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chelsco13 · May 2015

I had a second degree tear and I'm 6 weeks PP. I was very sore and could barely walk for a week and sometimes I still get sore if I sit a certain way too long and sometimes when I sit on the toilet it's very painful. I'm just wondering from other women who have had a second degree tear, was sex afterward very painful?

Lcasto · May 2015

I'm 8 weeks pp and had a second degree tear.. Was still sore at 6 weeks at times as well and have been slowly recovering. Still haven't had sex.. I think I'm a bit traumatized by my (unintentional) natural birth experience and am totally freaked out by the idea of actual sex. I feel like when my doctor cleared me for regular sexual activity I was given an okay to have drones attack down there. Lol I've been told that it is a little painful at first especially if you've torn. So just take it slow and don't push yourself into it if you aren't quite ready!

chelsco13 · May 2015

@Lcasto I wanted a natural birth but the thought of anything going in down there just sounds awful after giving birth. Thanks for the advice

adelems · May 2015

You may need some more time. And once you are ready, use lots of lubrication and take it super slow. If it's painful for more than a minute or so give it another week. If it's still painful talk to your doctor. He may give you some topical numbing cream. Worked miracles for me with my first

chelsco13 · May 2015

@adelems thank you for the suggestion

062312 · May 2015

I'm almost 8 weeks PP. I too had a second degree tear and had a natural birth. For the first time last night we had sex since the birth of our daughter. The doctor cleared me at 6 weeks I just wasn't ready. I was still very sore. However, last night went so much better than I expected. I was so worried it would be painful. Just take it slow and if a position hurts your husband will understand! Use lots of lubrication!

sunshineshell · May 2015

I've had a forth degree tear and just had the all clear from the hospital but still finding the whole thought if sex traumTic xx

Sugarplum0217 · May 2015

I tore really bad and still have certain pains 7 weeks out. I had sex for the first time a couple days ago and it went a lot better than I expected. I was really scared but it wasn't bad. Just take it really slow, lots of lube and lots of foreplay. If it hurts, stop and wait. I found there were more issues just in my head, make sure the baby is asleep soundly, take a bath, drink some wine, really relax yourself and reestablish that intimacy with your husband, I know sometimes it can be hard when you Just feel like mommy 24/7!

gdamore11 · May 2015

I had a second degree tear and an episiotomy. I waited until 7 weeks and was totally prepared for the worst. It ended up being totally fine once we got past the very beginning. Like everyone has said, use lots of lube and go slow until you feel comfortable. It is really hard to feel sexy when you're in total mommy mode, but it's important to maintain the intimacy in your relationship too!

MauiQuickie · May 2015

I had an unplanned natural delivery too with second degree tears. Just wanted to add that you might want to stay away from tampons for a while! I tried one when I got my period and it hurt..... Bad!

myjessesgirl · May 2015

I had some internal tearing And stitches that were subsequently painful. It definitely hurt at six weeks the first time we had sex, but it is also getting better after a few times. Like others have said: be prepared to go slow and lubricate. And if you aren't comfortable trying it out right now, especially if you're still in a bit of pain without sex, then just hold off another week or two until the discomfort decreases.

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