Taken for granted

SharLovesAlex · May 2015

Let me start by saying how much I love my LO. My baby boy is such a blessing in my life. I'm happy I'm a mother.

But, I do miss the days when I could take a shower that lasted longer than 3 minutes. I miss shaving my legs and keeping things groomed if you know what I mean. I miss being able to wash my hair leisurely. I miss being able to enjoy my food when I eat it. I've been home with him now for 2 months and as happy as I am to be home with him, it's really hard to be home with him by myself. I can't get anything done really, so housecleaning is not happening. My husband doesn't mind doing the cooking and cleaning when he gets home from work, but I miss doing those things. I'm a little envious of him getting to fall asleep when he wants and shower as long as he wants. I know it sounds selfish, I just really took for granted all those little things. Now, I'm lucky if I can get in the shower before 3:00 p.m. Anyone else feeling this way, or am I just incredibly selfish?

takerany · May 2015

I feel the same way 100%
And on top of everything you mentioned I had surgery about 6 weeks about and my daughter is 12 weeks old today. So things haven't been easy and my husband does the same as yours. I'm exclusively breastfeeding and barely see the light of the outside world. Only when I go fly walks with my baby or to the store due to my healing process

SharLovesAlex · May 2015

takerany said:
I feel the same way 100%
And on top of everything you mentioned I had surgery about 6 weeks about and my daughter is 12 weeks old today. So things haven't been easy and my husband does the same as yours. I'm exclusively breastfeeding and barely see the light of the outside world. Only when I go fly walks with my baby or to the store due to my healing process

I'm also EBF, so when we go to the market or have an outing, I'm so glad to be able to get out of the house. But it's still so hard because I can't even get ready leisurely, I curl half my hair then have to hold LO because he's crying too much with daddy. He loves holding him, but if he's really wailing, I take him to calm him down. It's just so hard, feeling cooped up (because he's only 2 months I don't want to expose him too much too soon) and having to limit how often we go out. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade him for all the time in the world. Just saying I really took for granted how nice it is to take your time getting ready, how nice it is to enjoy a meal with your husband, even how nice it feels to have freshly shaved legs (among other things). I had to wash my hair at 11:00 the other night because I had to wait til the baby was asleep...and he woke up and I could hear him crying so I had to take him and feed him and leave my Brazilian blow out treatment on a bit too long haha. So many things I miss...just miss them, wouldn't trade them for him so I hope no one mistakes me or thinks me selfish.

sugargrenade · May 2015

you're absolutely not alone. it's really hard BUT it doesn't last. i promise, it gets easier.

noodlienoodles · May 2015

Oh yes! I miss being able to eat a hot meal! The sweet little smiles I get from my baby girl make it all worth it though.

Mic512 · May 2015

If you don't have one invest in a vibrating bouncy chair. With DS it's the only way I could eat or shower. Kept him happy long enough to throw in some laundry or other short chores. It does not last forever but I think your feelings are very normal

TwinsCitiesMomma · May 2015

Diddo! I miss having control if my life and I miss not being worried/stressed all the time.

jschnavis · May 2015

My husband gets to have long showers too and I am always jumping in and jumping out 2 minutes later. My husband is on helping with nights and I feel more sane but it is difficult.

SharLovesAlex · May 2015

Mic512 said:
If you don't have one invest in a vibrating bouncy chair. With DS it's the only way I could eat or shower. Kept him happy long enough to throw in some laundry or other short chores. It does not last forever but I think your feelings are very normal

Have one...and it keeps him occupied for a while, but not nearly long enough!

Sugarplum0217 · May 2015

SharLovesAlex said:

takerany said:
I feel the same way 100%
And on top of everything you mentioned I had surgery about 6 weeks about and my daughter is 12 weeks old today. So things haven't been easy and my husband does the same as yours. I'm exclusively breastfeeding and barely see the light of the outside world. Only when I go fly walks with my baby or to the store due to my healing process
I'm also EBF, so when we go to the market or have an outing, I'm so glad to be able to get out of the house. But it's still so hard because I can't even get ready leisurely, I curl half my hair then have to hold LO because he's crying too much with daddy. He loves holding him, but if he's really wailing, I take him to calm him down. It's just so hard, feeling cooped up (because he's only 2 months I don't want to expose him too much too soon) and having to limit how often we go out. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade him for all the time in the world. Just saying I really took for granted how nice it is to take your time getting ready, how nice it is to enjoy a meal with your husband, even how nice it feels to have freshly shaved legs (among other things). I had to wash my hair at 11:00 the other night because I had to wait til the baby was asleep...and he woke up and I could hear him crying so I had to take him and feed him and leave my Brazilian blow out treatment on a bit too long haha. So many things I miss...just miss them, wouldn't trade them for him so I hope no one mistakes me or thinks me selfish.

What type of treatment are you using for your hair? FYI Brazilian blowouts are not safe while breastfeeding.

SharLovesAlex · May 2015

Chuggles1013 said:

SharLovesAlex said:

takerany said:
I feel the same way 100%
And on top of everything you mentioned I had surgery about 6 weeks about and my daughter is 12 weeks old today. So things haven't been easy and my husband does the same as yours. I'm exclusively breastfeeding and barely see the light of the outside world. Only when I go fly walks with my baby or to the store due to my healing process
I'm also EBF, so when we go to the market or have an outing, I'm so glad to be able to get out of the house. But it's still so hard because I can't even get ready leisurely, I curl half my hair then have to hold LO because he's crying too much with daddy. He loves holding him, but if he's really wailing, I take him to calm him down. It's just so hard, feeling cooped up (because he's only 2 months I don't want to expose him too much too soon) and having to limit how often we go out. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade him for all the time in the world. Just saying I really took for granted how nice it is to take your time getting ready, how nice it is to enjoy a meal with your husband, even how nice it feels to have freshly shaved legs (among other things). I had to wash my hair at 11:00 the other night because I had to wait til the baby was asleep...and he woke up and I could hear him crying so I had to take him and feed him and leave my Brazilian blow out treatment on a bit too long haha. So many things I miss...just miss them, wouldn't trade them for him so I hope no one mistakes me or thinks me selfish.
What type of treatment are you using for your hair? FYI Brazilian blowouts are not safe while breastfeeding.

It's a spray that you spray on before flat ironing. Not an actual Brazilian blow out. I knew that it wasn't safe. So I just use the flat iron spray.

sj3019 · May 2015

Nope! You're not the only one. I feel the same. But in my case if I even say a word about how I feel I get the "you wanned a baby, why are you complaining" crap thrown my way. I wish men were a little more understanding.

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