thank you all for your comments yes I am a big brat thank you. I am sorry to have posted my views without being able to get the point I was trying. I rewrote my post several times trying to come up with the best way to not sound bratty but it never did. What I was trying to say in the first place was if anyone felt as a failure to their host because they spent so much time and effort in the babyshower. Way more then I expected or would want her to spend on me and feel guilty. Yes in original post and edit I brought up the fact that the presents I recieved where not equal in value to how much she spent. However the idea to my post was feeling as if I gave her nothing to show for her efforts. A big failure I feel like. Yes the party was fun and I equate spending time with family and friends in high value but I feel terrible that she did so much and would never have asked her to do that nor would I have wanted her to do so much for me so I feel like I owe her big time and I could never do so. Thank you again on your comments and point of views. I will not longer be active on this posting and thank you all for participating next time I will do a draft of my post so that I can get what I meant a crossed or probaly not post after all.