Extreme Planner? Or smart?

heatherbunn24 · April 2015

Hey ladies! I am just wondering if anyone else is an extreme planner/list maker like myself? Hubby and I are still on the fence about when to start TTC but we have finally both agreed that we want to have a child hopefully in the near future. Woo hoo!! I have been researching daycare, health insurance, and my jobs maternity leave options with FMLA and all that. I feel a little crazy calling all these places and when they ask how old my child is or when i'm due and I tell them I don't have one yet and i'm not even pregnant yet......and then they pause and say " Well I guess its a good thing to plan that far in advance". It makes me feel weird for trying to plan my pregnancy instead of having an oops and winging it like all of our friends have. Rock on to them but I do not work that way. I have to plan!!! Everyone says we will be fine and can handle it no problem. I don't want to handle it. We wan't a child to fit into our lives...not rearrange it. Am I just over thinking things? We want to be ready and know what all we will be up against. This is a BIG deal! Thanks for any comments or input!

mrsespigreen · April 2015

I think its smart to plan that ahead!

We did the same thing making sure we have enough saved for extra cost, such as a birthing center supplement to FMLA.

mikaela20 · April 2015

I say smart. I am a huge planner and have researched my mat leave benefits at work and near by daycares, schools etc. And also researched and decided on birth plans ie midwife vs ob, natural vs hospital. I find planning ahead makes me feel more in control and less stressed

Rabbitheart15 · April 2015

Smart! I know I did the same.

Just read this interview with 36-week pregnant celeb who didn't have daycare lined up yet. Made me roll my eyes. Well, I suppose she can afford it.

yl1m32015 · April 2015

As a fellow planner, I get you. When we were looking for homes, we made sure it was in a good school district. To me, looking ahead and planning makes me calm.

firebaby688 · April 2015

Smart, but I think you're skewing your sample by asking ladies on a TTC board. I would assume most all of us have done lots of planning...

mrsesparza13 · April 2015

Smart, I'm the same way. Been researching these things for a few months now. Sometimes I think I over plan things & over think. Like now debating about coming off my BCP after 10 years a few months earlier then we planned. Good luck!

Jags8 · April 2015

Very smart

mrskal · April 2015

Smart, but don't overdo it, it can take an year for a couple to concieve, over planning leads to lot of disappointment if it doesn't happen that fast.
Fx for your bfp.

navegalejos · April 2015

I agree that it's smart -- but don't let it mess up your vacation plans, because as PP said, it could take a while to get that BFP! Don't let it stop you from living your normal life with your DH!!

[Deleted User] · April 2015

Definitely smart - I hope... because that is exactly what I'm doing right now. We wont be TTC for a bit longer, but I am spending the time to really get healthy, get our finances in order, get familiar with my cycle (which can take a long freaking time!), etc. I too know what day cares in my area cost and what my maternity leave options are.

I have to say though, that even if things aren't absolutely perfect, my DH and I have a deadline to begin TTC. You could totally go off the deep end on planning and realize you have ALL these things that aren't absolutely ideal and end up waiting forever. DH and I decided that we can start any time that we feel ready, but if that hasn't happened by June '16 then we need to stfu and start banging.

Scout27 · April 2015

Definitely smart! I took about six months to get to know my body/cycle post-bcp and in that time we reviewed finances, talked long term plans for where to live (school districts in mind), I looked over our maternity leave policy and my insurance plan and researched daycare...then a couple months before we officially started, I started taking prenatals and reduced my caffeine intake and just watched my health in general. I know some people might think it's overboard to go through all that but it helped me feel prepared. I agree at some point you just have to say GO because there's probably always something more you could do but it certainly doesn't hurt to have that info in hand.

Also, I saw a post on one of the other boards here maybe last week (1st Tri or a BMB) about how surprised people were in regards to their insurance coverage and how much pregnancy and birth were going to cost. I already know how much pregnancy and birth will cost - roughly, and barring any complications, obviously - so it's one less surprise, one less thing to think about because we're already putting money aside for those bills.

BabyDeer89 · April 2015

I say smart. I wouldn't be calling daycare just yet because they fill up fast and rates seem to change every year( at least for ours) but it's great you're researching insurances and your FMLA policies.

Honestly, I may be weird, but since we are TTC#3 I've already started stocking up on diapers when I find them on sale.

[Deleted User] · April 2015

BabyDeer89 said:
I say smart. I wouldn't be calling daycare just yet because they fill up fast and rates seem to change every year( at least for ours) but it's great you're researching insurances and your FMLA policies.

Honestly, I may be weird, but since we are TTC#3 I've already started stocking up on diapers when I find them on sale.

Sometimes, when the baby fever is really punching me in the ovaries, I consider doing this. The extreme side eye from my DH always stops me.

PugsandKisses · April 2015

You can research some stuff now, but remember things change, some stuff is out of your control (like birth plans) and it may take you awhile to get pregnant. Plus it is fun to do some of this stuff when pregnant.

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