Mean letter to new mom about too many FB post...

mommy1922 · April 2015

Have yall seen this article? A woman was a bit overzealous about posting pics of her first child, and someone sent her an anonymous letter of complaint. A HAND written letter at that. I would have been livid! My point is this...it's MY Facebook page. Don't like what you see, unfriend/unfollow me! And the nerve to be anonymous. I hate an anonymous thug... What would you ladies do?

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3038419/She-crawls-mat-DONT-CARE-Mother-reveals-message-sent-friends-Facebook-said-sick-oversharing-information-daughter.html?ito=social-facebook

babymorgan72015 · April 2015

Sending a letter is going too far, I agree it's rude. However, I do understand being annoyed. I have some fb friends and family members that I constantly am clicking "I don't want to see this" because they post baby stuff EVERY single day. It's too much in my opinion, I personally don't want to see anyone's child everyday aside from mine. When my baby girl comes I fully intend to take tons of pictures of her but I will not be sharing them on social media regularly by any means.

mommy1922 · April 2015

@babymorgan72015 Yes I agree with you. I plan to take a lot of pics too, but I won't be posting all day every day lol But just like you clicked the button, her friends could have done the same.

gotdiesel2007 · April 2015

I've had people complain but I tell them how it is. I live 4,000 miles
(soon t be 7,000) away from family posting on Facebook is the only way
they see them. If I didn't post my life there they wouldn't be able to
"know" my kids, especially after this next move which will put us 13
hours ahead of everyone so phone calls will be difficult as well. If they don't like it there is an unfriend button and I won't be sad at all.

AmommyB · April 2015

That is ridiculous. It's a simple solution. If you don't like what someone posts simply unfollow their feed or unfriend them. That's what I do when people start getting real politicaI or nasty. If someone is your friend, I would imagine they deserve a little more kindness than to send an ugly anonymous letter.

melissafosmore14 · April 2015

I agree that everyone's Facebook page is theirs to do with as they please. I have personally unfriended people just because I got tired of seeing too much of their personal life. Another option to maybe consider for the folks that just love to put up pictures is Instagram. That way you still can put all the pictures up for family and close friends, plus you have more control on who can and can't see your pictures.

ttaruuht · April 2015

I dont even think people posting is a big deal. Its their page. Don't like it? Unfollow them. It's that simple.

grlplz · April 2015

She brought up such a good point... what if she had been struggling with PPD or adjusting to motherhood? That could have had a horrible outcome.

I don't get people. Just unfollow/unfriend them, hide it from your time line or just freaking ignore it. I've had to tell people off because they didn't like something I posted. I was like "And.... I should care what you think about MY page because?" I unfriendly them and blocked them. Saved them the trouble of having to comment on everything I posted that they didn't like.

cmorden1114 · April 2015

I agree with the other ladies. If they don't like it they can un-friend me. I fully intend on filling my Facebook with pictures of my son

to be FB is about sharing what's going on with your life, and as a new mommy your baby is your life!

Sanine · April 2015

The letter is unnecessary, but something to think about... Do you personally know everyone of your Facebook friends? Like enough to trust them with your personal information, or enough to house sit? When was the last time you actually hung out with these Facebook friends?

We post so much personal information on Facebook, that these "friends" know more than they should. Almost, if not everything, needed to steal identities. What's needed to get a copy of the birth certificate or social security card? Name, date of birth, mothers maiden name? Of you check into the hospitalized, that gives "friends" where the child was born and another piece of information needed to steal identities.

This is definitely worse case scenario, but think of all the information put out there and when you actually last interacted with all your friends. Who you can actually trust. I'm on mobile so I can't hyperlink, https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2591886/Womans-family-home-burgled-Facebook-friend-posted-profile-going-vacation.html .

I'm sorry this is long, I actually had to write a 12 page research paper on over sharing on social media. Long story short, unless you personally know and hang out with these friends they may not really be your friend. Are you willing to share your child with someone you don't know or may not be able to fully trust?

mommy1922 · April 2015

@Sanine you've made an excellent point and I will definitely consider this when I begin posting. And I think you're right, the letter was unnecessary. I think her friends could have responded to her posts a little better than they did. I don't think they were being caring or advising her to be cautious as you are. When people approach me out of care and concern, that can make all the difference. Probably would have for that lady too.

Sanine · April 2015

Exactly @mommy1922, until I had to write the paper, I shared a lot about my family and vacations, and never thought about how it can come back to kick me in the butt. I've unfollowed friends who post too many pics for my liking, I've even unfriended. But never would I have thought to write a mean letter like that.

ChristyM87 · April 2015

I am going to play devil's advocate for a moment. My husband has a friend from college who had her first baby 6 months ago. She posts no less than 50-75 pictures a day on facebook of her child. Every single day. She changes him into 4-5 different outfits some days for photos too. I love cute babies as much as the next person but it is too much, to the point I have wondered if this is a sign of post-partum depression or post-partum OCD.

chantellbroussard · April 2015

I post pictures of my children. I could care less who doesn't like it. I have only close friends and family on my FB anyway. I don't add acquaintances and I actually only have a few people that I allow to show in my newsfeed. If someone doesn't want to see what I post, they can hide me from their newsfeed, they can unfriend me. I could give a shit less. I am always going to post what I want and everyone else be damned. I don't post hundreds of pictures a day, but I probably post 40 every few weeks when we take the kids to do something.

stormyyautumn · April 2015

Honestly, I get annoyed when people post those series of like 50 pictures and they're all EXACTLY the same except for maybe a slight change in hand or head position. haha - it doesn't annoy me enough to the point where I would write someone a letter.. I just keep scrolling and don't pay attention to it. At the end of the day, people can post whatever the hell they want on facebook, it's THEIR facebook - I am forever more ranting about political issues and what not on mine and I'm sure people get sick of my shit, but I don't care. lol

stormyyautumn · April 2015

oh! and I just watched something yesterday about this crazy lady "internet kidnapping" this bloggers child! Here's the link.. it's totally creepy.. https://www.thedoctorstv.com/videos/digital-kidnapping

Koalaknuckles · April 2015

Seeing constant pics of other people's children on Facebook gets annoying sometimes, but I try to remember that these parents (and it's always moms) are just excited.

I have a friend who swore that she wouldn't be one of those people, and now she's one of the worst offenders.

I just wish people wouldn't post about EVERYTHING. Like potty training. I know it's necessary, and something I have to look forward to in the future. But I don't need to hear about how many times your kid has pooped today. And I REALLY don't need to see a picture of them on the potty.

My problem with the letter is that the person/people who wrote it are cowards. I hate passive aggressive people.

As everyone said, just hide that person's status updates and you're golden.

But people don't because then they'd have nothing to complain about.

JHaworth84 · April 2015

I agree with the opinions above- people posting too many pictures is essentially harmless, unfollow or unfriend and move on. I posted more with DD1 than I did with DD2 (the poor child doesn't even have a baby memories record book bless her it's blank lol). I'm sure it annoyed the hell out of loads of my friends as I was one of the first to have children but five years on and the tables have turned. Yes it's not particularly exciting for me seeing ALL their individual milestones but it's nice seeing my friends enjoying their children and experiencing that same pride I have with my own. Surely that's a positive to be interested in your children?! Xx

elliottortiZ · April 2015

what is the point of facebook, if you are not going to share things. Thats the whole point of it. To express yourself so people will see it. So people know whats going on in your life. If you have nothing to share then dont have a facebook. Its that simple. I dont have a facebook, and i wouldn't care what people post at all. People complain about the dumbest things.

mommy1922 · April 2015

You ladies are so right!

zmombie · April 2015

I'm exactly! If you don't like it, don't look! Who cares if she posts 100 pictures a day. At least she's happy about the baby. I have facebook friends that post nothing but negativity daily.. I unfollow them. People just gotta be twats!

Ckorines · April 2015

My family is in South America and its the only way they have ever seen my daughter. I'd rather see pictures of my friends babies than of what people are eating. Please don't post pictures of your meals. It's cruel to tease a pregnant woman.

mommy1922 · April 2015

LOL! @Ckorines

Sanine · May 2015

This makes me sound paranoid, but this may be another reason to consider who your friends are before posting a ton of photos on Facebook.
https://www.kutv.com/news/features/top-stories/stories/Riverton-mom-finds-kids-pictures-on-porn-sites-125177.shtml#.VUYdOyXD_qA

mommy1922 · May 2015

Oh My Goodness!!! Now THAT'S scary! @Sanine

Sanine · May 2015

Right?! Its a shame people take advantage of kids and parents like that.

mhuang1 · May 2015

I was just thinking about this today! All of my family is scattered around and I rarely see anyone besides my mom, brother, and one set of grandparents. So I can understand posting photos of your LO for the family you never see, but some of it is just excessive. I have several friends on Facebook who just do not stop at one photo.

zmombie · May 2015

Sanine said:
This makes me sound paranoid, but this may be another reason to consider who your friends are before posting a ton of photos on Facebook.
https://www.kutv.com/news/features/top-stories/stories/Riverton-mom-finds-kids-pictures-on-porn-sites-125177.shtml#.VUYdOyXD_qA

Omg!!! I only add people I know and that's how it sounded for her as well and this still happened.. I have my profile set to private as well... But if people can hack major security systems and ect, hacking a Facebook is nothing.. My ex was a computer genius.. Found out he was hacking into my Facebook like it was simple everyday stuff. (After we split up and I changed all my passwords cause he knew them) so if he could do it, anyone can. This story is sad and makes me just not want my kids pictures up at all!

Side note to that... People need to be aware that when posting a picture from your phone, if you have gps enabled, the address is attached to your phone. So say you post a picture of your child's first day at school... Creeps can have a picture of your kid, a name and an address of where to find them. There was a story about one guy who was finding pictures like this and picking the kids up. Calling them by name and telling them there parents wanted him to get them. Sick disgusting world! I pray daily for my kids safety.

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