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Missing Grandparents

tileycyrustileycyrus member
in May 2015 Moms
FTM, due today, hence all the emotions, but I just wanted to see if there was anyone else out there that was having the same problem.

My dad passed away 2 years ago and just in these last few days it's really hit me that my daughter will never be able to meet her Grandpa Jimmy and it just breaks my heart.

I know I can't be alone in this, so really I guess I just wanted to say to anyone in the same boat, I wish I could hug you all!!

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  • katiebug66katiebug66 member
    My dad got to meet my DS but never met DD and of course won't meet this baby. My grandmother passed away two weeks ago and so she won't meet this baby. I hate it but talk to my kids about them and they like to hear about them. 


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  • LadyBloodLadyBlood member
    edited May 2015
    My dad died 15 years ago, but it still hurts to know he'll never meet my son. My husband lost his paternal grandpa april 28th and it's devastated the both of us knowing he will never meet his great grandson, and now his maternal grandmother isn't expected to last the week (we are stationed away from our hometown so we missed funerals and will not make it down to see his grandma) so now he is even more devastated knowing his grandma will never meet his son either. It's been a rough couple weeks for us. Just know you are not alone, it is really hard knowing important people in your life will never share the joy of meeting your little one.
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  • ssolis06ssolis06 member
    Im so sorry for your loss, despite the time, losing a parent hurts a lifetime.
    My mother passed away suddenly to a heart attack 3 months ago and the pain of losing her has been unbearable, especially being pregnant. Im happy that she was able to see me pregnant and that we knew i was having a girl. She always told me every mom needs a daughter and was so happy when we found out. She also took care of my 19 month old son everyday while I worked and the bond they had brought happy tears to my eyes because they loved each other so much and my son had so much fun with her. I now hurt, not only for MY loss as a daughter, but for the loss of my children of their wonderful grandmother. My son will have vague memories since he is so small and my daughter will never know her physically.
    The best way to honor your father is to make the effort to share him with your daughter and what a good father he was to you, which could only mean he would of been an excellent grandpa. While he may not be here physically, your daughter may still have him around spiritually.
    I've already made the decision to do that with my children, even if I break down every time my son kisses my mom's picture because it would be even more painful for me to act like she's forgotten - she and your father are present, just in a different way. I hope that your dad will give you a sign he is with you when your daughter is born. Congrats and good luck.
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  • raptorteapartyraptorteaparty member
    ssolis06 said:

    Im so sorry for your loss, despite the time, losing a parent hurts a lifetime.
    My mother passed away suddenly to a heart attack 3 months ago and the pain of losing her has been unbearable, especially being pregnant. Im happy that she was able to see me pregnant and that we knew i was having a girl. She always told me every mom needs a daughter and was so happy when we found out. She also took care of my 19 month old son everyday while I worked and the bond they had brought happy tears to my eyes because they loved each other so much and my son had so much fun with her. I now hurt, not only for MY loss as a daughter, but for the loss of my children of their wonderful grandmother. My son will have vague memories since he is so small and my daughter will never know her physically.
    The best way to honor your father is to make the effort to share him with your daughter and what a good father he was to you, which could only mean he would of been an excellent grandpa. While he may not be here physically, your daughter may still have him around spiritually.
    I've already made the decision to do that with my children, even if I break down every time my son kisses my mom's picture because it would be even more painful for me to act like she's forgotten - she and your father are present, just in a different way. I hope that your dad will give you a sign he is with you when your daughter is born. Congrats and good luck.

    This was so beautiful and really brought tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother.
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  • knightmansmamaknightmansmama member
    My dad passed away three weeks before my daughter was born from colon cancer. It was so incredibly hard knowing he will never meet her. But I promised him to tell the baby about him everyday and so my mom and I tell her stories all the time. We call him her "grandpa angel". Someone also told me that when a baby smiles in their sleep it means an angel is talking to them. As if this isn't adorable enough, two minutes after my daughter was born she looked right at me and smiled. I find comfort that he is watching over us from above and everytime she smiles in her sleep I like to think it's because he is talking to her.
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  • tileycyrustileycyrus member
    All you ladies are amazing and your stories have helped soothed my soul. Hugs to all!!
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