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People giving things we don't want/need

cmorden1114cmorden1114 member
in July 2015 Moms
So, I know I should be grateful for everything people want to do for my little family, but as a FTM and a self proclaimed germ a phobe, I am pretty turned off by some of the things people have tried to give me. My aunt who has never had children has found random things in the basement of her business, the basement is moldy and smelly and she came over to our house and dropped off a bunch of really old baby gear....Such as a changing table with paint chipped all over it, stroller travel system missing the car seat, a car seat that looks like the one I had when I was a baby, a bunch of old stained blankets and clothes, and A USED BROKEN BREAST PUMP, and said she had even more stuff she wanted to give me! She then proceeded to tell my mother she shouldn't have bought me the stroller/car seat system that was from my m registry because I didn't need/deserve "new things" because i'm 20 years old and didn't mean to get pregnant. How to I tell her I don't want this stuff?? DH and I have already gotten rid of most of it but I don't even want this stuff in my house! How can I tell her nicely that I don't want it? Even though we're young, I want my baby to have the things that I want to give him, and more importantly things that are safe. We have saved for months and are almost done buying stuff for my LO. 
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  • AziaNickAziaNick member
    I agree with sschwege. I would say a polite thank you and suggest other options like the charities. If she insists, just take it and send it straight to the dump/charity. You could even suggest to your aunt about a garage sale. Or even explain to her that you and your husband don't want certain second hand things because it could be unsafe for your baby. Like an outdated stroller...very dangerous and a used breast pump...Ya, you want the best for your little one.
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  • cmorden1114cmorden1114 member
    Thanks for the advice ladies that's what I think I'm going to do the next time! :)
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  • LibbyC730LibbyC730 member
    I'm glad your mom talked to her! My first thought was "that's her grandbaby!!"
    I'm surprised your aunt even wants to "help" at all given her opinion on your age. Just wanted to clean out her basement apparently.
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  • shenry43shenry43 member
    And old car seat and stroller is a huge safety concern too! Just get rid of the items and get your baby what you can. People will get lots of things for the baby at the shower too. She sounds like a bitch. Explain that you really don't want items that have stains and are broken and ancient!
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  • mers90mers90 member
    My aunt gave me all those stuff that she wants to keep but doesn't have room for when I got pregnant with my son 5 years ago, I didn't use most of them to be honest but I knew she was gonna ask them back so I just put everything in boxes and every time she asks for something I give it back to her and just tell her "it was really useful, thank you!"
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  • beeishbeeish member
    I can't believe she would say you don't deserve new things!?!? What is her problem?!? I'm glad your momma put her in her place.
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  • mommy1922mommy1922 member
    Honey, you're better than me because she would have had some words thrown at her! How dare she make such comments! You are married! Wow... Thank God for mamas cause mine has certainly had my back! Your baby deserves the best. She probably wouldn't give her daughter those items! Ok, I'm sorry. No disrespect to your aunt. That just kinda ticked me off! LOL
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  • dominican22dominican22 member
    And it's not about YOU deserving new things it's about the baby being brought into this world and if you guys are financially stable to get everything yourselves why is she still being a witch
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  • AmommyBAmommyB member
    If she is saying you don't deserve new things because of your age, then you definitely don't need to worry about her feelings and just toss what you don't want. I'm all for saving money but I find it rude when people give you junk (knowing that it's junk.) Don't let her bother you, it sounds to me like she has a huge chip on her shoulder. Enjoy your new baby stuff! :)
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  • leash214leash214 member
    I just say thank you and silently throw away or return things for store credit
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  • nimble33nimble33 member
    Mjstine said:

    Ew, used beastpump...

    I actually saw one on eBay used last night!!!! Gross much
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  • nimble33nimble33 member
    Just say no, I wouldn't even be nice about it, she's being rude saying you shouldn't have nice things because you didn't mean to get pregnant!! Bitch please! Tell her straight that thanks but no thanks
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  • jessicayounghousejessicayounghouse member
    Accept gifts with a smile, and return them or donate them later. Just about everyone has someone that gives them old things they don't want for their baby. It's something we all have to go through. Be kind and graceful.
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