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May 2015 Moms
aln624
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Mother's Day
aln624
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Happy Mother's Day to ALL of you!!!
Unfortunately, my in laws, step son nor husband think I deserve a "Happy Mother's Day." Being a step mother apparently doesn't count as being a mother nor does being 11 days away from delivery of my first child constitute being a mother. I 10000% disagree with both! Oh well :-(
Unfortunately, my in laws, step son nor husband think I deserve a "Happy Mother's Day." Being a step mother apparently doesn't count as being a mother nor does being 11 days away from delivery of my first child constitute being a mother. I 10000% disagree with both! Oh well :-(
Re: Mother's Day
My hubby needs a push and I told him if I am 3 weeks till my dd, I deserve something. Either way he gets father day. So he has something small planned.
I later asked him if he planned to do anything as we were trying to coordinate seeing both of our mothers.
I asked him again about a week ago and when there wasn't much of a response, I said "never mind, this is too difficult of a conversation. It's making me sad and feel humiliated."
The other we were talking about how sick and uncomfortable I've been. I said something about how it would be nice to have some time on Mother's Day to be pampered. No response.
I got up early this morning to prep for a Mother's Day dinner for my mother. My husband later woke....no "happy Mother's Day," no card, no gift, no mention of anything, nothing. He did help my stepson pull together the gift for his mother.
I'm heading to the grocery in a short while to get the rest of what I need for dinner w my mother.
I could cry, but the baby doesn't deserve that, so I'm trying to remain calm.
Then as an adult I hated being excluded for being a woman without children. Not for a lack of trying. A few years ago a guy I worked with was handing out roses to all the women at work. He gave me one, said "Happy Mother's Day!" And then another co worker mentioned I didn't have kids. He said "Oh, never mind!" And TOOK MY ROSE AWAY! I was so embarrassed for being singled out as the only married woman without kids. Then I would get questions, as if the only reason for not having kids was that there must've been something medically wrong with me. I wanted kids more than anything, but it would still be a few years before I could talk my husband into it. Then there were those people who suggested I "forget" my birth control, because apparently a) it's totally ok to lie to your husband and make a life altering decision like that and b) my husband has absolutely no control over his libido and can't choose to not have sex if he suspects I'm ovulating and decides we (he) are not ready for a baby.
I hate how people treat women on Mother's Day! You're only totally accepted and glorified if you pushed a person out of your vagina. But if you adopt or are a step-parent or can't have children but are a pretty awesome aunt it doesn't count. I'm not saying mothers don't deserve respect, but it's not fair to forget about all the other nurturing women. Just saying I feel your pain and I'm sorry you're not feeling appreciated, because you should.
And for the women who are still pregnant and upset because their husbands are ignoring the day. Remember this is a big change for them. Without physically seeing the kid, it's probably difficult for them to think of you as a mother and not just their wife. Give them some slack, there is a lot of change happening for them as well. And just because you didn't get mothers day doesn't mean they don't deserve fathers day.