My sister is graciously hosting a baby shower for me because I will be a first time mom. I feel strongly about following etiquette and not seeming rude, but I have run into an etiquette issue I am unsure on. She has asked me for a guest list, especially for DH's family. Should I invite long-distance relatives who I know cannot make it? I feel I could offend a relative by not inviting them even though they could not attend. I also feel I could offend them by inviting them if they felt I knew they could not come. Could it seem that I just wanted them to send a gift? I am in no way concerned about getting gifts, I just do not want to offend anyone by not inviting them either. What is the proper etiquette here?