Boyfriend says my belly is gross

Re: Boyfriend says my belly is gross

• whale318 member

  May 2015

  IMO: your boyfriend is gross!
  Lol try and laugh it off as best you can, if this is his first, he might just not know how to handle it.
  If you think he was being deliberately hurtful, talk to him about it.

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• PhoenixRyuu member

  May 2015

  I think you need to talk to him about it either way. Some people have psychological issues with pregnancy and parenting and this may be one of the ways his fear is manifesting itself. I've read stories about people that tried to ignore or suppress issues and they ended up coming out in strange ways that were harmful to the relationship. My suggestion - let him know how surprised and hurt you were and see where the conversation goes from there. If he seems genuinely affected by the pregnancy, you might want to ask him to speak with someone about his concerns, like a counselor, so he can work through the issues before the baby comes.

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• CatsAreShady member

  May 2015

  That sucks. Some people are weirded out by pregnancy. However, I don't think there's a direct correlation between what he thinks about a pregnant belly and how he'll respond to his new baby. (If that was the case, I wouldnt like my kids much at all because I wasnt a huge fan of being pregnant). Luckily, pregnancy isn't a permanent state of being, just a means to an end. He doesn't have to love it (and you can't force him to) but he should be supportive and he should try harder not to be hurtful.

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• angpat85 member

  May 2015

  Thank you for the advice, I told my boyfriend how I felt and he apologized. He's just weirded out seeing me like this. He wasn't trying to be cruel or hurt my feelings.he didn't want this pregnancy at first and it's been a rough road but I'm really trying to get him to embrace it

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• Peach&Dan member

  May 2015

  I'm so sorry for you, hun.... things will get better. My husband loves my belly.... being pregnant is a beautiful experience.

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• stephneejune member

  May 2015

  I do hope that he changes his perspective. That is such an awful feeling. I hope he fully understands someday that having a baby is a beautiful thing and sharing in that experience is confusing, but never gross. You'll love that child so much it hurts to see them get a boo-boo. As long as you love your baby, you'll be giving him or her the security they need.

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• angpat85 member

  May 2015

  This is our first child so I understand his nervousness but I told him to be careful what he says. I'm extra sensitive. I love this baby already more than anything, I know he'll be a great dad, it's just not real to him yet.

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