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NBR: need birthday help ideas for DH. Want to spoil him

KateLouiseKateLouise member
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Hi everyone,
DH is basically going through a really tough time. He's put his Mum into residential palliative care this week, and has been frantic running around getting his own work stuff done, looking after her house, and doing all the stuff that goes with residential care (doctors, admin, power of attorney, his Mum's finances, setting up her room etc etc etc)

His birthday is in 3 or 4 weeks and I'd really like to spoil him, but because of his Mum being in care we can't just go away for the weekend or even really book in anything substantial because her health is declining rapidly. Plus his evenings are busy trying to visit his Mum, catch up on work because he's had so many days off, and just fit in normal household stuff before falling asleep on the couch.

So I came up with the idea of giving him a birthday week (his actual birthday falls on a Tuesday), and try and give him a treat every day, so that it's not a huge issue in terms of time.
My thoughts so far:
- A morning or afternoon doing something with the girls possibly ten pin bowling or maybe a picnic.
- A selection of craft beers (he brews his own and loves sampling boutique beers)
- Some fine cheeses/chocolates.
- Some new clothes maybe a new shirt.
- An dinner out just the two of us to somewhere really nice in town.
- A date night at home with a bottle of wine (Obviously I'm not drinking but I could get him his favourite) and a war film, which he loves watching.

I figure the activities won't take too much time, and they're flexible so it won't be a huge drama if we need to shift them to accommodate something for his Mum, but that they'd give him a break and a change of scenery. 

I still feel like I need to get him something "big" but I'm out of ideas. He's into fishing and golf, but has zero time for those at the moment (perhaps a voucher for a sports shop for when he does have time?)

Also any other small ideas so that I can basically shower him with treats through the week, but not impact, or stress him out with demands, on his time, would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks ladies. 
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Re: NBR: need birthday help ideas for DH. Want to spoil him

  • thinkpink101thinkpink101 member

    A massage?

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  • jerseygirl227jerseygirl227 member
    Is it legal to ship craft beers across countries?   If you wanted, maybe I could ship a few from here for him to try.  

    The wine and the war film sound good, too.

    One thing I did for my fiance when he turned 40 was give him 40 gifts.  I set up carnival games in the back yard and he had to "win" them.  Now, some of these gifts were little, of course.  He had a blast.  Might be a little much for you with a LO on the way and all the time it takes, but maybe something similiar would be fun.  Like a hole in one contest or a small "fishing" pond where he can win his gifts.

    Of course, all that could be totally too dorky for you.  (We are big dorks over here, lol.)

    Good luck!!!
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  • niknak1208niknak1208 member
    You are well ahead of me!! Our 10 yr anniversary is the 14th of May. His birthday is the 26th of May. OB thinks I may go as early as the 20th of May.  I haven't done a darn thing and have NO ideas!!  I asked him what he wanted to do for our anniversary and he said.. should we get totally crazy and order pizza? lol We've just been so busy and we're both exhausted.  
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  • mindaamindaa member
    My DH would be totally happy and spoiled with a supply of beer and action flicks, haha :)

    When I need creative ideas, I'll often go to Groupon (etc)... can find some very unique local services and products. And it's usually more helpful for relatives who you don't live with, but I also get good ideas by doing Google searches like "best gift for a golfer", or fisherman etc. That will often bring up ideas that I wouldn't have otherwise thought of. Can you tell I love Online gift shopping? :)

    jerseygirl227, your carnival idea is awesome... but kinda makes me tired, sounds like a lot of work! 
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    Married in 2006, TTC #1 since Jan 2012

    Baby Boy born June 1, 2015

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  • KateLouiseKateLouise member
    THanks ladies for your thoughts.

    @jerseygirl227 your carnival idea sounds super fun, but I'm not sure I have the energy, plus it will be hard to predict how much energy DH will have on any given evening for game playing.
    Your suggestion did make me think of a treasure hunt however, which feels like less effort to create and less energy output required from DH too. So I'm thinking a treasure hunt with a treat or gift at each stop. Or maybe a trail of beer :)

    We have a supermarket up the road which has an awesome range of international and local boutique beers, so the beer is easily sorted :)
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