Telling your other children about your pregnancy

Pookster1020 · April 2015

Hi ladies,

If this is your 2nd child or more, how long are you waiting before telling your kids? My DS is 5. He has been asking for a brother or sister for years! DH had cancer so there's a few more years between the two than we had hoped. I'm almost 14 weeks and we haven't told him yet mostly because the concept of time still eludes him. Just wondering what everyone else did. Thanks ladies!

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xuxachi · April 2015

My 2 kids are still very young, so we didn't really start talking about it until 3rd trimester. Around 20 wks I asked my 3.5 year old if he wanted a little brother, and his reply: no, mommy, I want a cookie!

Pookster1020 · April 2015

xuxachi said:
My 2 kids are still very young, so we didn't really start talking about it until 3rd trimester. Around 20 wks I asked my 3.5 year old if he wanted a little brother, and his reply: no, mommy, I want a cookie!

Ha that's great! I was thinking of waiting until around 20 weeks too but I also don't want he picking it up from conversations around us.

KaLikeAWind · April 2015

I'm a FTM but I know that I was 5 when my sister was born, my parents told me after they learned the sex. I don't know if that was thru an anatomy scan or other testing tho. Either way, I feel like it was around 20 weeks or so, cause I remember she didn't have a belly that I could see. They asked me to name my sister, and told me it would be after I went back to school after the summer to help me place it time wise (my sister was a September baby)

Pookster1020 · April 2015

Thank you! I'm due 10/24 so i was thinking of telling him that he would have a brother/sister right before Halloween.

jerseygirl227 · April 2015

Ha! I thought you were asking when I was going to tell MY siblings, lol!

Pookster1020 · April 2015

Ha - poorly worded title!

I'll see if i can figure out how to change it!

niknak1208 · April 2015

DD is 2 and DS is 6. We told our DS fairly early only because he is 500% boy and he's a little rough sometimes. I had to tell him so that he could remember not to jump on my lap too hard or run at me too hard. I always say the only thing you have to worry about with DS is impact. lol Because he just is full of energy. DD was a little later. I'm 33 weeks so now I think she's starting to come around. I started talking to her about it when we found out it's a boy. Now they both are well aware. When DS found out it was a boy he immediately high fived daddy and said 'sweet, we totally out number them now'. lol Nice! DD is just sweet and always wants to hug on my belly or kiss my belly or talk to my belly. Although she keeps telling her daycare teachers that she's having a baby sister. DS just told his teacher that he's really excited because the baby is coming in two weeks. News to me!

thinkpink101 · April 2015

We told the boys a couple of days ago. They are 11, 10 & 10 and it did NOT go well. They have been so out of sorts ever since we told them Of course it's spring break so they have been home. Not good. I knew they weren't going to be happy, but even I didn't think it was going to be this bad.

KateLouise · April 2015

We told out 3 and 5 yr olds after the 12 week scan, mostly because we wanted to tell other people and didn't want anyone to blurt it out to them before we had.

Obviously it's going to take a while for the baby to be born which will feel like for ever to them, but I figure they'll just have to cope.

It's been worth it though because they've been super cute kissing my tummy and rubbing my back while I'm vomiting in the toilet and telling me, "it's ok Mummy it's just the baby making you sick."

Plus now that I'm really obviously showing they like pointing out how big my tummy is getting and we talk about how much bigger it needs to get, which I think gives them a little concept of time because we've had friends around us have babies recently, so they know I need to grow quite a bit bigger.

Ssoccerball · April 2015

I'd like to get a cell free DNA test around 12 weeks and we figured we'd tell our kiddos after we got the results. My son will be 8 when the baby is born and he has repeatedly asked us for a baby...he will be ecstatic. My daughter will be 6 when the baby is born and she will be devastated, as she currently believes that it is her world and we are all just living in it

cneiding · April 2015

I usually tell mine somewhere around 1/2 way through pregnancy. The very youngest, it means nothing to them. The preschooler age, its too far off for them to really be interested much. So when they are around 5 they will be excited and interested initially, but months away is just so far in their time concept. Some of mine when they were that age stayed excited, interested. Some got impatient. Some just sort of lost interest when the baby didn't come within days or weeks.

jerseygirl227 · April 2015

Pookster1020 said:
Ha - poorly worded title!

I'll see if i can figure out how to change it!

Lol. Nah. It's just where my mind was at the time.

Pookster1020 · April 2015

thinkpink101 said:
We told the boys a couple of days ago. They are 11, 10 & 10 and it did NOT go well. They have been so out of sorts ever since we told them Of course it's spring break so they have been home. Not good. I knew they weren't going to be happy, but even I didn't think it was going to be this bad.

Awww sorry to hear it but they'll come around. They're going to have to!

Are you going to find out what you're having?

Pookster1020 · April 2015

Thanks for all the responses. I'm thinking we'll tell him after my next scan next week.

thinkpink101 · April 2015

We found out it's boy #4. One of the boys said "oh no, I have too many brothers already!". They have not warmed up to the idea yet

MCH77 · April 2015

We told our son (3 1/2) around 13/14 weeks after getting the results of our bloodwork.

Pookster1020 · April 2015

thinkpink101 said:
We found out it's boy #4. One of the boys said "oh no, I have too many brothers already!". They have not warmed up to the idea yet

Congratulations on having another boy! They will come around!

Pookster1020 · April 2015

MCH77 said:
We told our son (3 1/2) around 13/14 weeks after getting the results of our bloodwork.

We're thinking of telling our son this weekend. Just had my NT scan and all was good. I'll just brace myself for 26 weeks of questions.

Housefluff · April 2015

That is hilarious!!

djf911 · May 2015

Well found out I was pregnant at 18 weeks 3days with home pregnancy test, confirmed with blood test the next day and then found out how far a long a couple days later at 18w 6 days. Told 16 yr old son that night and told my BF's 12 yr old son that weekend (2 days later).

Pookster1020 · May 2015

djf911 said:
Well found out I was pregnant at 18 weeks 3days with home pregnancy test, confirmed with blood test the next day and then found out how far a long a couple days later at 18w 6 days. Told 16 yr old son that night and told my BF's 12 yr old son that weekend (2 days later).

That must have been quite a shock!

HWKI · May 2015

My daughter is 5 and we would have preferred to wait to tell her (I have had a miscarriage and she been begging for a few years for a sibling ). We were careful to not say anything in front of her when we found out but the day after we got a positive test result she told all of her teachers and classmates she was having a little sister. We denied it to them for a few weeks but she kept insisting so we finally admitted it to her and everyone she told.lol

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