Is it trashy to get married with a baby bump?

KSabyan · May 2015

My fiancé and I have been planning our wedding for May 2016 but with finding out we are expecting a little one in mid November we want to do a small beach wedding this summer. I have heard some mixed feelings on this. We are looking at late June or maybe mid July. I don't mind getting married and having a bump. With the way my dress is it most likely won't even show it. But I have heard from some family members that it's kind of trash to have a baby bump and get married like we are rushing it because we are having a baby. And yes we are moving it up because we want to welcome this baby into the world husband and wife but it's not that we are just getting married because we are pregnant. Any thoughts?

mattymom · May 2015

I think it's totally fine and would never think it was trashy. The decision is completely up to the two of you anyway, so although it's easier said then done, try not to care what other people think. If it's gonna make you happy to get married this summer, then get married this summer.

kmd91 · May 2015

People are going to talk no matter what decision you make. So I figure if moving the wedding up is what you two want to do, by all means do that.

urby87 · May 2015

It sounds as though you were already engaged and planning a wedding before you got pregnant, right? I think anybody who knows you and your situation would understand that, and therefore not think it "trashy" of you. I don't have any issues with the idea at all, but I can see how in certain situations it might come off as trashy to others.

mikijoe · May 2015

You do you. Your wedding is for you and if you don't mind having a bump then go for it. People always have something to complain about ex: either an unwed mother or a baby bump wedding. We are waiting just for money reasons but either way I say go for it!!

Laurakat81 · May 2015

I agree that people are going to complain no matter what you do. So I say do the summer beach wedding. I see no reason you can't be beautiful, classy and pregnant!

VexyMommy · May 2015

I don't think it's trashy at all. My bf and I have been talking marriage for years but wanted to have nice rings, a big ceremony, etc. We've only just become more financially stable and in a place to afford that kind of expense. Now with the surprise baby (bf was supposedly infertile from radiation treatments) we're putting off marriage. I would never look down on someone who decided to do it the other way around.

dogsombrero · May 2015

It doesn't matter what anyone thinks but you and your SO. If you can afford to do it and want to then I say go for it. Gossips are going to do what they do no matter when/what the circumstances of your marriage are.

katie24l · May 2015

Remember marriage is really only about the two of you. Bump or no bump at the end of the day if you decide to share your life with him and the timing is right, go for it. People who want to talk will find something else to talk about eventually and hopefully your marriage will still be strong.

Pearlvirus · May 2015

I don't think it's trashy at all. Honestly even if you weren't engaged before you got pregnant why would that matter? As long as your father doesn't bring a shotgun, a wedding is a commitment to be a family together, with kids, without kids, somewhere inbetween... Whatever!

Semi unrelated thought.. You could very well still have a "bump" if you wait until next spring, depends on your body and how hard you try after.... And anyway who wants to plan a wedding and take care of a newborn at the same time? No thank you, if it were me I'd do it now!

Shearz125 · May 2015

Well thankfully we don't live in the 1950's anymore! To be honest I think anyone who says it's trashy is not living in the 21st century.. I have a friend who was married with a small bump and honestly everyone thought it was beautiful! Not to mention going through wedding pictures with your child in later years and being able to say they were a part of it

I realize it's easy to worry about others and their opinions. Just remember, Those who matter won't mind and those who mind won't matter.

AshenSky · May 2015

That's what my ex husband and I did. We were engaged and going to do s summer beach wedding 2007, but when we got pregnant decided to do a small fall 2006 wedding instead.
My experience was horrible, but it had nothing to do with my bump. It just wasn't a good relationship.
Like Pp have said. Do you;) if that is what you will be happy with, then do it! It's not trashy, esp since y'all are already engaged!

jasbaby2 · May 2015

Do your thing. It's not trashy but there may be people who have things to say no matter what you do. I wouldn't give it s second thought and I'd enjoy my wedding! Congrats!

ahowell88 · May 2015

Your wedding. Your baby. YOUR bump. If you decide to rock a bump on your wedding day, those who love you and truly support you won't think twice about it! And anyone that has a problem with it would probably find something to complain about no matter what you did or when you had your wedding! Congrats on the wedding and the baby!

amwright33 · May 2015

My friend got married when she was 5 months along and you couldn't even tell in her dress. The wedding was beautiful.

Pontot31 · May 2015

The only people who matter are you and your fiancé. I would rather get married before the baby. Once they are here you won't be focused on a wedding.
Pick a dress that hides it if you're worried. Otherwise enjoy yourself at your wedding!

hanray2010 · May 2015

I got married at 5 months pregnant Noone knew but my family and we were engaged before the double line

geologynerd · May 2015

If you wanna welcome baby into a married family and are concerned what people will think, then just elope. You, him, fetus at city hall. Keep your spring wedding as the big party. Up to you if you tell people you eloped or if you want a big secret to keep forever.

TacoSarah · May 2015

Only trashy if you do it dressed like this

CarrieOct15 · May 2015

I don't find it trashy. My fiancé & I have been planning to get married either next year or the year after. We've been together for several years, & we don't really consider marriage to be a prerequisite for starting a family. We're not moving the wedding, because I'm looking forward to our little one being there, but that's just our choice. Do what you want- this wedding is for you guys, not anyone else!!

KSabyan · May 2015

TacoSarah said:
Only trashy if you do it dressed like this

Dang so I have to leave my ripped jeans and trucker hat at home! Man oh man what shall I wear. Hahahaha

JLW0504 · May 2015

You could wear this instead of the ripped up jeans, trucker hat and belly shirt

dramaphile · May 2015

My friends did it, and it was a beautiful ceremony and friends and family celebrating them and their baby. For them, it was the sort of situation where she got pregnant, and then he said, "let's get married" and she said "no, not just because I'm pregnant" and he said "dude, I already have the ring" and it was beautiful and perfect for them. Also, it's probably way easier to plan a wedding pregnant than with a baby...

KSabyan · May 2015

JLW0504 said:
You could wear this instead of the ripped up jeans, trucker hat and belly shirt

Bahahahha I'm in love

jholmberg85 · May 2015

My husband and I were the same way. We also wanted to be married before bringing baby into the world. Just personal preference. So we moved up our wedding date from August to February while I was 6 months pregnant. It was a smaller more intimate wedding but it's what we wanted and have been married for 10 years now. Do what you feel is right for you!

dearp · May 2015

We had planned our wedding for this July before we knew we were pregnant. I'm going to proudly rock the bump because why not?! I'm thinking it's just another reminder of how much we love each other.

rubirubi89 · May 2015

Who cares! Do what you want girl! My husband and I were married at the judge's office. Only his parents And my mom were there. All three of them asked if I was pregnant. So did mu co workers. People just like to find abreason to criticize you.

susiaustin · May 2015

My aunt got married 3 weeks before giving birth and her dad DID bring the shot gun as a joke (rural Pennsylvania with card carrying NRA shot gun grandpa) and she was almost 40, had two kids before. They made the joke a about the pregnancy and it was a beautiful ceremony and not trashy at all, I loved the dress she picked and she was 8 months, we were teasing she was going to deliver at the alter.

Jame414 · May 2015

Do it! Sounds beautiful!

TacoSarah · May 2015

JLW0504 said:
You could wear this instead of the ripped up jeans, trucker hat and belly shirt

B!tch stole my look!

mewlysses · May 2015

People who think that are judgmental! In the middle of planning the wedding, my fiancé and I found out we were pregnant! I'll prob have a tiny bump that'll look like chub! It doesn't matter what others think. You're marrying your love and get to bring a baby from that love into this world! That's beautiful!

dapoint23 · May 2015

I got married 4 months pregnant and love to tell my son he's in all of our wedding pictures!

helsbels222 · May 2015

This is 2015, no it's not trashy! I went to a wedding in November where the bride was about 8 months pregnant and she looked beautiful. Like the PPs said, it's about you and your fiancé. No matter what you do, people will judge and have something to say so why not just do what works for the two of you? Besides in the summer you might hardly be showing.

mag9812 · May 2015

I don't think it's trashy at all! Everyone seems to have an opinion when it comes to weddings and babies but like PPs said, it's your wedding and the only opinion that matters is yours and your fiance's. Plus you get to have your little one with you!

elbou · May 2015

If it's trashy, then I was one trashy bride. We got married while I was 7 months pregnant with my first, and no one even mentioned it. They were too busy talking about the awesome food and dj.

I think that the people who love you will be supportive, and if they're not, there's no reason why they have to be invited. Do what makes you happy.

hbrummett10 · May 2015

I married my baby daddy when I was 6 months pregnant. Ignorant people asked ignorant questions like "what are you gonna tell you daughter about her birthday and your anniversary date? She's gonna be able to do math one day" or "aren't you supposed to look hot on your wedding day?". My wedding was absolutely perfect and I felt sexy and beautiful, I was so relaxed and calm the whole day. It was amazing. After my husband kissed the bride, we surprised everyone and he knelt down and kissed my bump - the picture is hanging on our wall and I get choked up looking at it still. I wouldn't re-do it even if I could!

And my daughter is a very intelligent 3 now and gets so tickled when we tell her about how she was at our wedding. Especially because she loves dressing up and loves that she got to marry daddy too!

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