Frustrated can you help??

maura+c · May 2015

I'm just upset right now because I've been on bedrest for 10 weeks and haven't been to do anything. My husband has been great doing things around the house, taking care of my kiddo etc. He keeps saying the bedrest is not getting to him, but I can certainly tell it is. He's tired from work all day and then has to take over toddler duties. He grunts and moans, but never admits he's upset.
He is now going out with his buddies for a Friday fun night and I'm so jealous!! I know he needs a break and is doing the best he can at home. I just can't help, but be upset about it. My question to y'all is- am I being irrational about being jealous of him going out and leaving me at home with the baby? Or should he have every right to go have fun with his friends and I'm just being hormonal?

kmd91 · May 2015

He should be able to go out and have his time to destress. That doesn't mean that I don't totally get where you're coming from about being upset. I know that it's gotta suck for you, and I'm sure I would be annoyed if I were in your shoes. But, since you know that taking over everything has been hard on him, maybe him having a night to take a break will be really beneficial to both of you.

MoRay05 · May 2015

Let him go out and have a little fun! Sounds like he needs it. And sounds like you need a girls night too.

maura+c · May 2015

Mshrader05 said:
Let him go out and have a little fun! Sounds like he needs it. And sounds like you need a girls night too.

Exactly, I would love a girls night. Actually, I would love to be with my best friend right now who's having a c-section Sunday morning and is going to need all the help she can get, but we live 5hrs away from each other and being on bedrest means you can't be upright (especially for that long) I'm just sick of being stuck! It is no fun! I'm such an active person and I can't do anything

elbou · May 2015

maura+c said:

Mshrader05 said:
Let him go out and have a little fun! Sounds like he needs it. And sounds like you need a girls night too.
Exactly, I would love a girls night. Actually, I would love to be with my best friend right now who's having a c-section Sunday morning and is going to need all the help she can get, but we live 5hrs away from each other and being on bedrest means you can't be upright (especially for that long) I'm just sick of being stuck! It is no fun! I'm such an active person and I can't do anything

This sounds so frustrating. It's hard being away from friends when you want to be around to support them.

I've never been on bedrest, so forgive me if these are completely impractical ideas, but would it be possible to have a girls night in? Like in your room with you? Invite some friends over, set up a t.v. and video system (I imagine you might already have that set up though!) get some snacks...popcorn/candy/chocolate/chips/whatever junk food you've been craving...and have a movie night with your best gal pals in the area. Or skip the movie, and have a mini-at-home-spa party...or play boards games...or whatever sounds fun that you can do in your home/bedroom.

If possible, try to plan for a babysitter, so that your hubby can out with his friends at the same time. He totally deserves to have some time off to relax, especially if the strain is getting to him. Even a small break can do wonders.

maura+c · May 2015

Thanks for all y'all's support! I have accepted him going out and it's fine. That is a great idea! Never thought of a girls night on before. Sounds like an amazing idea! Il certainly invite a few over. Does sound like fun. Thank you for your suggestions and I do realize from the posts that I was jealous/hormonal..

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