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Depression- one week until delivery

Jenny33Jenny33 member
edited May 2015 in May 2015 Moms
I have one week left until my scheduled c-section. All this week I have been depressed... Not because of the c section though.
When I had my c section before I felt so abandoned by everyone. Before delivery everyone says "I will help"... After delivery everyone was so excited about the baby that I felt like no one even cares that I had major surgery and was dealing with the emotions of no longer being pregnant, learning to breastfeed, etc.
I talked to my DH about this the other day And he was like " don't worry, I'll take care of you." That night I asked him to take out the recycling( which is my job and have done throughout pregnancy) because it is so hard at 38 weeks. He forgot. How am I supposed to be reassured that it will be any different after the baby comes?

In addition, I'm depressed because I feel like by the time I am able to function again it will be middle to end of July, summer will be almost over. Sad that my son won't have his normal mom. I'm nervous about breastfeeding. Angry that the c section could interfere with my first nursing. I could go on, but I won't.

I feel like no one understands. I feel guilty for being depressed when I should be so happy.

I know this is just the beginning. I had depression after delivery last time too for many of the same reasons( feeling abandoned).

Is anyone else experiencing this? What can I do?
I hate that I can't "just get over it" .
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Re: Depression- one week until delivery

  • bean8213bean8213 member
    Talk to your doctor and be open to taking anti depressants.
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  • lestes1121lestes1121 member
    Talk to your doctor about all these things bad feelings. It's normal to be scared and nervous but it seems maybe you need help coping. Which is nothing to be ashamed of. I have battled depression in the past and it takes getting help to conquer it.
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  • lestes1121lestes1121 member
    Ment all these things and feelings. NOT BAD feelings. Sorry for the typo
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  • ladyteach0505ladyteach0505 member
    edited May 2015
    I think these are very normal concerns based on my experience thus far.  I have felt incredibly let down by the lack of support from my mom and family.  If it weren't for DH I wouldn't have gotten through the first few weeks- literally- because who the hell could have driven to get groceries, pick up things for the baby, and feed us. 

    I would talk to your doctor- not just about medication- but about finding resources to help you.  I think it's easy to say "check into medication", but you also need to feel supported by people one way or another.
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  • lola2beelola2bee member
    I went through the same thing with my first and found a local moms group that helped tremendously. Just an idea!!
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  • klaG101klaG101 member
    Find a local group is a great idea, or even just a friend to talk to. But mostly don't beat your self up for feeling this way! I promise your not alone. The best thing I can suggest is to talk about your feelings don't let them build up inside because it will drag you down more. So whoever you can talk to your SO, your friends, a dr, us on the boards, local group, family etc. just find someone. Wishing you the very best of luck❤️
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