Feeling Ugly and Crappy!

mrscate88 · May 2015

Sorry to be a downer today ladies but I just got back from a family lunch and we took some pictures that made me realize how chubby I've gotten. Not baby belly fat, just puffy chub all over! Before we left the house I did my hair and makeup, nothing fancy, but decent enough for going out to lunch. Well everyone wanted to get pics of me and my hubby's aunt who is also pregnant. She's tall and beautiful and looks like a thin super model, and I just felt so plain and chubby. I looked at the pics and started tearing up, because it totally looks like I've just let myself go. I've never cared what other people thought and always felt pretty and happy in my average-girl skin, but today I just feel like crap. Hoping it's just a hormonal mood and I'll feel better as the baby bump starts to make an appearance

seg6394 · May 2015

Aww I'm sorry girl!! I totally know exactly how you feel. I took a picture the other day with my cousin who is like 8 weeks ahead of me, and she's also taller but looks so much cuter because she's super pregnant and I'm just chubby awkward. It's funny because I had done my hair and makeup too which I don't do very much, so I thought I was looking fab! Haha but not so much. I just try to keep telling myself that we are our toughest critics, and what we see is not what everyone else sees. I'm definitely not a tall thin supermodel type, but whenever I send my husband a picture of myself these days he just goes on and on about how beautiful he thinks I am, how amazing I am for carrying our child, etc. He's definitely a little biased

But really, you know when you take a picture with someone that you think looks really pretty and then they look at the picture they pick out like 5,000 things wrong with it? And you're like wait, you look awesome?!? I think that's how it is. I don't know you but I am sure you looked and still look beautiful, even if you look different from what you are used to seeing yourself as. Just remember how much of a badass you are for growing a human right now, and that people are probably looking at you thinking, "Wow! She looks beautiful!" My advice is to remember why your body is changing, and ignore that negative voice in your head as much as possible. Hang out with your hubby, watch a good movie or show, and maybe have a treat of some sort to celebrate your awesomeness

runbaby24 · May 2015

^ couldn't give better advise than that!!

Sometimes it's all in our head

brush it off and remember that it's not about looking like a supermodel it's about remembering the special memories hanging out with your family and growing your little one

mrscate88 · May 2015

@seg6394 Thank you for making me feel better, you're so thoughtful and I'm glad someone else understands what it's like to be in that awkward chubby stage haha. Those pics just hit me the wrong way in the wrong moment, but I think you're right that we are pretty awesome for growing ourselves a human! I'll have to remember that when I'm feeling down.

Shundiec · May 2015

I miss looking like myself sooo much. I find it hard to take compliments right now which has never been a problem for me. Most of it is in our heads but we do look different and for the best reason in the world. You are so not alone and fully understandable to have a bad day during this process.

lilascott · May 2015

I am.going through the same thing. I have beeb rifeling through clothing trying to find somthing, ANYTHING to make me feel attractive. try to take little more time with makeup and hair. And i end up in tears of frusteration
I cannot accept compliments whole heartedly cause i always feel so crappy.
I keep.telling myself its hormones but when i seee a.pretty , glowing, preggo flounce by i find myself feeling awful and just want to hide.

louiseambrose · May 2015

Yep, I felt fat and puffy all day today. My belly is finally popping but I've always had a generous ass (and all the squats I'm doing in yoga probably aren't helping) and my husband said today that from the side I look like an S curve. Thanks, babe. He loves it, but I miss feeling like me.

PickledPlums · May 2015

I'm with you, ladies. I'm getting married on the 30th and I don't even want pictures - I'm just a couple pounds shy of my highest weight, but it's distributed differently than I'm used to and makes me feel like a whale. DF can't stop telling me I'm beautiful or pretty or glowing or cute but I just feel like a blob.

barrelocarol · May 2015

I totally get this!!

Growing beer gut of a belly...ok. I can deal with that till I'm all bumped out and round.

My super skinny sexy arms are growing and my underwear is getting too tight! No! X(

And, I feel like my moon face is puffing up a bit.

My husband is amazing. I was just telling him about this post and what I'm writing...as I'm writing this. I asked him if he could see other parts of me growing.

His response: (blank face) Are you on The Bump again?

Translation: No. You're making our child and I find you so sexy. :x

str13 · May 2015

I'm sorry you feel yucky!! I totally get it, and hope it passes too!! All the girls at work are going on a diet together, I know I can't diet with them. But everyone's losing weight and looking so cute for summer and I look like a slug.....
I'm trying to stay positive (and avoid mirrors!), but it sucks.
@seg6394 is totally right! We're super badass for growing A FREAKING HUMAN!!! We're awesome!

viccondon · May 2015

I finally "popped" on the weekend (21wks) and already I'm feeling a million times better. Actually looking pregnant now instead of just chubby. Don't be so hard on yourself- it's all for a good cause

AshandJesse9409 · May 2015

Aww! I'm sorry you felt this way about yourself today! I think a lot of us are in the same boat as you right now. Our bodies are really starting to change at this point. I was at an outside concert yesterday and offered these drunk girls some ice from our cooler since they ran out. They offered me a beer in exchange and I said "I wish, but I'm pregnant!". They were saying that they were wondering whether I was prego or just "letting it all hang out" in their words. Lol They were drinking so maybe they were a little more "honest" than usual and nice abt it and said I looked cute, but it made me feel super self conscious that they actually had that discussion and I started wondering who else thought that $:\$ "> totally not used to that feeling! Just know that you're not alone and soon we'll be in the "she's def prego" stage proudly rocking a serious baby bump! I'm sure you looked beautiful!

surprisepkg31 · May 2015

I hate that we all feel this way! I too went to a bachelorette party in the mtns this weekend. Since I couldn't drink I just snacked all day. The girls posted pics on fb of us all and oh lordy! My boobs are about the size of everyone's heads! I'm just looking very husky as well. I really noticed in my calves which sounds weird! It's like I've been pumped full of cream cheese. My nose already looks wider. I actually went and got a contouring make up kit so I could learn to make my nose look a little less wide! Lol My sweet husband says I look beautiful and I so appreciate it but I just don't feel comfortable at all!!!

surprisepkg31 · May 2015

Oh and I am surrounded by pregnant friends right now who all are barely looking pregnant and gaining nothing! I'm the "big one" of the group, it's so hard to be around the thin gals w the perfect bump and no symptoms, loving the pregnancy experience lol. I'm terrified of what I will look like in another 4 months! !!

mrscate88 · May 2015

Thank you ladies, I'm glad that I'm in good company at least :-) I know it's silly to be down on ourselves at this point, but man some days are just soo unpleasant for pictures! My husband got home and I was just a weepy mess and he tried so hard to reassure me that I'm beautiful and amazing to him, but it was just something in me that I had to deal with today. I ended up going for a nice challenging hike to clear my head, and I'm feeling much better tonight. Hope all you ladies are able to stay positive and fight through those rough moments.

JayKaygill · May 2015

Ugh, I've been feeling the same way! I'm already so short and just look like I've gained 15 pounds. It's not just the weight though, I just haven't felt pretty. My hair has been blah and my face looks puffy. Probably from allergies but my eyes have also been looking so red and swollen. I took my 20 week baby picture yesterday and had to cut off my head. How sad is that! I've been feeling pretty great mentally & physically before all this but now I'm finding that I'm getting worried about how I will look at my upcoming inlaws shower. Every time I see a recent picture of myself I want to cry. Why do I look so bad now?!?! Or why do I just feel this way in my head? Rant over.

excited2bmommy09 · May 2015

I'm so sorry you had a rough day! Happy to hear it got better after your hike! I definitely know how you feel. I swear half of the weight I've gained is in my face and the other half is in my butt and thighs! It's hard watching your body change even when it is for a wonderful reason. Hang in there! You're beautiful even if you have moments you don't feel like you are

mrscate88 · May 2015

@JayKaygill Awe I'm sorry you've been feeling crappy too! I know we need to try and stay positive. Hubby told me to go buy a new outfit and get my hair done haha, and that's pretty much unheard of so I'm taking advantage of that this week :-)

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