Thick prego chick

kallim2015 · May 2015

I'm a voluptuous woman not pregnant. I had all these intentions to get really thin before I got pregnant, but God has a way of doing whatever he wants. I'm so excited about my new journey of new life, but I'm literally terrified at the same time. I'm so afraid that I'm going to gain a crap ton of weight and be this disgusting hippo, I can't even walk. I'm literally embarrassed to eat in front of people. I've been working on my weight loss goals for a long time, and have lost over 100 pounds, and I feel like I should just be able to enjoy this experience. My biggest fear is my fiancé won't even be able to stand he sight of me, or even want to be intimate. I just wish I could enjoy this experience and not drive myself insane. From week 6-8 i gained 10 pounds, as I normally fluctuate pretty easily on a regular day. My mother looks at me and says "I can tell, it's really obvious". Ahhhhh I wanted to curl up and die. Does anyone else out there in mommy land struggle with the same worries, or am insane lol!?

Prudilove · May 2015

Hi, I am also a voluptuous woman and am 8 weeks today. I had the same goal to loose massive weight before getting pregnant, but unfortunately life doesn't always work like that. I am not stressing about gaining or anything else. Just want to enjoy the experience and be as comfortable as I can be. Stop stressing and just enjoy being pregnant.

rbuck2 · May 2015

Congratulations on your weight loss so far!

My husband and I are very active people and I've had to put on weight just to get pregnant, and have put on additional weight so far in my 8 weeks as well. I hate how my body looks because it took me many years to embrace an active lifestyle and get to the point that I was pre-pregnancy. I am also terrified of how my husband will see me and fear he won't be attracted to me. I'm not enjoying this at all.

So no matter where you're at in your weight journey, I think this is a problem EVERYONE experiences.

I hope you can enjoy your pregnancy! It's hard enough in our bodies so we shouldn't be hard on ourselves!

kallim2015 · May 2015

@rbuck2 thank you for the advice! I too was also active but still losing, not quite to my finished size. It puts my mind at ease to know women of all shapes and sizes feel the same. My fiancé calls it blessing weight! A lot of articles I read say most men enjoy the curvaceous look pregnancy brings on, your husband will embrace that aspect I'm sure! Thank you for your encouragement!

kallim2015 · May 2015

@Prudilove thank you!!! I felt so alienated going through this, thinking I was the only thick prego chick out here! I love your outlook! Thank you for your inspiration and response, it means a lot!

susiaustin · May 2015

@kallim2015 just eat as healthy as you can. I know it's rough during the first trimester. Trust me I know, it's whatever you can eat. Here's a few words of encouragement. My sister ate healthy with both of her pregnancies. She was trying to lose weight before both of her pregnancies. She was 115 and tiny in high school. Not all of her weight gain was her fault, she has a medical condition and was a bit of a test subject because not everyone knew what would happen with her form of dwarfism when she went off the medication. She had pituitary dwarfism. She currently makes enough growth hormone to support her height as it would have been if she had never taken medication, which is a lovely 3'2". She's 5'1" and tried for 10 years to drop the weight she put on. She never carried her weight well. I know I'm being a bit cruel saying that, but she knows it too. When she got pregnant with her daughter any food that she wouldn't feed a child didn't go in her mouth, so nothing unhealthy. Same with her son. She had serious morning sickness for her entire pregnancy which accounts for some of her weight loss, however she tried her best to be healthy. By a month after having her daughter, she was down 15 pounds from prepregnancy weight. By the time she had her son, she was down 45 pounds and afraid she'd gain weight again. However a month after giving birth to her son, she was down another 20 pounds from prepregnancy weight again. She gained baby, she didn't gain fat. If we change the unhealthy habits, and make sure we eat the recommended amount of calories per day, than most of what we gain will be baby, by the time our uteruses shrink back to where they belong, we might have our tiger stripes of honor, but I'm sure your husband will love them on you because they are badges of honor because you carried his child and gave him the biggest gift. I'm chubby myself and almost fainted when the doctor told me I was down 6 pounds, but I lost weight because I'm now eating 4-6 healthy meals a day, instead of eating junk because I wait till I'm dying of hunger and get whatever is easiest to eat right now.

AlejandraN2 · May 2015

Try to be kind to yourself. And try to focus on the life you're growing. Gaining weight is hard on all of us especially if we were trying to lose weight before. But at some point you have to let go and let your body do its job. Stressing about it is not helping the baby. All you can do is make healthy food choices and try to stay as active as you can. Your fiance will love you no matter what - you're growing his baby after all.

CMDD · May 2015

Like @rbuck2 I am on the thin and fit side and I feel the same way as you! Between my loss and this pregnancy I gained 10lbs and now I've gained a few more and I'm only 7weeks tomorrow. I feel super gross and am not working out to keep my strength up because I'm just so exhausted. I think focusing on the fact that we are growing tiny miracles and that we are so strong to be able to get through the first trimester helps me.

stinson315 · May 2015

I was at my heaviest weight when I became pregnant with my first daughter. Then, I gained 60 pounds during my pregnancy. After my daughter was born, I was still way heavier than I ever want to be again. I have this picture though of my husband holding me. I was so big that he could barely fit his arms all the way around me, but the way that he's looking at me, you can tell that he didn't see any of the extra pounds. I know your worry isn't all about what he's going to think about you, but I think when you realize that he's going to love you no matter what you weigh it makes it easier to value yourself for more than just a number.

redfallon · May 2015

I'm feeling pressure from myself. I got pregnant the first time when I was 15 lbs overweight. I gained 60 +/- lbs with her. She's 20 mos old and I lost that except for 15 lbs, so I started out this pregnancy 15 lbs over the 1st time (30 lbs over my normal weight). First time, I gained probably 12 lbs in the first trimester. I am trying to NOT do that this time, and I've been doing well until the last week. I stayed at about 2 lbs gained and now I'm at over 7 lbs gained. I am 8 weeks today. It was easier when I didn't have any sort of m/s, but now I've got that insatiable feeling even after I eat or feel like if I don't eat I'm going to be sick. I hate it.

nekedfeet · May 2015

All praise the voluptuous mamas!! You're most definetly not alone. I normally wear a size 12, and hover between 160-164bs.I know there's a lot of muscle in there but plenty of fat too... I work out everyday for at least 30min a day and feel like I have to- I always feel a little squishy even at my best! Now- I feel positively rotund. My belly is fairly distended with bloat and a nice new layer of fat over that. The scale isn't tipping just yet- maybe 2 lbs. but the weight distribution feels totally different. Just fatty. Ugh. Very frustrating. I'm still working out 25min every morning (T25 videos) anyone else done it?! Wish I could feel like this is all good for the baby... Trying to embrace the change. I feel you sister.

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