80% effaced and 2cm

daniellewhitehouse · May 2015

had my first internal today at 37 weeks... I am a first time mom. Dr said I was lowest than last week so she wanted to check me and she said I was 2cm and 80% effaced.

Then told me she was going out of town this weekend.. Ahhhh! I can't have this baby this weekend! I need my doctor there ha-ha! She said that I won't go this weekend but that I also won't go over 40 weeks.

What stage are others at? Has anyone been in my situation... If so how long before you had your baby?

klkonwi · May 2015

We have a weekly appointment thread.

maybe add this there.

HayesRN13 · May 2015

This does not predict when baby will come.. You could be early or late, dilated and effaced or not. You could have been like this for weeks already. I really wish OBs wouldn't do cervical checks unless there was a reason... Because it never fails so many people start coming in to L&D and the first twinge thinking they are already dilated so it must be time, only to get sent home multiple times. NO ONE can predict when baby will come.. Dilated or not

medicmomma6115 · May 2015

I was 36 w 4 days Monday at my appointment and I checked in at 3cm & 50% effaced. Lost my MP this morning.

laurendutch · May 2015

My friend was at 90% effaced and 5 cm for two weeks...just no active labor! So it doesn't mean much until active labor starts. But she did deliver within 2 hours!

coreysibs · May 2015

@HayesRN13 I understand that you are a RN and see this all of the time but for some of the women on this thread, it is new and exciting. They want to talk about it and play the what if game or see where other women that may be at the same point in their pregnancy are at to compare. I'm sure everyone on here knows that you can't predict when someone will go into labor. We have absolutely no control over it but for some women, hearing what worked for others (such as walking, sex, etc.) is helpful so that we can feel some sense of control or that we are able to help pass the time in some way. We all are impatient and excited, of course we want to talk about our body getting closer to having our baby. There is no need to put someone down for using this app or thread as intended by asking and talking to other mothers about things that you are going through, thinking about, or struggling with. If you can't talk to other mother's about it, who do you have to bounce ideas or thoughts off of? Yes sometimes I can seem repetitive when each woman posts her own post about her progress or lack there of but if they are annoying to you, then just don't click on them or read them. Let other mother's who can give advice or reassuring thoughts or ideas to that mom without putting them down or making them feel dumb for asking.

virginiaunicorn11 · May 2015

coreysibs said:
@HayesRN13 I understand that you are a RN and see this all of the time but for some of the women on this thread, it is new and exciting. They want to talk about it and play the what if game or see where other women that may be at the same point in their pregnancy are at to compare. I'm sure everyone on here knows that you can't predict when someone will go into labor. We have absolutely no control over it but for some women, hearing what worked for others (such as walking, sex, etc.) is helpful so that we can feel some sense of control or that we are able to help pass the time in some way. We all are impatient and excited, of course we want to talk about our body getting closer to having our baby. There is no need to put someone down for using this app or thread as intended by asking and talking to other mothers about things that you are going through, thinking about, or struggling with. If you can't talk to other mother's about it, who do you have to bounce ideas or thoughts off of? Yes sometimes I can seem repetitive when each woman posts her own post about her progress or lack there of but if they are annoying to you, then just don't click on them or read them. Let other mother's who can give advice or reassuring thoughts or ideas to that mom without putting them down or making them feel dumb for asking.

So, um, where's your helpful response and advice in this?
@jillholt80 here's a chance to be uplifting! Post away!

HayesRN13 · May 2015

I was in no way putting anyone down..

KaLikeAWind · May 2015

amark11 said:

coreysibs said:
@HayesRN13 I understand that you are a RN and see this all of the time but for some of the women on this thread, it is new and exciting. They want to talk about it and play the what if game or see where other women that may be at the same point in their pregnancy are at to compare. I'm sure everyone on here knows that you can't predict when someone will go into labor. We have absolutely no control over it but for some women, hearing what worked for others (such as walking, sex, etc.) is helpful so that we can feel some sense of control or that we are able to help pass the time in some way. We all are impatient and excited, of course we want to talk about our body getting closer to having our baby. There is no need to put someone down for using this app or thread as intended by asking and talking to other mothers about things that you are going through, thinking about, or struggling with. If you can't talk to other mother's about it, who do you have to bounce ideas or thoughts off of? Yes sometimes I can seem repetitive when each woman posts her own post about her progress or lack there of but if they are annoying to you, then just don't click on them or read them. Let other mother's who can give advice or reassuring thoughts or ideas to that mom without putting them down or making them feel dumb for asking.
So, um, where's your helpful response and advice in this?

Yeah. All you did was put down someone who makes valuable, helpful, and insightful contributions regularly. Exactly where is your helpful advice, here?

raptorteaparty · May 2015

coreysibs said:
@HayesRN13 I understand that you are a RN and see this all of the time but for some of the women on this thread, it is new and exciting. They want to talk about it and play the what if game or see where other women that may be at the same point in their pregnancy are at to compare. I'm sure everyone on here knows that you can't predict when someone will go into labor. We have absolutely no control over it but for some women, hearing what worked for others (such as walking, sex, etc.) is helpful so that we can feel some sense of control or that we are able to help pass the time in some way. We all are impatient and excited, of course we want to talk about our body getting closer to having our baby. There is no need to put someone down for using this app or thread as intended by asking and talking to other mothers about things that you are going through, thinking about, or struggling with. If you can't talk to other mother's about it, who do you have to bounce ideas or thoughts off of? Yes sometimes I can seem repetitive when each woman posts her own post about her progress or lack there of but if they are annoying to you, then just don't click on them or read them. Let other mother's who can give advice or reassuring thoughts or ideas to that mom without putting them down or making them feel dumb for asking.

Are you serious? She literally answered her question.

Mommaswizz · May 2015

Eta gif fail but I fixed it..

Ladies we need to support these peeps who legit have posted 3 times and think this community is all about passing the time and supporting repetitive questions that no one but mother nature has the answers to

agapeflower117 · May 2015

A friend of mine was 2 cm dilated for three weeks, so it's possible. At my 39 week appointment with my first I was 2 cm dilated, and I ended up going into labor late that afternoon. It really is a crapshoot. But I hope that things work out the way you want them to! So excited for you!

hopefloats062015 · May 2015

amark11 said:

coreysibs said:
@HayesRN13 I understand that you are a RN and see this all of the time but for some of the women on this thread, it is new and exciting. They want to talk about it and play the what if game or see where other women that may be at the same point in their pregnancy are at to compare. I'm sure everyone on here knows that you can't predict when someone will go into labor. We have absolutely no control over it but for some women, hearing what worked for others (such as walking, sex, etc.) is helpful so that we can feel some sense of control or that we are able to help pass the time in some way. We all are impatient and excited, of course we want to talk about our body getting closer to having our baby. There is no need to put someone down for using this app or thread as intended by asking and talking to other mothers about things that you are going through, thinking about, or struggling with. If you can't talk to other mother's about it, who do you have to bounce ideas or thoughts off of? Yes sometimes I can seem repetitive when each woman posts her own post about her progress or lack there of but if they are annoying to you, then just don't click on them or read them. Let other mother's who can give advice or reassuring thoughts or ideas to that mom without putting them down or making them feel dumb for asking.
So, um, where's your helpful response and advice in this?
@jillholt80 here's a chance to be uplifting! Post away!

@amark11 - you apparently have a lot of time on your hands. It's my chance to be uplifting? How about its your chance to show off how tough you are on others' posts? That's why I just felt the need to private message you to see if you really have some issue. Maybe the pregnancy is messing with your brain...To post my acct name with a dick comment. Find something to do.
Sorry to anyone this offends, but I don't know this chick and she's acting a little too cool for me!

laurendutch · May 2015

jillholt80 said:

amark11 said:

coreysibs said:
@HayesRN13 I understand that you are a RN and see this all of the time but for some of the women on this thread, it is new and exciting. They want to talk about it and play the what if game or see where other women that may be at the same point in their pregnancy are at to compare. I'm sure everyone on here knows that you can't predict when someone will go into labor. We have absolutely no control over it but for some women, hearing what worked for others (such as walking, sex, etc.) is helpful so that we can feel some sense of control or that we are able to help pass the time in some way. We all are impatient and excited, of course we want to talk about our body getting closer to having our baby. There is no need to put someone down for using this app or thread as intended by asking and talking to other mothers about things that you are going through, thinking about, or struggling with. If you can't talk to other mother's about it, who do you have to bounce ideas or thoughts off of? Yes sometimes I can seem repetitive when each woman posts her own post about her progress or lack there of but if they are annoying to you, then just don't click on them or read them. Let other mother's who can give advice or reassuring thoughts or ideas to that mom without putting them down or making them feel dumb for asking.
So, um, where's your helpful response and advice in this?
@jillholt80 here's a chance to be uplifting! Post away!
@amark11 - you apparently have a lot of time on your hands. It's my chance to be uplifting? How about its your chance to show off how tough you are on others' posts? That's why I just felt the need to private message you to see if you really have some issue. Maybe the pregnancy is messing with your brain...To post my acct name with a dick comment. Find something to do.
Sorry to anyone this offends, but I don't know this chick and she's acting a little too cool for me!

Are you kidding me! @amark11 Has been an active member of this board for months. She has been the most supportive member especially when we've had members go through difficult times! But you are new, so I doubt you have been around long enough to witness this for yourself.

raptorteaparty · May 2015

jillholt80 said:

amark11 said:

coreysibs said:
@HayesRN13 I understand that you are a RN and see this all of the time but for some of the women on this thread, it is new and exciting. They want to talk about it and play the what if game or see where other women that may be at the same point in their pregnancy are at to compare. I'm sure everyone on here knows that you can't predict when someone will go into labor. We have absolutely no control over it but for some women, hearing what worked for others (such as walking, sex, etc.) is helpful so that we can feel some sense of control or that we are able to help pass the time in some way. We all are impatient and excited, of course we want to talk about our body getting closer to having our baby. There is no need to put someone down for using this app or thread as intended by asking and talking to other mothers about things that you are going through, thinking about, or struggling with. If you can't talk to other mother's about it, who do you have to bounce ideas or thoughts off of? Yes sometimes I can seem repetitive when each woman posts her own post about her progress or lack there of but if they are annoying to you, then just don't click on them or read them. Let other mother's who can give advice or reassuring thoughts or ideas to that mom without putting them down or making them feel dumb for asking.
So, um, where's your helpful response and advice in this?
@jillholt80 here's a chance to be uplifting! Post away!
@amark11 - you apparently have a lot of time on your hands. It's my chance to be uplifting? How about its your chance to show off how tough you are on others' posts? That's why I just felt the need to private message you to see if you really have some issue. Maybe the pregnancy is messing with your brain...To post my acct name with a dick comment. Find something to do.
Sorry to anyone this offends, but I don't know this chick and she's acting a little too cool for me!

Aren't private messages supposed to be, you know, private?

MrsWiggleWaggle · May 2015

I like to think of @amark11 as our resident pessimist unicorn. She has magic powers to uplift you but no patience for nonsense. I will note that today she started two positive threads inspiring my own. So she's not just complaining about repetitive stupid threads....she is doing something to mix up the board so it's not one big yahoo answers page.

HayesRN13 · May 2015

@jillholt80 when you said "I got the point" on the other thread, you really should have stopped there

Mommaswizz · May 2015

@amark11 is pretty freakin cool if you ask me. ( ps @MrsWiggleWaggle you've made my night with the gif lesson)

hopefloats062015 · May 2015

Thought I did @HayesRN13 but your pessimistic unicorn decided to mention me on this post. And it had sarcasm written all over it!!!! And that I don't appreciate!!! So clearly you're a unicorn follower like the other few above and that's great. But I am not. So ur resident member who has helped people through many difficult times can keep me out of her bull sh*t.

KaLikeAWind · May 2015

laurendutch said:

jillholt80 said:

amark11 said:

coreysibs said:
@HayesRN13 I understand that you are a RN and see this all of the time but for some of the women on this thread, it is new and exciting. They want to talk about it and play the what if game or see where other women that may be at the same point in their pregnancy are at to compare. I'm sure everyone on here knows that you can't predict when someone will go into labor. We have absolutely no control over it but for some women, hearing what worked for others (such as walking, sex, etc.) is helpful so that we can feel some sense of control or that we are able to help pass the time in some way. We all are impatient and excited, of course we want to talk about our body getting closer to having our baby. There is no need to put someone down for using this app or thread as intended by asking and talking to other mothers about things that you are going through, thinking about, or struggling with. If you can't talk to other mother's about it, who do you have to bounce ideas or thoughts off of? Yes sometimes I can seem repetitive when each woman posts her own post about her progress or lack there of but if they are annoying to you, then just don't click on them or read them. Let other mother's who can give advice or reassuring thoughts or ideas to that mom without putting them down or making them feel dumb for asking.
So, um, where's your helpful response and advice in this?
@jillholt80 here's a chance to be uplifting! Post away!
@amark11 - you apparently have a lot of time on your hands. It's my chance to be uplifting? How about its your chance to show off how tough you are on others' posts? That's why I just felt the need to private message you to see if you really have some issue. Maybe the pregnancy is messing with your brain...To post my acct name with a dick comment. Find something to do.
Sorry to anyone this offends, but I don't know this chick and she's acting a little too cool for me!
Are you kidding me! @amark11 Has been an active member of this board for months. She has been the most supportive member especially when we've had members go through difficult times! But you are new, so I doubt you have been around long enough to witness this for yourself.

This. @jillholt80 Use the search function to find the 'Good vibes' thread that @amark11 started. She starts tons of positive threads and also is very supportive. Please hang out and get to know people before making judgemental statements like the ones you have been making.

Mommaswizz · May 2015

It's crazy how often people like @amark11 are supportive of people who don't frequent this community except to use it as their own personal Google only to have snappy snowflakes fire back when we help direct them to an appropriate thread with more information or suggesting that maybe we don't have the answers. From now on these randos are getting gifs from me....

LaurenAnn0405 · May 2015

For someone who wants to be uplifting to other moms she sure isn't being nice to @amark11 who like pp have pointed out has started positive threads and offers encouragement to other moms going through difficult situations

chiudo · May 2015

Women just get urselves together and stop this tantrum. oh dear!

We should all be happy that we are getting close to having our babies

MrsWiggleWaggle · May 2015

Have to do it. I just can't help it.

hopefloats062015 · May 2015

U girls are relentless. Truly! You're right, I use this as Google. I don't have time to read and comment on every post. Like I mentioned in my very first comment here- your queen unicorn felt the need to post my name sarcastically on this post. And normally when something of that nature occurs, the person mentioned, responds. And that's exactly what I did!!! Sorry you didn't like my response, but hey shouldn't dish it out and not expect a reaction.

dancegurl1118 · May 2015

My sass is about to get so fucking real thanks to these gifs.

Yes, please, random lurker tell us more about how we should respond to posts when we've all built relationships over the past 30+ weeks and you just waltz on in expecting us to tell you omg you will deliver tomorrow!!!!!

MrsWiggleWaggle · May 2015

@jillholt80 I'll give you this, it really is a losing game to try and control what people post. You should stick around, you're feisty. I too once white knighted for a poster we never really heard from again and got all kinds of flame for it. I ended up taking a break and coming back to the boards on my own terms. I don't use the term "special snowflake" I have a "don't be an a-hole" general rule and I retired from defending stuff like this. And I found out it was a great place to be silly and blow off steam...I even ask stupid medical questions sometimes. Your intentions are good...maybe misguided.

To;dr: this board has got its own culture, dip your toe in and don't take things too personally. I really disagree with what some people say on here but I try to applaud those who I get something from. Props for no GBCB so far.

hopefloats062015 · May 2015

dancegurl1118 said:
My sass is to get so fucking real thanks to these gifs.

Yes, please, random lurker tell us more about how we should respond to posts when we've all built relationships over the past 30+ weeks and you just waltz on in expecting us to tell you omg you will deliver tomorrow!!!!!

Not interested in building relationships. In fact- I'm just realizing that your little group of 5 or so love to comment and make people feel stupid with these dumb ass pictures. Now that I've seen it on other posts, I won't take it personally. Thought it was just me, but totally not.

daniellewhitehouse · May 2015

Wow everyone thanks for turning this thread into junk for me with my legitimate question

HoosOnFirst · May 2015

jillholt80 said:

dancegurl1118 said:
My sass is to get so fucking real thanks to these gifs.

Yes, please, random lurker tell us more about how we should respond to posts when we've all built relationships over the past 30+ weeks and you just waltz on in expecting us to tell you omg you will deliver tomorrow!!!!!

Not interested in building relationships. In fact- I'm just realizing that your little group of 5 or so love to comment and make people feel stupid with these dumb ass pictures. Now that I've seen it on other posts, I won't take it personally. Thought it was just me, but totally not.

There's more than five of us! ::raises hand::

hopefloats062015 · May 2015

daniellewhitehouse said:
Wow everyone thanks for turning this thread into junk for me with my legitimate question

You are so right. I'm so sorry. I actually clicked on your thread because I was genuinely interested in some replies. But then noticed that your replies came from the same group who shot down one of my threads and then linked my name to this one and it was to make fun, not to support. So you're totally right- I take blame. If it's worth anything- I wish you luck with your delivery.

ngaines27 · May 2015

daniellewhitehouse said:
Wow everyone thanks for turning this thread into junk for me with my legitimate question

@klkonwi answered your "legitimate question" right from the start. . . Check out the weekly appointment thread and post your "question" there.

Mommaswizz · May 2015

daniellewhitehouse said:
Wow everyone thanks for turning this thread into junk for me with my legitimate question

@HayesRN13 gave you a truly honest and thoughtful answer, likely the only answer that is accurate. Everyone is different is the answer. Check out some of the birth announcements in May where women share their story. Some are dilated for weeks with nothing, others wake up at zero and have a baby in their arms hours later. I understand you're looking to hear others experiences but it would have little to no bearing on your experience.

devyns2nd · May 2015

Hey now there are more than five of us.

cbrtncanadian · May 2015

@daniellewhitehouse you asked 3 questions in your thread...

There were several responses to your initial post. There are even more answers if you look at some of the other posts that talk about dilation and effacement. I say this with no snark at all but you should read them I have been and it has helped me to accept that there's nothing to do but wait for baby to be ready. Getting worried or excited about these numbers just ends up causing unnecessary disruption to otherwise feeling mostly peaceful.

Through these posts you'll find that the general rule of thumb is any dilation that individuals have had that has been 4 or under and almost any effacement including 80% has not yielded any consistent outcome for ladies here. That means that unfortunately each of yours (and others) actual questions are mostly irrelevant and provide no significance. I think that is why this is such a hot topic... Because any posters who have read those threads or even parts of those threads have seen the same indications.

As for the questions...

What stage are others at? Some are are dilated, some are not either way doesn't promise that baby is coming at any specific time. Same story with effacement. Then again I'm not a doctor so what do I know..

Has anyone been in my situation...? Probably other people have, but again everyone is different so no two people will have the same situation and same outcome. Therefore there's not that much comfort to draw from this question.

If so how long before you had your baby? - again this question is kind of irrelevant since neither of the above are really relevant or predictors when baby comes is just a matter of circumstance not the dilation or effacement.

I can certainly appreciate feeling nervous and worried being that your caregiver is heading out of town.. But life is like that sometimes. I'm sure that if baby comes there will be someone equally qualified there to ensure that things go as smoothly as possible. Best wishes to you try and stay positive and focused on the end result. There's going to be a million things that make us all worry on this home stretch.

ciennah99 · May 2015

I don't know what I am. My ob hasn't checked me & I'm glad. I'm doing hyponobabies home study & one of my favorite lines on the affirmations track is "Babies are born on their birthdays not when doctors decide." Also a go to quote of mine for many years "All things come in proper time to those who know how to wait." Baby will come when baby is ready, no need to worry about that. Acceptance, patience & living in the moment I think are the keys for now.

taboullio84 · May 2015

5. Of. Us . lmfao .

virginiaunicorn11 · May 2015

Wait, @jillholt80 literally posted a long post about how she wants to uplift women... Admits she wants no relationships here and rarely posts... And gets mad when I point out some inconsistencies in her posts and offer her a chance to compare notes with another post? After she literally writes "Post away!"?!?!

Awesome! I am so pumped to go to my inbox! The only other messages there are between a woman whose child passed away, a woman asking for tourism tips in my city, and a warning from TB for calling Mushrooms Cat Lady crazy. Brb!

PS - aw, shucks, ladies! Now I need a onesie (for me, not LO) with a pessimistic unicorn on it. That's a freaking awesome spirit animal, thanks!

ETA: the private message was very anticlimactic.

virginiaunicorn11 · May 2015

jillholt80 said:

daniellewhitehouse said:
Wow everyone thanks for turning this thread into junk for me with my legitimate question
You are so right. I'm so sorry. I actually clicked on your thread because I was genuinely interested in some replies. But then noticed that your replies came from the same group who shot down one of my threads and then linked my name to this one and it was to make fun, not to support. So you're totally right- I take blame. If it's worth anything- I wish you luck with your delivery.

It was not to make fun - it was because you are having similar experiences, and connecting you two was my intention. This is not Google. This is a section of a website/app called COMMUNITY. The whole point is to connect with human beings - it is a key difference between an Internet Search page, and a forum with human beings.

I do not have an answer for you, @daniellewhitehouse. I am not effaced or dilated or anything, though I am 37 weeks today. I was trying to put you in touch with other women who have shared similar experiences on here. But now that they are tagged to provide that input, suddenly there is nothing to share. I am sorry you feel you are not getting the answers you wanted. Hopefully the post from @HayesRN13 answers it a bit better. Good luck!

SammeMotley · May 2015

Oh my. It seems I always miss out when I pass up the repetitive posts. This is so unfair. I need a good laugh.

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