don't know wtf to do... (vent and advice needed in one)

Re: don't know wtf to do... (vent and advice needed in one)

• megajra member

  May 2015 edited May 2015

  That sucks for both reasons that u have to share bedroom with someone u are not comfortable with and that she doesn't give a s..t abaut not spreading for,me only thing u can do is just to try to fortify your immune system honey, garlic, lemon,blackcurrants juice should help with that until u can go back to doctor if u will catch sm which i hope u won't. I know its not very helpful but unfortunately we pregnant don't have much options with meds .On another side ill would snap as well .As u have said even your man's brother either her doesn't give a f..k abaut your health anyway best of luck hopefully all will turn up good for u anyway By the way I'll be 33 weeks on friday as well funny is in it .Take care.

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• NewMumzy25 member

  May 2015

  Awe thanks I've been trying to fortify my immune system I'll have to add a few of those ideas in! Him and his brother are very vigilant about not getting sick they take precautions at least he just didn't respond well to being told his girl can't come over when she's sick cause I swear she's always sick! I will snap if she mentions being sick once more cause she actually had a premie and should know how scary it is to know that's a possibility and getting really sick wouldn't help. I think I'm just at my Whits end and until I get the insurance I won't feel as safe and fingers crossed I stay healthy. And awesome that you prob have the same due date as me lol July 3rd?? Thanks again for the advice Chicky, appreciate it!

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• mers90 member

  May 2015

  Isn't there a way for you to not share a house with them? Or at least a room? I honestly don't think that's healthy for your relationship either, couples need privacy and with a baby on the way it sounds like they're gonna be a pain in the ass! If there's no way of you moving out maybe transform the living room into a new bedroom for you or something. And I would go straight to the girlfriend and tell her not to be so selfish, if the brother didn't do anything then you'll have to fix it by yourself.

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• grlplz member

  May 2015

  I think my bigger fear would be that once baby comes she'd be getting him sick. His immune system isn't ready for constant germs as you say. If you can I highly suggest living somewhere else. Things are only going to get more stressful when LO makes his debut. But at the very least make sure you guys get a space to call your own. Like PP said, try turning the living room into a bedroom. You can say something to the gf but unfortunately their isn't much more you can do than that. If she is still invited over/comes over and doesn't feel well you can ask her to leave but be ready for her or your bfs brother to say no and for things to at the very least get mighty awkward but also a possible argument. My first piece of advice, get out of there, it's not healthy for you or your relationship and soon it won't be healthy for your baby but if that isn't a possibility find a way to get your own room and next stand up for yourself.

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• oneblessedmess member

  May 2015

  Whose place is it? It sounds like It's not yours so unfortunately you can talk until you're blue in the face, the owner gets final say. I agree with PPs, I would be finding a new place to stay ASAP. At the very least, you will want your own space when baby gets here. PPs suggestion of turning the living room into a bedroom is a good one.
  
  In the meantime, maybe you can suggest the brother start staying at the girlfriend's place when she is sick instead? I honestly find it really weird for two grown couples to be sharing a room all the time and I can't even imagine how it's going to work when a newborn is thrown into the mix. Does she not have her own place they can hang out at?

   
  

   
  

  

  

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• MEXARAB member

  May 2015

  I would talk to her directly. The entire situation sounds strange. But if your sharing a room with your mans brother why would she want to spend the night let alone while she's sick. Good luck girl!

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• megajra member

  May 2015

  Yeap exactly on 3 of July best if luck to you hope it all will turn out great for you

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• runnergirl29 member

  May 2015

  Yuck. Reading this was like reading about hell itself.. where is baby going to go?! :-O

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• NewMumzy25 member

  May 2015

  It's temporary but unfortunate I'm just not good with confrontation. It was the only place they could get before I moved countries to be here so unfortunately till the lease is up were stuck which is a month after baby boy is born. I honestly don't think his twin realizes how many changes are going to happen. Both the twins pay rent and take care of their other brother and they ended up sharing the room. Its not to bad except when she's here I find its getting to the point where I don't like her. We have different sleep schedules so they're getting up 2-3 hours after we go to bed so her shit was in may way last night and I tripped a bit on my way to bed cause she ps her purse there and her Phone volume is on so I didn't sleep at all last night between the snoring and my brain going off on what I'd love to say to her. So in a couple months we will have our own space but for now were stuck sharing a room. My man makes more $$ and he is close with his family and helps anyway he can. Bit he's been realizing how much he won't be able to do that any more and telling them things are changing I just don't think its hit the twin yet. I've come down and slept on the couch a few times when she's over and then she's loud as hell when she gets up. I was thinking I'd have to talk to her and say you need more common courtesy especially when she in fact had a premie she should know all the fears involved In having a LO
  
  Thanks for the advice ladies ice been loosing my mind lately.

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