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Frustrated and Guilty

tebebethtebebeth member
in December 2015 Moms
This is a bit of a rant. Dh used to do dishes, and I would do litter. My gyno instructed me to stop doing litter under any circumstances. That means I'm in charge of dishes.

I'm in week 9, and I'm nauseated every day. I've been nauseated every day since week 3. I dont throw up, but I also can't stand up for long periods of time. I've tried the BRAT diet, and everything else I can think of, and it won't stop.

Dh has been helping, bringing me things when I can't get up. When I told him today I didnt think I could do dishes, though, he gave me a death glare.

I feel guilty because I'm not throwing up, just nauseated, and it seems so "delicate flower" of me.

Does anyone have thoughts? Please be honest, if I'm being a wuss and need my butt kicked maybe someone going through the same thing telling me to toughen up will help.
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  • lmgagliardi@hotmail.comlmgagliardi@hotmail.com member
    Nope I gag when I even go near the sink! Honestly you are pregnant! DH needs to man up and instead of swapping jobs he should be doing both!
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  • mrsadams0526mrsadams0526 member
    edited May 2015
    There have been more days than not when I just feel so sick I can't do much. I am also extremely nauseated with not much vomiting, but the nausea alone can kick your butt! My DH has been extremely helpful, though. He has done more cleaning and picking up lately than I think he's ever had to do in the last 6 years. I actually joked with him today and told him that he's turned into a great housewife lately. I don't know what I'd do if my husband wasn't so supportive and helpful.
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  • tebebethtebebeth member
    Honestly, I'm really glad I'm not the only one crazy nauseated without much throwing up. I feel like a faker. Thank you both.
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  • vppittmanvppittman member
    I feel nauseated doing the dishes when I'm not pregnant! Don't beat yourself up! I'm sure he'll forget all about all of the things he has had to do for you as soon as he sets eyes on LO! Get some rest!
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  • tewinkle27tewinkle27 member
    Some men have a hard time being sympathetic!
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  • Praying41Praying41 member
    I had 3 really bad weeks where even looking at a dirty dish made me nauseous. DH did all the cooking n cleaning. Thank God! You aren't being a wuss. I haven't thrown up but it feels aweful! I'm getting better and cooked my first meal yesterday. With all we go through the least our OH can do is help more during first trimester.
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  • Brooke2327Brooke2327 member
    I was very nauseous (never actually threw up) until I was 9.5 weeks and I also had next to no appetite for anything but ice cream. The way our household works is hubby makes the money and pays the bills I cook dinner everynight and keep the house clean. He got pretty upset quite a few times bc I've been buying frozen pizzas or easy meals like that which he's just simply not used to and our house wouldn't be the spotlessness he's becomed accustomed to living in. So there were lots of fights but at 9.5 weeks I was feeling much better and our household is back to normal.. Now I'm dreading after the baby comes where he seriously won't be living up to the standards he's used to
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  • ketobabyketobaby member
    I understand how you feel. I'm not vomiting but feeling nauseous as heck and its best I lay down. Your DH needs to realize that those little chores is nothing when it comes to creating a human being. Your pulling the biggest load on the house. Don't be afraid to remind him that.
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  • Brooke2327Brooke2327 member
    Oh also I told my husband my body is doing more work while I'm sitting on the couch then yours would be doing if you were running a marathon.
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  • beccabeeeebeccabeeee member
    Nope I don't blame you, I can't go near the dishes either let alone the kitchen...I stear clear of the kitchen all together and have the husband get me stuff when I need it lol
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  • MelissadmagMelissadmag member
    Guys make me so crazy. He should be doing both, really is it so much to ask him to step up for a bit while you're baking his child for him that is currently making you feel terrible? It may not look like you're doing anything or going through anything to the outside world, but he should be more understanding and oh heaven forbid actually do both the dishes and the litter (as if that's asking so much of him). gahh. It's doctor's orders that you don't do the litter, but also if making you go near the sink makes you want to hurl or pass out then is it really asking so much that he man up and do the dishes? Okay sorry I think I just had a hormone filled rant at your DH and I apologize but gaahh men make me so angry sometimes lol. 
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  • tebebethtebebeth member
    Haha, thank you all. I feel so much less crazy and lazy now. I'll work on no guilt, because feeling guilty about not being able to stand up, not being able to stand up, and not being able to work full days because I can't stand up are a lot of things right now.

    Can't wait til the second trimester!
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  • KatiemstarKatiemstar member
    He should suck it up and just do it lol it's not like you'll be nauseous forever so if he could just help you out until then that'd be really nice of him.

    Also just a tip for the nauseous ones! I was also very nauseous but I never threw up. But the mornings killed me. On Thursday I turned 10 weeks. I went to whole foods and bought some probiotics and fish oil. I took them at night before bed along with my prenatal and I woke up and NO more nausea!! I didn't have any Friday Sarurday or Sunday. I'm not sure if it was the vitamins or just that I hit a breaking point in the pregnancy. I guess we'll see if it's the same tomorrow when I wake up early for work. (It always seems to be worse during the week).
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