Worried about looking young/Venting/Rant...
JennKempen
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I have always looked very young for my age. I am about 5'0" and about 115 pounds at ~17 weeks pregnant. People still mistake me for a high school student and I am 26. Now, I am not complaining, as this will help me in the future (hopefully), but with being pregnant in the summer I am concerned. If (when) I get too swollen with the heat to wear my wedding ring, I can only imagine the rude comments under people's breaths as they share with their friends how I am another '16 and pregnant girl flaunting her pregnancy'. Now while I have nothing against those who are young and pregnant, and I actually give them a shit ton of credit, I am proud of myself for waiting until marriage and am nervous that people will piss me off and think otherwise. I coached gymnastics and recently gave that up, but one of the dads of the kids who doesn't know me very well said to me as I was walking out, "Good luck with your pregnancy, you know, if it was planned..." I was taken back and his wife told him that I am married and he apologized, but HOW RUDE. So if it wasn't planned I shouldn't be congratulated on the life I have growing inside of me? What an ass...
I have a seasonal camper at a campground that is very into drinking and me and my husband will still go down to the bar to see a band and he will have a couple of drinks, and I am worried about drunk idiots saying something to really set a hormonal woman off.
Has anyone else had these issues and found a way to deal with the rudeness of people? I already had 2 drunks that I didn't know come up to me, look at my belly and said, "how old are you?". I glared and responded with, "How old are you? I didn't know it was appropriate to go up to random people and ask that, but since you asked, you tell me first." I can only imagine my potty mouth and attitude getting the best of me and really making a scene and want to avoid it.
Thanks!
Re: Worried about looking young/Venting/Rant...
As for rude drunks, dish it right back. They may not recall it later, and if they do, oh well. Lol
I am same pre pregnancy size-- 5'6" and 110lbs-- and I ALWAYS get mistaken for a high schooler or right out of high school when I'm 27! It's kind of funny at times but I totally totally understand your fears.
All my friends had babies in high school or right after with their at the time boyfriend and I wanted to wait and have a husband and a good solid marriage before bringing another life into this world.
I think I might get a cheap band to wear when my finger swells but have also thought I know in my heart that I am a happily married woman who is fully able and responsible enough to care for mine and my husbands child. Who cares what others think. (But I still hear the whispers in my head when I forget my rings that day...)
Totally feel ya on this fear.
Prior to pregnancy. Im 27 and I'm an RN and get harrassed all the time about am I a student or how old I am I only look 16. People are shocked when I say I've been married over 3 years. I don't have a full blown pregnancy belly yet but I can only
Imagine the insensitive things people are going to say! Glad to know I'm not alone, and like you said when we are 60 we will look young and fabulous!!
Just embrace the fact that you look young. When my daughter was in preschool people thought I was a babysitter or older sister. So some moms wouldn't even talk to me. But whatever, that is their issue not mine. I am 31 and people are surprised when they find that out. I just hope I take after my mom when I am 45. But then it would probably look weird when I am out with my 20 yo daughter!