Shaving

cphbld · May 2015

Hello Ladies,
I am about to go in labor any day now (hopefully). My MIL is staying with us for a month. Yesterday she asked me if I shaved my lady parts to get ready for delivery. I wasn't going to...I can't see down there. So she volunteered to do it for me... awkward. She kept insisting. So now I am worried. Do need to have it cleaned up before the delivery? Does it matter? Are you guys doing it or have done it for past deliveries?

Brieb33 · May 2015

I shaved pre preggo and have tried to keep up w it during pregnancy which is very difficult but only Bc I don't like hair there. But having my mother in law shave it??? Hahaa oh heellllll no and that's the weirdest thing I've heard of asking their DIL. I wouldn't even have my own husband do it.

hmcconn · May 2015

OB-GYNs are doctors, not aestheticians - I have to imagine that they have seen every possible hygienic and style variation possible in the world, and deal with it like professionals. As long as you are clean (like, you bathe ever), I wouldn't fret about it beyond what makes you feel comfortable. Your doctors have been fine giving you vaginal exams throughout the pregnancy, right? And even if you decide to shave, for goodness' sake don't have your MIL do it! That would be deeply awkward for everyone involved, and your MIL's fixation is just weird and her own issue. Next time she brings it up just say, "My doctor and I have it figured out. We don't need to talk about it any more" and change the subject. There are a thousand more important parts of labor to worry about than this!

michali80 · May 2015

OK that's awkward. Tell her you got it covered and let her move on. But yes I keep mine contained. Of course I cant keep it bald like I normally do since I can't see it. But I can feel it and I feel gross when it's too long so I take the razor and gently go over what feels like to much. we video birth so it just make me feel better but honestly I can't even see it on the video cause there is so much other stuff going on that I would much rather look at.

katyeblue · May 2015

My husband did mine like a month ago. I'm over it! Whatever is going on down there now I'm ok with.
MIL.... No way

TBsquared · May 2015

I just shave blindly. I'm sure it's not the best but trust me you don't want a bunch of hair down there when your bleeding like crazy after the birth.

cphbld · May 2015

Oh no no no...I am not letting her go anywhere near that. She really puts me in awkward situations quite a bit. But you guys are right. I have a Dr appointment on Monday, I will just ask there. They haven't had any problems with it so far.

SassFrass · May 2015

I jus shaved for the first time in prob 4 mo, basically for hygenic reasons. I'm going to have enough to take care of besides washing my bush every bathroom break lol its much easier. That being said, I prob won't shave again until the post partum check up when my lady bits have recovered. I wemt at it like a blind gardener. Its not perfect, but good nuff lol

natbcain · May 2015

I get waxed still. Getting waxed 10 days before due date. My midwife said they really don't care what you have going on and if they need to, they can shave it trim it down for you while you are in labor.

mechanicwife · May 2015

I'm not shaving mine, honestly never have. I told my fiance (now husband) before we got married that I would before we went on our honeymoon and he said, "don't shave all of it!!!!", he honestly thinks it's sexy. That being said. I have no intentions of shaving for birth either. I stay clean, and if they decide they want it shaved they can do it themselves. I refuse to go at it blind!

mars8k · May 2015

I'm shaving every few days to get ready, i can't see either i just feel it to see if i got everything lmao, but my sister told me that they do it for you at the hospital if you haven't so of you can't then don't worry about it, but i would die before i let my MIL go anywhere near "there"!!

Knottie54288128 · May 2015

I shaved before pregnancy, honestly I've shaved since I was a teenager. But I can't see or reach down there right now, so no. I don't plan on shaving.

ashleymartie13 · May 2015

I have kept up on shaving, doing it blind or not

i can't stand knowing my lady parts are becoming a jungle!

emilyk527 · May 2015

DH bought me a hand mirror, that helps a bunch! Now to find the energy to do it more than weekly

redsocks59 · May 2015

It used to be a thing that was always done. Somebody would shave down there before baby was delivered. I think it was for cleanliness, but I'm not sure. Do what you are comfortable with. If your MIL keeps pushing the issue, tell her that things have changed since she had babies sooo many years ago.

LadyBlood · May 2015

I'm certainly not shaving for it. I keep it trimmed, but not shaved. Last time I shaved blind and got bad razor burn and was sore and itchy... I'm not willing to risk that discomfort on top of the discomfort we'll all be feeling after birth!!

toddabunny · May 2015

My SO did mine for me, I attempted on my own but kinda made a mess so he had to tidy up lol

blitzy23 · May 2015

Oh my gosh, MIL!!! I've been getting waxed, and she trims up as needed too. If I weren't doing that, I'd probably have my hubby help me to tidy things up!

Sunshine4020 · May 2015

Got waxed 10 days before due date. Waxing is sooo worth it!

mnbando · May 2015

You totally don't need to shave. I didnt with my first and don't plan to this time either. It's not a big deal and fogure the nurses and doctors have seen it all. It didn't cause any issues with my delivery (I had stitches since I tore). However, if you need a c section the nurse will have to quickly shave you before the surgery

babyas15 · May 2015

I am so glad this was posted. Now I know I am not the only one with a bush down there. Ha ha. I just find it impossible to shave when I can't see down there. This is the most hairy I have been... since I don't know in how long. I heard hospitals will shave you though. But I am not sure.

hannahhassonn · May 2015

Omg this is crazyyyy. I'm cracking up! Absolutely N-O to the MIL. She's stuck in the maternity ward circa 1970! I think the only time you have to shave is for a caesarean and that's only if you don't want the doctors to do it for you. Other than that, just be comfortable, whatever that means to you! Xoxo

katieandbilly720 · May 2015

Waxing is soo worth it! I agree! I've done it throughout...and three days before my due date. I think it's all up to personal preference

icajesica82 · May 2015

I think it used to be standard practice to have it cleaned up down there when she gave birth. Not anymore. I've tried to keep it as much as I could but not anymore. I didn't do anything with DD either.

jmorneau09 · May 2015

I wouldn't worry about this at all. Doctors and hospital staff have seen it all. Maybe a good trim is all I would be concerned with just because of all the bleeding afterwards.
They do shave you before a c-section but it's not a full-on shave everything. it's just the top part that would be near the sight of where they open you up. Honestly if you are having a cesarean I would shave that top part on your own because the hospital uses really cheap disposable razors that I'm sure would cause some yucky razor burn.

Kae42 · May 2015

We do see everything, and forget it all in the labour and delivery ward!! I once handed off a patient to a fellow nurse friend of mine, and she asked me later that day about the clitoral ring the patient had - and I had already forgotten about it! Too many other things going on
To be fair though, I did get sugared recently but this was for me, not my coworkers!! Do whatever you feel is best for you

MommaAlyx · May 2015

I just shaved my bits over two days becausebi was tired of the itchiness, and it took two days mostly because our hot water heater is tiny and I hadn't shaved in months so it was quite difficult. My belly really hinders my ability to do a good job, but I did it blindly and my hubby said I did an alright job.

I just read the original post to my MIL, whis here til the 7th, and she was disgusted by the idea... I mean, I wouldn't let my own hubby go at my nethers with a razor, so I'd certainly not let my MIL, both for awkwardness and general fear of being sliced up.

I asked my MW if it mattered and she said absolutely not. She suggested, if you're uncomfortable, keeping it short before delivery only for post partum ease of care (because of swelling, bleeding or tearing). So, unless its 1971 down there, I wouldnt worry.

SmrBrd2012 · May 2015

Oh my gosh. It's just hair! TBH shaving is way more trouble than its worth to me, especially being 9 months pregnant. I've tried to keep it trimmed but that's getting harder now. This is the least of my worries right now!! I'd be soooo weirded out if my MIL asked me that!

TBsquared · May 2015

I just think shaving is beneficial
For aftercare. You bleed a lot and i don't feel like having to clean that up every time I use the bathroom.

djhudson9107 · May 2015

Back in the day the thought it was needed. My mom abd mil both said they were shaved in the hospita. Completely not needed. I don't do any grooming in that area (Hubby has,never asked) one less to worry about mama

MrsElizabethPlano · May 2015

With my first I was completely ungroomed and didn't care. The docs didn't seem to have any problems. But postpartum i felt like the spritz bath and stuff would have been more effective if I didn't have so much hair. Blood getting stuck in it and whatnot... Def not gonna shave for a bit AFTER baby.This one I've been shaving every 3 days it seems, but not meticulously (just by feel since we can't see down there) and going with the hair rather than against. Not a close shave by any definition, but it feels better knowing there may be up to a half inch of hair rather than....idk how long it grows...2in?

IheartTommy · May 2015

They used to do routine shaving & enemas because they thought it was cleaner.
Shaving can actually introduce infection (if you were to get cut accidentally) & they don't do it any more. It's entirely up to personal preference.
My MIL passed away almost 8 years ago, but I think she'd sooner have shaved all her hair off her head before asking me about my pubic hair. Lol

fallenpegasus · May 2015

I shave blindly about once a week or so...obviously it isn't a clean job. Only reason I'm keeping up on it is because I have a friend that recently had a baby, had a tear, had to have stitches, and a hair was caught in the stitching. She ended up having to pluck the hair out because she was in so much pain and finally realized why. Granted, the odds of this happening we're probably slim, I'm still cautious.

hannahwilderr · May 2015

fallenpegasus said:
I shave blindly about once a week or so...obviously it isn't a clean job. Only reason I'm keeping up on it is because I have a friend that recently had a baby, had a tear, had to have stitches, and a hair was caught in the stitching. She ended up having to pluck the hair out because she was in so much pain and finally realized why. Granted, the odds of this happening we're probably slim, I'm still cautious.

oh my gosh. never considered this. *runs to shave*

Want a personalized experience?

Shaving

Re: Shaving

Choose Another Board

Search Boards