Wearing heels yay or nay?

mriee · May 2015

I've been a heel girl all my life, my motto is the higher the better. But since becoming pregnant my husband has banned me from wearing heels higher then 3 inches! He claims it's a safety issue and all my friends back him up. It's so frustrating because I know how to walk in heels and even if I did fall over the baby would be fine. I've asked my doctor and she said I'm right as long as your not uncomfortable and feel steady you can wear what you like, but still I get judgement. I've yet to see a single pair of flats or kitten heels that don't make me gag. If I thought the baby was in danger I'd suck it up but he's not. Does anyone agree with me or does everyone think I'm just being selfish?

jemholo · May 2015

Honestly I'm more curious about what dynamic you have that allows your husband to "ban" you from anything. If my husband tried to do that - especially with respect to what I'm "allowed" to put on my own body - it would not go over well. We can have discussions and I take his feelings into account, but he sure as hell doesn't dictate what I do! How did that conversation even go??

If your doctor says it's fine and you're comfortable I don't see why not. I'm not physically comfortable in heels lately, even though I'm not afraid of falling over, but to each his own.

changedname · May 2015

I still wear them and am 26Wks. There are some that bother me by the end of the day and I just say eh I'll wait till after baby for thIsd. But as long as you are comfortable etc... wear them as long as you can/want!

If my husband ever banned me from them I would probably smack him and ask who he thinks he's talking to lol. He actually helped buckle a pair for me the other week lol

laineyjewel · May 2015

I still wear them at 25 weeks! As long as you wore them comfortably before pregnancy and you know how to walk in them I don't see the problem, and my Dr told me the same as your Dr.
If you and your Doc are comfortable with you wearing them, go for it!

mlt13 · May 2015

I wore them all them time before I was pregnant. Once I found out I was pregnant I opted more for flats. I've worn heels on some occasions throughout the pregnancy though. I'd say as long as you are comfortable then I see no harm.

heath3er · May 2015

I have bought old navy flip flops in every color. I don't want my good shoes to stretch out.

SKLLH23 · May 2015

My doula and midwife suggested going all flats for safety and baby positioning reasons. I've taken their advice, but I think it is really up to you and what you feel comfortable with. DH's heart is in the right place, but he doesn't get to tell you what to do! Stick with what your Dr tells you.

That said, good point @heath3er! I'd hate to stretch my good heels.

kedbach · May 2015

I don't know about yall, but FTM at 27 weeks, and noticing terrible balance and center of gravity! Heels (aside from wedges) would be a death wish for me right now!!! As long as you can safely walk in them, go for it!! I'm going to stick to my jacks and rainbows!

honeybee530 · May 2015

I'm still wearing them when swelling allows, lol!! As for hubby banning me....from heels or anything else....let's just say he'd try it once

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missmarissa711 · May 2015

I just wore them to a shower yesterday and I was perfectly comfy. They were about 2 1/2 inches. I plan on wearing them to the wedding in about 3 weeks

KristinaD217 · May 2015

So I suck at walking in heels. But, I enjoy wearing wedges (which are totally diffrent) the reason I stopped wearing the high ones was because even barefoot I trip. Kitten heels and elevated flip flops are good enough for me.

I have to ask Luke the other ladies did, why did you allow your h to ban you from heels, unless you're exceptionally clumsy like me it should be fine?

Rabbi · May 2015

I find heels more comfortable as it tends to alleviate some back pain. Weird I know, but once a heels girl, always a heels girl. If you're doctor is okay with it, I would do it. Your friends and your husband aren't you, and they can't tell you what "right". For as few things make me feel sexy right now, I'll hold onto my heels as long as I possibly can.

mriee · May 2015

I've worn heels for so long my tendons have shortened so if I tried wearing flats I'd be in agony, so they are out. My husband is just super paranoid about my safety he'd wrap me up in bubble wrap if he could lol I know his hearts in the right place. I've been promised brand new 6 inch manolos will be brought to the hospital the day of the birth. At 26 weeks I've yet to see any swelling and I havnt put much weight on so I feel almost exactly the same as I did before the baby. Though I have been told the 7th month is when everything changes so I'll just have to see...

lifesabeach85 · May 2015

I'm a little curious about your comment that if you did fall over the baby would be fine. That is not necessarily true, for a fall off of 5 or 6 inch heels. You could (though not necessarily obviously) seriously hurt yourself or your baby with a nasty spill. That is why my OB recommended I not ride a bike, as she had a patient lose her baby by falling in her third trimester.

That said, lots of things can hurt you out there and you have to live your life. So, as long as you understand the risks and are being careful it should be your call.

CaliforniaDream87 · May 2015

I'm still wearing my heels and my husband cannot and will not ban me from doing anything. That actually makes me LOL.

neludelu · May 2015

Your husband banned you? Sorry I stopped reading after that because I was concerned that the 1940's time warp would get me too.

suzienickles10 · May 2015

I am confused by a few of the sentences in your comments. Number 1 your husband 'banning' you which I hope you are joking here. Second, if you did fall, no it's not 100% that your baby would be ok. I have fallen twice in my first pregnancy and once this time in flats. I guess I become really unbalanced when pregnant and it's very scary. You could hurt yourself and your baby. With that said I do wear wedge heels from time to time but if you fall you CAN hurt your baby.

ambercdc · May 2015

I'm still wearing heels at 25 weeks, though I work from home so not during the week much. I wear them in the weekends just as I did before being pregnant

amylianne · May 2015

I wore heels all through my 1st pregnancy, and continue to through this one. Your center of gravity does get a bit off as you get big, so just be careful. I also had spare flip flops with me toward the very end. A hot summer and too much time on your feet can make heels uncomfortable, and when everything else hurts I just didn't have the willpower to deal with it.
My husband was just commenting on my gigantic platforms this weekend. He's 6'4" and I'm 5'2", so I've worn high shoes all our marriage (and before). I understood "banning" you as "strongly suggested"...

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