Help please cant decide c section vs episiotomy

lully25 · May 2015

iam an ftm am 38 weeks 2 days pregnant am due on 29th of may
I worked until this week from 8 am to 5:30 pm,my dr said i have no signs of natural birth and i will probably need a c section because of my sedentary style ,she advised having sex and dancing but i am so big and exausted and i cant do it..am afraid of natural birth as they do episiotomies directly here and i heard horrible stories about the recovery from both procedurs,plus am really shy and i dont want people watching me during vaginal delivery and all my family members want to be present at birth although i told them the only people allowed in l&d is my husband but they dont understand ,so scared i dont know what to do, i want to let my body do it and i want the baby to stay longer inside but am afraid i will go through the pain of labour and ending up with tears episiotomies and c section, did anybody go through this struggle?? Any advice how to cope?

Knottie54288128 · May 2015

Tell your nurse you don't want anyone else in the room. They'll keep them out. I would listen to your doctor about the c-section if he/she thinks it's necessary. Episiotomies aren't so bad, they'll stitch you back up and it'll hurt for a bit, but no more so than a c-section.

joeyswife7714 · May 2015

I had a class 2 episiotomy and then my daughter tore me to a class 4...I ended up with 42 stitches...the first say 4 days were horrible, after that it was just itchy and annoying due to healing. I'm a STM And they were really shocked I tore that bad. But do whatever your doctor thinks is best, he/she has yours and your child's best interest at heart. Good luck.

dancegurl1118 · May 2015

I find so so many things wrong with all of this. I'm really side eyeing your doctor for telling you that your "sedentary" life means you need a c-section. That is utter baloney. There is no guarantee you need an episiotomy either. Seriously your doctor is making me cringe.

Also-- tell your family no, or tell them that there's a limit of visitors. This is your labor not your family's. There is nothing wrong with being a private person but there is something wrong with feeling like your vagina is a spectacle because your whole family is watching your birth.

This is YOUR body and YOUR baby and unless either are in danger during your labor you have the right to refuse interventions.

cawleyva · May 2015

Your still almost 2 weeks away. Give it time

lyefimova · May 2015

It is so important that u r comfortable at the time of labor. Tell your family they can not be there. Give the nurse staff instructions to keep them out. Also it works best not to tell anyone you r on the way to hospital and be like woops, so much going on when you are in labor didn't think about calling. As far as being cut. I would do vaginal birth and see if any intervention is needed. Hope u don't need any

CanadaMom17 · May 2015

Episiotomy vs. a major surgery. That really shouldn't be up for debate, since you do know you'll have lots of stitches from the c-section? And be restricted from what you can lift, etc for several weeks? It's completely different if it's medically necessary, but imo, your doctor is an idiot.

Try going for walks as some exercise, as much as you can. Again, who tells a 38 week pregnant lady to take up dancing?

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