VENT please not another "how are you feeling?"

BrinkerN · January 2009

i vented to my husband about the overuse of this question, and he pointed out that it's nice that people care. yes...but "how are you feeling?" is something you ask sick people. i'm not sick...i'm pregnant!!! i'm lucky enough to not have had morning sickness, otherwise maybe this question might make more sense.

AND people are always asking "how's the baby?" shoot, i i feel flutters here and there, but is she moving because she's bored, happy, has gas? she's in my stomach, not much more for me to tell.

ugh-sorry, guess i needed to vent so i don't go off on someone today. :-p thanks!

chels4144 · January 2009

I like the "hows the baby doing" one. How the heck should I know? Its alive, thats about all I know about the baby at this point.

nolebride · January 2009

This made laugh. You are not alone my friend. I was visiting another office yesterday and that was the question EVERYONE asked me. On the one hand I thought it was so nice that they are so excited for me but on the other I'm like 'stop asking me that'! I'm fine. The baby seems fine but how the hell do I know. I don't even feel flutters. Oh well.

chels4144 · January 2009

oh and I want to add one, its either "you don't look like your big enough" or "wow your getting big!" personally, I've gotten both and they are both annoying. The "you don't look big enough" comment came from someone who is from the "fat is healthy" academy which annoys me because I know being too big isn't healthy and I don't appreciate her pushing her beliefs on me. People should just shut up when it comes to pregnant women.

Mary0913 · January 2009

I was just thinking the same thing yesterday!! DH is really good about it (although he frantically asks if I'm okay every time I stretch out my stiff back or "look" like I don't feel good - but it's coming from a good place so I'm not too irritated). It's the CW's that drive me crazy! I feel like every person at school asks me how I'm feeling. Again, I know they're being nice, but it's just a niceness overload sometimes!! Oh, and when my mom asks me how I'm feeling, like, 5 times every time I talk to her - arggghh!!

GreenBride624 · January 2009

chels4144:

people should just shut up when it comes to pregnant women.

Unfortunately that is never going to happen! Smile

One of my coworkers is pregnant due in the middle of March. Pre-preg she couldn't have weighed more than 100lbs - legs like string beans. She told me the other day, "you don't even look pregnant!" Um, that's because I had a belly to begin with. I would have rather been her pre-preg weight than mine! Smile

Clevelander · January 2009

I hate it too. I forgot how annoying it is.

ToBeMrsC6907 · January 2009

Eh, I like it. I like that people care. Sometimes people don't know what ot say...I guess its the thought that counts in my book!

JasonsLyric · January 2009

I think everything people say to you over and over can get old. I'm tired of the attention period. I liked when nobody said anything to me other than "Hello!".

MidwestTexan · January 2009

My MIL is the worst offender of the "how are you feeling?" question. DH and I happened to be visiting when I was around 6 weeks pregnant and of course I was nauseous all the time. Now, at nearly 20 weeks, she keeps asking me the same thing! I haven't had any nausea/morning sickness since 12 weeks, and I have told her this repeatedly. I wish the woman would get the point!!!!

mandarod · January 2009

I get that followed by, are you having morning sickness? Even though that normally goes away after the first tri, why the hell do you care if I'm puking my guts out every morning? Do you want me to share the details if I were? Seriously?

I've asked my friend, who is 9 weeks, how she's feeling, but only because I know I felt like crap at that point. If she feels anything like I did, I try to give her pointers about what worked for me, etc.

MmeA2006 · January 2009

I don't think I would mind "How are you feeling" if they asked it like a regular question. But DH's whole family always asks: "Are you feeling okay?", all concerned, like I'm supposed to be miserable. I tell them I'm feeling great, and then they don't believe me: "Really? Are you feeling sick at all? Any nausea?" No, not since first tri, thanks. I'm not sure if it's because a cousin is also pregnant, and I have a feeling she complains a bit so they expect me to complain, too, but I'm trying to enjoy this part of the pregnancy when I actually do feel great and not very uncomfortable.

schmapril · January 2009

MmeA2006:
I don't think I would mind "How are you feeling" if they asked it like a regular question. But DH's whole family always asks: "Are you feeling okay?", all concerned, like I'm supposed to be miserable. I tell them I'm feeling great, and then they don't believe me: "Really? Are you feeling sick at all? Any nausea?" No, not since first tri, thanks. I'm not sure if it's because a cousin is also pregnant, and I have a feeling she complains a bit so they expect me to complain, too, but I'm trying to enjoy this part of the pregnancy when I actually do feel great and not very uncomfortable.

I get the looks and the prods for other answers when I tell people I'm fine too. I didn't have any m/s or nausea and people were so concerned for me. WHY? I'm doing fine. Do you want me to say that I'm sick just to make YOU feel better?? I don't get people!

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