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Not breast feeding

lindsaypkellylindsaypkelly member
edited May 2015 in July 2015 Moms
Just wondering if anyone has already decided they wont be breastfeeding? And why?

FTR I am planning on doing it, just curious about other moms.
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  • i thought i wasn't and i was almost certain I wouldn't...but lately have been toggling back n forth.  after hearing lots of encouraging comments from others on a separate discussion thread and from my husband, i think I will at least TRY to breastfeed and if it doesn't work for me then i can switch or do combo feeding.  i was thinking not to for several reasons 1) i have high anxiety from chronic pain and i was afraid lack of sleep/cluster feeding and more pain may make me more anxious (since i cant keep up wiht housework/cooking dinners d/t my pain level) 2) i was also kinda not wanting to deal with possible pain/blisters etc from it or afraid that my baby just wouldn't latch well even if i did everythign right 3)also slightly weirded out, sry if TMI-but weirded out having sex later on and my husband trying to kiss that area that is now reserved for baby...lol weird right?
  • Lol this won't help but after reading that comment I want to say my husband wants to try breast milk if breast feeding comes up(I have been dead set on it since I've been pregnant, just praying my body and baby are ready) all he talks about is trying it lol
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  • I'm the same - I don't like breastfeeding in public or even in front of family and I feel awkward if someone is doing it in front of me. (I'm guess I'm a prude!)
    But I did bf my son for 8 months - initially it wasn't easy and he was a hungry baby- but once we got the hang of it - it was easier than bottles and formula and sterilising etc

    I'll try and do it again- but won't beat myself up if we can't
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  • With my first I was like absolutely not!! No good reason except it weirded me out. I had no one who even tried to talk me in the other direction. I regret not doing it and I can't wait to try with this one! I am anxious about having to do it in public though.
  • I def plan on breastfeeding. I breastfed my first son for 17 months and am hoping I can as long with this son. It's so good for baby and momma, plus I loved the special time with him.
    Advise for anyone who tries it- DONT be afraid to ask for a lacation specialist in hospital if you want help. My husband and I went back 4 days later cuz I was having a hard time and she helped so much! Yes there will be rough days and there will be easy days. If you put your mind to it you can all do it if you want to.
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  • I have RA (rheumatoid arthritis) and I've heard most of the time after giving birth the disease will hit me hard, which means I would have to get right back on medication. I've decided even if RA hits me I will breastfeed as long as I can tolerate the pain.
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  • edited May 2015
    I think unless there is a medical reason not to that everyone should at least try it out. IMO. I grew up in a family of BF women so I made up my mind to do it long before my first pregnancy. I can understand how a woman who is not used to seeing or being around women who BF might be put off. Personally it was a very rewarding experience and I understand it won't work out for everyone and there shouldn't be any guilt or shame for those who can't do it, but they will never know for sure if they don't at least try it out. Plus some women use both breastmilk and formula and some women even exclusively pump and give their milk in bottles only. The baby still is only receiving breast milk but through a bottle instead. There are so many options available there is no single way of doing feedings, whatever works best for mom and baby.
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  • I think this is super interesting. I wonder what a thread like this 10 years ago would have looked like. So much information has come out in the last few years about the benefits of nursing. It is nice to see a cultural shift.
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  • I think it is a very personal decision one must make with their spouse. I might not due to medical reasons but it is a very important decision that I have discussed with my husband and one that we have considered long and hard after doing lots of research.
  • I agree for sure that its best to at least try. Unless advised by dr not to, obviously.

    I also don't know that I'll ever be brave enough to do it in public but I admire any woman who is.
  • I'm not breastfeeding, I will be bottle feeding. Just a personal preference. As long as your baby is getting feed does it really matter? I have to go back to work like almost as soon as possible and have no time or place to pump. So that was a big decideding factor into it.
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  • grlplzgrlplz member
    edited May 2015
    I do plan to try it. With DS 1 I did it but also formula feed because it did seem weird to me, also not used to it, so I only did it when we were at home and formula feed everywhere else. Then I stopped producing milk when he was about 3 months old. I figured it was from doing both and from then on out I only did formula. With DS 2 I tried from day one. He wasn't able to latch on correctly and my milk never came in. I will try again but if it doesn't work then it doesn't work. Like PP said, everyone should try it but if it doesn't work then that's okay too.
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  • I'm not breastfeeding, I will be bottle feeding. Just a personal preference. As long as your baby is getting feed does it really matter? I have to go back to work like almost as soon as possible and have no time or place to pump. So that was a big decideding factor into it.

    Just curious. What do you mean by no time ot place to pump? There are many laws requiring employers to provide a place for breastfeeding women to pump if needed. Maybe something to look into if this was your deciding factor and you're still interested in breastfeeding. Also, just breastfeeding while in the hospital (or before you go back to work) can provide the baby with lots of great benefits.
    But you're right, as long as baby is taken care of. :)

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  • zmombiezmombie member
    I'm not. I didn't with my other two. And def won't be with her.. I'm very weird.. But my nipples are very sensitive.. So the thought of BFing weirds me out. I don't want to be creeped out by feeding my child. This time I have to go back on my medicine. So I'm just in no way going to be doing it, but the nurses and doctors at my doc office feel the need to keep telling me I have to.. Which is only making me mad. Respect my decision and leave me alone. There's a chance she could be early due to impending pre eclampsia (as I get every time I'm pregnant) and if she is, then I will. No doubt about that. I'll do whatever I can for my child. But if she's full term and healthy, she's getting the bottle.
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    I tried with DS1 but didn't produce anything so I couldn't. I wasn't a fan of it anyway and bottle/formula worked out much better. I will try again but if I don't produce anything or it isn't the best for us, I'll stop. I don't think that everyone should even be told to try, it's no one else's business. It's not proven that breast fed babies are healthier than formula fed babies. The only illnesses my son suffered from were ear infections and that's not going to be prevented with breast milk, it's the way his ears formed. Breast feeding is hard, especially in the beginning, and I felt like a weight was lifted and I could enjoy my son when I stopped putting that pressure on myself.

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  • There are a lot of decisions parents have to make where there's a clear "healthier" choice. For example, many experts warn against ANY screen time before 2 years, but I don't know a single parent who hasn't stuck their toddler with an iPad or episode of Dora the Explorer so they can get 5 minutes of peace. Yet we assign such moral weight to breastfeeding and act like not even trying it is such a crime.

    Is breast best? Yeah, to a point, but it's not that big of a deal. If you want to breastfeed your baby, that is awesome. If you have no instinct to breastfeed and don't want to, get that formula. As long as baby is eating, it's fine, and your decision shouldn't be up for debate by anyone else.






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    Actually, there are studies showing that babies who are breast fed ARE healthier even later in life.
    And children who were formula fed actually are more prone to ear infections.




    I was formula fed as a baby and hardly ever was sick, still don't get sick. My doctor as a kid used to mention it would be 5+ years between visits. My borther is the same way. My husband and his brothers were breast fed and were/are sick way more often. There's no proof, it depends on the kid and how their immune systems develop. I don't understand how breast milk can affect ear infections. It's a problem with the formation for draining, it does not have anything to do with what is eaten.

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  • I'm not saying that just because a baby is breast fed they won't ever get sick, or vice versa. It's just something to think about.

    I'm also not saying everyone HAS to try to BF, I'm saying that there is no harm in it.

    Yeah exactly, it does depend on how their immune systems develop and breast milk is known for boosting immunity from day one.
  • cls2015cls2015 member
    edited May 2015
    No studies show that every single baby is less healthy if they are formula fed or more healthy if they are breast fed.  So, of course some babies are completely healthy after formula feeding and vice versa.  You can't use a couple healthy children as an argument to state that there is no proof that breast fed babies are healthier.    

    The studies say that there is a higher risk of some medical problems if a baby is not breast fed.  The difference is not huge, but it is there.  So, it's every parent's decision on how seriously they take that extra risk (whatever percentile it is).   I'm choosing to take it seriously and to breast feed my children.  
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  • Something to consider when thinking about formula vs. breast milk are the ingredients with which formula is made.  There are concerns that Roundup is linked to autism (http://www.globalresearch.ca/monsanto-glyphosate-roundup-herbicide-triggers-autism-in-children-mit-scientist/5433023).  Many, many formulas contain a great deal of corn syrup solids as well as soy based ingredients.  Both of these ingredients are HEAVILY treated with Roundup.  I am a breast milk advocate but understand that nursing isn't something that some folks are capable of doing for medical reasons.  I would encourage you however, if you aren't going to nurse your child with breast milk to strongly consider using an organic formula that is made with ingredients free of chemical sprays. 
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  • I am not breastfeeding with my second child.  I did not breastfeed my first either.  I think it is a very personal choice that each person has to make for themselves.  As long as the baby is fed and healthy that is all that matters!   
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    This is always a hot topic ! Someone mentioned the husband factor-mine loved BM , gross? I think so but he loved it and can't wait for it to get here. Lol. I did not BF the first time and thought I would never dry up bc of him lol. (TMI) anyway, I haven't decided this round. My little one has been very healthy no issues, never at the dr and she was forma fed from the first moment. So Im not sure!
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    I personally had no desire to breastfeed my first. The idea of it stressed me out and I did not want that stress with being a first time mom, I wanted to enjoy every minute with my daughter. I have no regrets at all and LOVED formula feeding. I felt I was able to recover from delivery and have more energy with my daughter since my mom and husband could help me with feeds. It was a great experience and my daughter is a thriving, happy healthy 2 year old. We will be formula feeding our second this time as well.

    My brother was breastfed and I was formula fed and he ended up with way more health problems than I did. So I really do believe it all depends on the child, parent, environment etc.

    As long as baby, mom and dad are happy...there is no right or wrong way to feed your child. Whatever works for you is the right way.
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  • Hahaa hilarious. .. well my husband wont be latching on-hes weirded out by that and so am I lol... but his dad told him this story ---his dad really wanted to try breast milk- but instead of just getting a little expressed milk or from a bottle he just latched on to his wife. But then he was curious how much was in there so he just kept going (idk how long) but he said when he stopped he was so full of milk! --- why would you tell your Son (first time dad) this story? Definitely tmi for me to kno about my Father in law
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  • This will be my third child and I'm not planning on breastfeeding but you never know! I breastfed my first daughter for around four weeks and found it really tough, not only did I get a blocked duct and cracked nipples but she had reflux as well so sometimes would struggle through a feed just to be sick all over me and want to do it again :/. I felt very overwhelmed by it all and got into a bit of a mess. Switching to formula made me feel so guilty for a long time afterwards and I felt like I had let us both down. Second time around I planned to try BFing again but my new daughter couldn't latch and I was exhausted from delivery I just passed her to my husband and gave up there and then. I did feed her a few times once my milk came in but she was almost exclusively formula fed. Those first few weeks were so much easier and I enjoyed them a lot more than I did with my first daughter. So for me that was the trade off- knowing it was perhaps not the best option but the best for us. Both of my daughters have a bit of eczema and my second daughter has asthma. Whether this is because she had formula instead of breastmilk I will never know x
  • Something to consider when thinking about formula vs. breast milk are the ingredients with which formula is made.  There are concerns that Roundup is linked to autism (http://www.globalresearch.ca/monsanto-glyphosate-roundup-herbicide-triggers-autism-in-children-mit-scientist/5433023).  Many, many formulas contain a great deal of corn syrup solids as well as soy based ingredients.  Both of these ingredients are HEAVILY treated with Roundup.  I am a breast milk advocate but understand that nursing isn't something that some folks are capable of doing for medical reasons.  I would encourage you however, if you aren't going to nurse your child with breast milk to strongly consider using an organic formula that is made with ingredients free of chemical sprays. 

    @Knottie99627423 I'm planning on BF so haven't done research on formula ... Which ones would you recommend based on your research?

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    Lol thats hilarious that u call it nursing...NO thats absurd. He just would leave them alone! I dried up within a week.
  • <<Blink. Blink.>> This can't be right....
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  • edited May 2015
    @mrsrep123 I haven't done much research on the OG formulas either since I'm planning on going the boob route too. This site seemed to have some good info! https://gimmethegoodstuff.org/safe-product-guides/safe-infant-formula-guide/
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  • Your reply makes no sense, it seems as though you are changing your story. So, if you could, please rephrase your original post.

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  • @nechmielewski:  Was that directed at me?  Sorry if my post wasn't clear.  I was saying that for those who are choosing to formula feed that you may want to choose an organic/OG formula as opposed to a formula that is made with non-organic ingredients (those likely to be treated with Roundup, a toxic chemical).  Admittedly I haven't done a lot of research on the different organic formulas because I have always planned to breast feed for a long time.  I have a lactation consultant lined up, a mother who is a midwife and a very strong community of breast feeders around me so I feel I will have the support necessary to be successful.  I have found that there are roughly a million topics to read up on so I haven't felt like I wanted to devote energy to something I wasn't considering a route I would be taking.  Does that make more sense?
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    @nechmielewski if you are talking to me here is my final attempt. I was saying guys love them. "Nurse" him, let me see, no! Im talking about the general way guys like to "go there" and I was merely joking about not being able to dry up. It did take a week , I have no clue how long it normally takes! Anyway it was just a funny-you clearly worried over it waaaayyyy to much. Anyhow there u are ma'am
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