is off the charts!! Barf! I gagged like, a thousand times.

aporcelainface · May 2015

Mine has been nonstop complaining about having to do the cat litter (we have 4 cats). It is at this point that he tells me that they are my cats, he never wanted cats (it's true, three of them are mine, one was a stray that he refuses to admit that he gave a home to), and that it is irresponsible of me to have cats I now can't even take care of. We have this conversation at least once every like, 9 days. I'm at the point of telling him to pick his battles better and to drop it - which clearly further annoys him. BUT I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I love my cats. Plain and simple. Suck it up for a little while. I'm carrying your child.

PHEW!!

amargaret24 · May 2015

@aporcelainface LOL that's funny because I feel your pain. No cats but I asked my fiancé to have all the bags packed and ready to go yesterday morning before our flight (meanwhile I was working a convention 3 days in a row, packed up ALL the tradeshow displays yesterday from 8 am to 11 am). I get back to the hotel and he is watching tv and nothing is done. I lost my shit! Like, is it that hard?! I just packed up a 20' x 10' display of banners.

Maybe you should invest in a Litter Genie?? I had one, loved it. I found it on Craigslist. Not gross cuz I obviously cleaned it.......

l4rk · May 2015

Ahahah, when I told my SO that I couldn't do the cat litter any more he said, "So what chore are you going to do instead?" Now I'm stuck flattening and taking out the recycling, which takes WAY LONGER to do! But I guess it's fair...

We got into a big fight about a hose in Home Depot on Saturday. It was one of those nonsense fights where we both wanted the same hose but somehow left without buying it, because he was being cranky and then I just left him in the store (so I guess I was being cranky too!)

My biggest pregnancy annoyance is the fact that he doesn't seem to want to admit I'm pregnant. He has this whole "don't get excited in case things don't work out" mentality in life (what a downer!) and so he basically just acts like I'm getting ahead of myself whenever I talk about anything baby related. I tried to tell him the smell of this sauce was making me feel sick and he kept being like, "Seems fine to me, but maybe the sauce went bad." And I'm like, OR MAYBE I'M PREGNANT. He kept just saying it must have spoiled. Anyway, it's frustrating. But I'm trying to remind myself that he's human too, and if it doesn't feel that real to me yet, it probably really doesn't feel real to him.

aporcelainface · May 2015

@amargaret24We probably should. He just likes to complain to be honest, which is the opposite of me who is passive unless I feel really passionate about something. Oh well. He likes amazon, he can figure it out. His new thing is "well I'll just get an automatic cleaner" HA okay you do that, whatever works. I love him to death, but he makes me roll my eyes a lot.

bspletzer · May 2015

My husband refuses to talk about our pregnancy i understand since we had a miscarriage in march but that doesnt mean we cant be hopeful about this one! He is also being a butt about me asking him to carry anything and our daughter! Im on pelvic rest so cant lift anything! Ugh he is very frustrating! But i wouldnt trade him for everything

DaphneMoon1 · May 2015

I tried to put jeans on tonight to grab a quick dinner (I've only been wearing scrubs and dress pants lately I guess). My jeans didn't fit! I couldn't button them! I voiced my frustrations to DH, "omg, my effin pants don't fit already!" He started cracking up laughing- even though I was almost in tears, and says, "that's because of the baby that's the size of a blueberry, right?"

boxers&bling · May 2015

DaphneMoon1 said:
I tried to put jeans on tonight to grab a quick dinner (I've only been wearing scrubs and dress pants lately I guess). My jeans didn't fit! I couldn't button them! I voiced my frustrations to DH, "omg, my effin pants don't fit already!" He started cracking up laughing- even though I was almost in tears, and says, "that's because of the baby that's the size of a blueberry, right?"

I would flip the fuck out if DH said that to me. That just shows they know absolutely nothing about what's going on lol

ChipMonster · May 2015

I have a good one. Last weekend we went to a bbq, DH gets plastered. We get home and he decides that he's going to be sick. But instead of throwing up in the toilet like a normal person would do, he throws up in the sink on top of dirty dishes. I was livid to say the least. Next day, he got mad at me because I said that I wasn't going to wash the dishes. Really??

gmp450 · May 2015

So my levels haven't been rising as they should so naturally I'm stressed and frustrated about that. And on top of that I've had to leave work early about every other day for blood draws and appointments. The receptionist at work has been trying to cut her hours and I have been trying to tell my boss this won't work without telling him I'm pregnant (I have to cover her when she isn't there and if she isn't there I can't leave) so I'm annoyed and stressed and hormonal.

When my second blood draw was low I had a break down. I laid in bed and sobbed. DH decided to call my sister and ask what he should do bc I was so upset. My sister has no sympathy and tells my mom I'm being dramatic. My mom throws that into the conversation when I try to confide in her regarding my frustrations with the levels. Everyone thinks I'm being overly sensitive and shouldn't be upset. HELLO I am essentially waiting to have a MC and I'm not allowed to grieve and be frustrated about it? Not to mention I am still pregnant at this point and therefore still a hormonal mess. No one gets that just bc my levels aren't doubling doesn't mean I'm not still pregnant and having symptoms.

Knottie1452445632 · May 2015

Oh ladies poor you

I can empathise with you all. I'm very very early on 4+5 but I have 3 children already and feel like crap due to our little blimp

Hubby knows the drill by now (as do it) - denial, ignore and don't give in! After all I'm "not an invalid" as he puts it. And "quit moaning about it - I don't want to hear a running cometary on how you feel it's boring". Such a wonderfully sensitive man I married

Grr

He's always like this when I'm pregnant which upsets me most of the time BUT during labour and delivery he's my rock and is AMAZING which somehow makes up for him being an arse for 9 months

Good luck ladies xxx

Myelhsa · May 2015

Mine is petty but really aggravating to me because I'm a grammar nazi.

DH refuses to use the correct "too" when he says "I love you too". He's done it for 7 years and he does it just 'cause it bothers me. ITS JUST ONE MORE LETTER!

Knottie1452445632 · May 2015

*as do I

Mamabeagle · May 2015

I asked DH if ONE day a week instead of going to the gym, if he could go for a walk by the river with me and our beagle. He said he "thought I was going to support him in staying fit." Ahem, excuse me? You mean like how I cook dinner 4 nights a week?

Then tonight I was telling him I didnt think I ate enough today and he was like, "You're trying to lose weight, it's fine." Well yes, I was trying to lose 5 pounds but now that I'm pregnant I'm trying to make sure I'm eating an appropriate number of calories so the BABY doesn't get the short end of the stick. I literally had 1100 calories today...

thebeefamily · May 2015

He and I aren't in a relationship, but some of the stuff he's said has hurt my feelings. He says he'll be with me throughout my pregnancy, but after birth he's leaving me alone for one month to adjust to the baby. I bought more clothes for the baby last weekend and he went on a rant about how I'm going to miscarry since I'm buying stuff already (to his defense my mom says the same thing). All of a sudden he has admitted to hating children as soon he saw my positive pregnancy test. This little one is both our first and I'm hoping he's just scared right now. I sure do love this man though.

claireloSC · May 2015

Oh man some of these stories made me lol so hard. All the eye rolls to partners who complain about the tiny things they have to do while you incubate their baby. Ugh. My struggle with my wife is my mood swings. She keeps laughing at me for "acting crazy" and I want to punch her.

vvitchhazel · May 2015

Man, I almost feel guilty about how great my guy has been now that I'm reading what you ladies are going through. He does the cat litter without complaining, he does all the laundry, washes the dishes, keeps the kitchen clean, does all the cooking, and cleans the larger bathroom. I just vacuum and clean the smaller bathroom... I've been having issues with what I'm able to eat so tonight he went and got me a grilled cheese, mashed potatoes and gravy, and a pint of ice cream. So sweet!

But then again, I did say that I ALMOST feel guilty... While he's been super supportive and sweet, he did say something that really hurt my feelings. After asking my opinion on whether or not he should buy something, I said we really needed to watch our spending habits because we're gonna have some upcoming costs with the LO. I shit you not, he says, "Well, we're not buying anything for a couple months in case the kid dies." I was so hurt and angry and I know he was mortified the second it came out of his mouth... It shocked me because he's been so great about everything. I know it's a fear thing, but I'm way more sensitive than he is and that was NOT the right approach.

babybean82 · May 2015

I have horrible morning sickness, I had it my whole pregnancy with ds and it's bad this pregnancy too. That being said I am so frustrated that dh gets annoyed and offended by things that make me gag and puke. He put a new air freshener in my car the other day and the smell of it made me gag so much I couldn't stand being in the car. He fought with me over it telling me it wasn't that bad even though I was gagging over it. And today he cooked himself lunch that stunk up the whole house yet got all pissed off that the smell had me puking in the bathroom half the day.

MaMinette13 · May 2015

@babybean82 My DH was getting all offended when his dinners were making me gag! I don't understand it!

kimber308 · May 2015

My husband thinks that morning sickness is a myth. Our friends that were pregnant in the past are generously dramatic individuals, so he thinks the whole thing is a myth. To make matters worse, I wasn't nauseous at all until yesterday. Now he is saying that I must be dramatic just like them. He says he is joking, but there's a little truth in every just kidding.

svnna94 · May 2015

Hear my sarcasm pretense...Don't you just love when DH points out how lazy you've been due to morning sickness? This is my first pregnancy and Idk how normal it is to vomit everyday all day with morning sickness but I'm definitely not exaggerating. My DH has seen me at my worst and still complains that the house is a mess and theres no clean laundry! That there are so many pregnant women out there that can do it all. Hmmm okay, do you not see my face buried in the waste basket all day? Do you not have two hands of your own and a capable brain? Do you want me to rip your face off? I already feel bad that MS is getting the best of me with out him whining about how much of a mess the house is and how I'm over exaggerating. I would love to be catered to and cared for right now, but the likelihood of that ever happening, probably slim to none. I just wish I had a more sympathetic spouse.

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Heron422 · May 2015

5 cats here, I still do the litter boxes since there is no chance for toxoplasmosis (strictly indoor), but I stopped doing it every single day....DH likes to "gently" remind me that it needs to be done. I'd like to gently remind him he can do it his damn self too, along with the dishes, vacuuming, and a little dusting wouldn't hurt. I still work 40 hours a week while he might put in 20 as a realtor. The rest if his time is spent playing video games. I wish he would just grow up. I love him so much, but he can be such a misogynist pig. He grew up with a SAHM, and while I have the utmost respect for it, I am the one working my butt off all day and he is the one working from home. Step up!!!!! What happens when the baby comes? He is in for a rude awakening. Vent over.

Edit: angry spelling

MollyA1011 · May 2015

Omg I thought it was just my husband acting like a total jerk! Then he always says, " I thought you weren't going to treat this like a disability". And then I feel as if I could just kick him where it hurts. That is if I have time to kick him bc I'm sure I'll have my head in the toilet first.

Mommyduclos · May 2015

I love my husband and he is great but he needs his beauty sleep- there's just no getting around that, mostly I deal but sometimes I get irritated.Lately I'm up multiple times at night with our toddlers (I'm sleep training our youngest) my son rarely wakes, but if he does it's me that tends to him, and I'm up early with morning sickness and a cold while he sleeps in. Sigh

karenmartiinn · May 2015

My husband has been giving me a hard time about how much I've been sleeping , this is our first pregnancy and never In a million years did I think I would feel like I ran a marathon everyday ! And to top it off having to deal with morning sickness and A cold I can't shake off ughhh , his response ?? "You have to stop sleeping so much , you need to get out of your funk" umm sorry that I feel like complete crap and don't feel good BUT I am carrying your baby !! But thankfully he cooks,cleans, and walks our dog when I don't have the energy or the stomach for it without even asking

Myelhsa · May 2015

My DH has been helping put up a beautiful new privacy fence the past 2 days. It looks great!

However, today he asked me what time I wanted to go to the gym to which I responded, "Actually, I'm really exhausted, I think I'm gonna take today off."

So he says, "YOU'RE EXHAUSTED?! What have you even been doing?!"

Oh I don't know....just making your first born. No big deal.

Soooo, I'm writing you all from a treadmill...

l4rk · May 2015

My SO was creeping into some dangerous territory this morning when I was telling him that I was eating before making breakfast for our guests because otherwise I will feel sick. He started to say, "I think everyone gets like that--I feel grpss before breakfast too" but then he quickly saw the err of his ways and amended his statement with, "but it's probably worse for you right now."

He also FINALLY acknowledged I'm pregnant on Saturday, completely on his own. We were in a parking lot and there was an "Expectant Mothers" parking spot, and he was like, "You qualify to park there now!" (Don't worry, I know it's for really pregnant women...) I was so excited that he said that; it sounds like he's coming around and starting to accept that chances are good we ARE having a baby!

ChipMonster · May 2015

Mommyduclos said:
I love my husband and he is great but he needs his beauty sleep- there's just no getting around that, mostly I deal but sometimes I get irritated.Lately I'm up multiple times at night with our toddlers (I'm sleep training our youngest) my son rarely wakes, but if he does it's me that tends to him, and I'm up early with morning sickness and a cold while he sleeps in. Sigh

Oh my god! This!!! DS started waking up again a couple of weeks ago and last night I was up for an hour trying to get him to fall back asleep. As soon as I made it back to my room, he woke up again. I asked DH if he could go and try to put him to sleep and he said "can't you just do it? You're already awake"
Arggghhh I was not very happy. I'm tiiiired!

raclark77 · May 2015

I don't have anything to complain about YET... and that's because my fiancé works 2 jobs and plays golf in between...so while he's out of my hair doing what he loves to do I'm guilt free doing what I want to do and that's laying in bed watching L&M movies.
Now come late fall/ winter I'll come back and give you guys some really good rants lol. People have told us we would make a #1 reality show haha

kattowns0116 · May 2015

My very sick DH coughed in my face in his sleep. I want to strangle him I'm so mad....

amargaret24 · May 2015

My SO has actually turned a leaf since I posted this. He is acknowledging I am pregnant and being sympathetic about my neverending nausea. We work together so it's nice to have some sympathy and affirmations that my struggle is SO real. Though, being that we are on tour and musicians loveeee to drink - he AGAIN got drunk two nights ago and didn't brush his teeth and smelled like an effin hobo yesterday morning. Then on our drive to the Austin airport, he slept on my lap for two hours, stinky and snoring. THEN I gave him window seat (which he always gives me) and I prayed for a small person to take the aisle seat and it was the biggest, most obnoxious man! He wanted to chit chat the whole time and I just wanted to watch Bravo. Meanwhile my fiance slept like a champ. I wanna sleep!!! I am tired! Oh well, I told him he sucked yesterday and he has been super sweet since. He just needs to watch his drinking I guess..........

Heron422 · May 2015

Spent 7 hours in the ER last night because I started bleeding. The first 2.5 hours were in the waiting room and then 2.5 more in a "fast track" room, where no one knew if I'd gotten a US yet or not, and sat with a full bladder threatening to pee the bed. DH was pretty good up to this point, and then it was all about him. "My head hurts, I'm tired, I'm hungry, I'm dizzy." Ok dear, go get some food then. "I don't know, that sandwich in the vending machine looked questionable." Go out and get something, I'm not going anywhere. "No... I'll be ok." UGHHH. Finally got the US and saw the baby was ok, thank goodness!! Then spent 2 more hours waiting to get discharged. I was totally fine waiting, it's a hospital, I asked for it. The nurses and staff were incredibly nice and apologetic, but I get it, there are more important emergencies than a threatened miscarriage they can't do anything about. I'm just happy the baby is still ok, just making a placenta. But man, I only need one baby in my life right now.

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