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Sad..Need to talk

raclark77raclark77 member
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im going through a frozen cycle and I know that I should be jumping for joy that my beta came back good with a BFP. But I let my excitement get to me and I told social media the news.. Well my DH is upset as I should have waited for the 7week u/s and he's right. I'm terrified there won't be a baby in the sack.
I wish ivf wasn't so stressful. 2 of my gf's are pregnant both naturally and all they had to do was POAS...I wish it was that simple for me.
Thanks for taking the time out to hear me vent.
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  • AmCheriAmCheri member
    Awww, hugs. IF sucks and robs us of so much. I understand that your DH is upset, but you were excited! It's an exciting time. Try not to beat yourself up for wanting a happy moment that you could share with others. That is a totally normal desire. Just take it one day at a time. Hopefully your DH can look forward and not let this get in the way of him supporting you. So important! Wishing you the best.
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  • 1220winterbride1220winterbride member
    I am sorry you are sad. this is truly a roller coaster of emotional highs and lows.

    I would try to apologize to DH for spilling the information so early and understand that he has his own set of fears and hi/lows to contend with. EVERYONE is different. I announced my pregnancy at 24 weeks b/c I was so paranoid of a loss.--

    Honestly, if he had made that kind of choice without your consent (to disclose a BFP) wouldn't you feel sort of left out of the decision?



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  • raclark77raclark77 member
    I would be upset if he spilled it before me so I do understand. I did apologize and he said he just wanted to wait and had a cute way of announcing it.. Ugh !!! Now I feel like a bigger super jerk!
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  • MiromiMMiromiM member
    First, congratulations! Second, know that what's done is done. Maybe you should have waited but I don't know if anyone can point to date and say 'I'm perfectly convinced that nothing will go wrong! It's now safe to tell everyone'. I couldn't even when we waited until 13 weeks. I was just afraid someone was going to notice my growing waist was only really growing in one direction. Finally, although we all do it, worrying about the "ifs" isn't constructive. It took me six weeks to finally 'allow' myself to be pregnant and accept that while something terrible could happen in the future, I currently was in a place I'd only dreamed about before and I should enjoy and revel in it as much as possible.
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  • przemosbabeprzemosbabe member
    Congrats!! You shouldn't let infertility rob you of the ability to enjoy your pregnancy ( wish I could do the same). The truth is, there are no guarantees in any stage of pregnancy, even when you are full term. You can live in few for enjoy this time. I think you should celebrate and enjoy it while you can.
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