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Being hard on myself with weight gain

leslieabrown8leslieabrown8 member
in November 2015 Moms
hey everyone i know healthy weight gain is crucial to a healthy baby but I just feel like I'm gaining weight so fast! I eat very healthy and have just made sure to never skip breakfast (an old habit of mine) and to snack as I need to but no huge changes and I've already gained 11 pounds at 14 weeks I gained two in the last two days..! This is my first pregnancy and I did suffer from eating disorders in my past so it could be body dysmorphia but anyways is anyone else dealing with this? Thank u!
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  • NanGarlowNanGarlow member
    i ate normally for my last pregnancy and literally gained 2 lb a week for the whole pregnancy. I haven't weighed in yet but i notice that I'm definitely showing and not just in the belly. my bra band is getting uncomfortable and my ass has grown. i was told that 1 lb a week is reasonable. so you're actually right on track. don't worry about weight that comes on quickly in pregnancy like that because its been my experience that when it comes on quickly because of a baby it comes off quickly after the baby is born with very little work involved. 

    i can relate to the body dysmorphia as well - and just wanted to say that this is a hard issue for every single pregnant woman to cope with - the body changes. I think its fair to say that every single woman who ever bore a child ever in life ever - experienced a certain degree of discomfort, uncertainty, and general concern for the changes that were happening to their body shape because of pregnancy. And if its your first baby it is also my experience that there are small permanent changes. stretch marks, varicose veins, some people's feet grow, i knew a lady whose nose actually widened! My sister lost a bunch of hair along her hairline...weird things happen from having babies and not all of them are pretty.... But those are like - the evidence that you did this great work of bringing forward another soul into life. 

    Rest assured though that 11 pounds in 14 weeks is a good number according to my midwives and my OB.
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  • LauraK33LauraK33 member
    Please don't be hard on yourself - I know this is hard!

    I have a history of an eating disorder. Because of this, I got rid of the scale at our house and do not look at the doctors. I told the Dr about my history and he has agreed to not share my weight unless there is a problem one way or the other. This way, I can focus my energy on gaining what I need to for these little ones. 

    Change happens, but know that after your little one arrives, you can work back to where you were...most of the changes are temporary!

    You've got this! Hope that helps a little!
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  • VexyMommyVexyMommy member
    I have a hard time with this and have also banished the scale at my house so I don't get obsessed.  I go from wanting to stay skinny (not possible during pregnancy) to wanting a cute bump to worrying about gaining too much weight.  (It's a bit crowded in my head.  lol.)  It's hard, but give yourself some slack.  Each of us gains weight differently and at different rates.  As long as you're eating healthy and your doctor isn't worried about it, everything health related is fine. 

    If it's possible for you, it may be good to talk to a counselor about your issues.  With an eating disorder in your past and all of the many, many triggers for anxiety/control related disorders during pregnancy it might be good to talk to someone about your feelings while they're still in a manageable stage. 
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  • leslieabrown8leslieabrown8 member
    Thank you all so much!! This has helped more than you know!! Knowing that this is normal and I'm not alone gives me a lot of piece of mind!! I think getting rid of the scale is a really good idea and I also am going to seek out a counselor as well thank you all so very much for reaching out! This is a beautiful thing and I just need to focus on that I know my body is going to change and just finding peace with that is what I'm trying to do this isn't about me anymore and seeking out help is ok:) again thank u all so much this really helped me!!!
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  • riott1977riott1977 member
    I have gained 14 pounds in 14 weeks, I also feel like it is too much, but It is what it is.  I guess I am just gaining more than is expected.  This is my 3rd pregnancy, I only gained 12 pounds total with my first pregnancy, but I was only 18.  I gained 30 with my second, and I was 22.  Now I am 38, and I think it will just be more.  

    I was very physically fit coming into this pregnancy, but I have had constant bleeding, so my doctor has told me not to exercise.  I am eating very healthy foods like I always did before, a few cheats here and there, but nothing terrible.  I think I am just going to gain a lot, or maybe it will calm down in the second trimester. 
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  • SJFTCASJFTCA member
    I'm sorry you feel this way. But as PPs have said, we are all different. I weigh myself once a week, and up until 14 weeks, I had only gained two pounds. But when I weighed myself at 14 weeks, I had gained three pounds in one week! I, too, am hoping that it slows down. I didn't do anything differently last week, so who knows. As long as you know that you are doing what you can do to be healthy, I wouldn't worry.

    Btw, I'm NOT eating very healthy, but I am exercising, so kudos to you for sticking to a healthier diet!
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  • kmkrushikmkrushi member
    I agree with other posters. Don't let the number on the scale get to you. You've changed your eating habits and your body has to adjust to it. Adding to that a baby and hormonal changes weight gain is inevitable and healthy. I like what what @LauraK33 is doing with her doctor. Maybe you should think about doing this too?
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  • wedding crazedwedding crazed member
    I wouldn't be hard on yourself. Weight gain can start to slow down. If it's a problem your Dr. will let you know. You don't need to beat yourself up.
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  • Momof2boyz4nowMomof2boyz4now member
    This is my 3rd pregnancy...and final for that matter. I feel like weight is a struggle before and most def after having the baby. Just trust your doctor to flag any concerns and give yourself time to lose whatever weight you do gain. I have always believed in giving myself till the 1st bday to lose pregnancy pounds. It's not fair to put pressure on yourself to lose weight when u should be enjoying your new addition. So enjoy your pregnancy, embrace the changes, good and not so flattering) and know it's all worth it!!
    I am personally excited to fully reclaim my body after this pregnancy and after I complete nursing
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  • VexyMommyVexyMommy member
    As far as afterwards goes, nursing burns a ton of calories and if I didn't go out and take long walks with my new baby I got cabin fever.  Every woman is different, but mine came off pretty easily.  Note - I was also only 21 at the time and don't expect it to be the same kind of cake walk this time. 
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  • DrMommaDVMDrMommaDVM member
    I gained 60# with both of my first two pregnancies. I lost almost all of the weight from both, slowly over about 1 to 1.5 years.

    I found with both that I hung onto the last 10 or so until I weaned them.

    Try to eat well and be active, but don't freak out over weight gain. Some of us just gain a lot. Even though I'm down in weight at this point I've already accepted the fact that I'm going to be fat again for another year of my life. Oh well. My boobs will be big, so there's that.
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