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stiches221stiches221 member
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Sorry this will be long. A lil back story my sister in law has been dating this total loser for the last few years like this dude will Not get a job, makes her work to support him and his child they got engaged a couple years ago but they never actually planned the wedding or even picked a date and then finally she decided to dump the loser and come down here and live with my other sister in law. About a week after she moved in with her she suddenly decides to go running back to the loser and plan a wedding in less than a month setting the date for April 11th.
So here's my problem:
A couple days ago she calls my husband and tells him since it's going to be raining this Saturday so they rescheduled for May 2nd. OUR BABY'S FIRST BIRTHDAY!! We have been planning her birthday party for on her birthday and were about to pay for the reservation at the place. DH told her to change the date that's our baby's birthday and she tells him "fuck you don't come then" and hung up. She later texted him saying we can share the day. Excuse me bitch this is my baby's FIRST birthday! She only gets one! You can get married ANY day of the year you did not have your heart set on this date it's just a random date you picked after the other random date was rainy but I can't change my baby's birthday that is her birthday! What are you going to do if it rains on May 2?? Reschedule again when it is already too late for us to have a party at the place we were planning??? DH and I are pissed and he said even if she does change the date we are not going. If you read all that thank you!!

Long story short: SIL changed wedding to our baby's birthday and won't change it.
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  • deanna1313deanna1313 member
    Are you worried about family not coming to your daughters birthday and going to the wedding instead?
    I don't think I would go. It sounds like she is flakey and the date May change again. Also, she just picked this date in a whim and your birthday has already been planned. I wouldn't change a thing!
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  • ladywolf1313ladywolf1313 member
    I would be very upset cause she should of known it was your baby's first birthday. 

    If she is marrying that loser then I wouldn't worry about people showing up at her wedding vs your party. Its still very rude of her to not at least think about changing the date.
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  • stiches221stiches221 member
    She isn't changing the date and my husband decided we are going. So my plan is have a lil party just us 3 in the morning go to the wedding at 2 then they are going to do a lil party in a corner that evening. The only reason we are going is because my husband feels his family will look at him different if he doesn't go. This issue has added a lot of stress onto our already stressed relationship and now he has decided that he is leaving me after the baby's birthday.
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  • kat8805kat8805 member
    Wait, like leaving you as in divorce? Wow.
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  • stiches221stiches221 member
    He's talking separation right now but has already talked to a lawyer and keeps telling me it's too late to fix our problems and he's done. He is staying here until soon after the babies Dr appt on Monday then moving in with his other sister (not the one getting married) for a while to see if we can individually work it out and then try again but it really sounds like he is just trying to sugarcoat it for me which would actually be worse. If there is no hope of us getting back together I'd rather he just straight up say it and get on with his life rather than toying around with me. He told me I need to get a job now but he has the only working vehicle (he will give me back that truck and buy a car when he leaves) and I have no one to watch our daughter. Any job I may get won't pay for the mortgage and all the bills and daycare not to even mention daily living expenses! He has me really confused cause he tells me he will always love me but is no longer in love with me and since he has brought this up a lil over a week ago we have been doing better and a couple days ago we were at Walmart talking about him getting a car and he said "even if I don't leave I'm still getting a car" but then comes home last night and is all back to 'REAL soon after the baby's bday I'm gone!' I didn't take the even if I don't leave as he decided against separation I know that is still happening and I actually support that cause we both have issues to work on to be individually happy before we can be happy together but I took it as I was doing better and he was seeing an improvement in me and was less likely to divorce me but now I have no idea what to think!!
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  • rawrzShaylenerawrzShaylene member
    Happy birthday to your little one!
    I wouldn't go to her wedding.... Did she end up getting married or did she change it again?
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  • stiches221stiches221 member
    Thank you! She went through with it and the wedding was delayed over an hr cause every one had gotten drunk the night before so none of them were functioning plus sick kids thrown in the mix. By the time it was all over I was exhausted (running on 1 hr of sleep helping with other SIL sick kids in the middle of the night cause she was shitfaced) and I just sat booboo on my lap opened her presents and let her eat her cake. I didn't even think about pictures until she was eating the cake so I told hubby to take then since I was making sure baby didn't fall but he sucks at picture taking so I have like 6 shitty pics to remember her bday by.
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