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**Vent** Doctor Secrets & Unsupportive Mother...

medicmomma6115medicmomma6115 member
in June 2015 Moms
So, I went for my 6th ultrasound today. I was told when I scheduled it by the doctor that it was transvaginal with contrast to determine if any vessels were covering my cervix due to a prior low lying placenta that plagued my pregnancy early on. Well, we knew about 4 weeks ago - at the last ultrasound - that the LLP had moved & she also checked at that ultrasound for the vessels knowing they'd need to check them anyways.

I get there today & the ultrasound tech tells me she doesn't know why they want to check for vessels over the cervix again since we determined last time that there weren't any. She goes on to explain to me that they're going to do another growth scan because EJ's legs were measuring short.

Now, none of this leg stuff has been brought to my attention. Not by the ultrasound tech, not by the doctor, not by the Physician Assistant. Not by anyone. I feel like I was blind sided. Not to mention, they can't give me any information now until my ultrasound is read...

I'm beside myself that they weren't upfront and honest with me when they first saw his legs not measuring what they expect at whatever week. I guess it's not the worst that could happen, but I'm just so damn emotional lately with a TON of pelvic pain & pressure and stressed about irrational things...

And my mom just is the "it's no big deal", "you should've lost weight before you got pregnant and you wouldn't have all this pain & complications", "Oh stop. You're being a drama queen" person.

Thankfully, my husband and best friend understand & have been a God send.
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  • klkonwiklkonwi member
    Ugh! I'm sorry! That's super annoying.
    I feel like there is sometimes a disconnect btw info from doc office to pt....... And in pregnancy it's so vital to our brains for it to be "perfect" communication. It is after all the most precious cargo.
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  • Sammy KSammy K member
    First, your mom is being completely unfair. I'm glad you have other supportive people around you.

    Second, there is nothing scarier than an abnormal ultrasound for any pregnant woman (been there). Hopefully the reason your doc didn't mention it was that she didn't think it was cause for worry. I hope it's nothing.

    Please update when you can. I'll be thinking of you.
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  • KarasTwinKarasTwin member
    FireFghtrWife518 said:

    So, I went for my 6th ultrasound today. I was told when I scheduled it by the doctor that it was transvaginal with contrast to determine if any vessels were covering my cervix due to a prior low lying placenta that plagued my pregnancy early on. Well, we knew about 4 weeks ago - at the last ultrasound - that the LLP had moved & she also checked at that ultrasound for the vessels knowing they'd need to check them anyways.

    I get there today & the ultrasound tech tells me she doesn't know why they want to check for vessels over the cervix again since we determined last time that there weren't any. She goes on to explain to me that they're going to do another growth scan because EJ's legs were measuring short.

    Now, none of this leg stuff has been brought to my attention. Not by the ultrasound tech, not by the doctor, not by the Physician Assistant. Not by anyone. I feel like I was blind sided. Not to mention, they can't give me any information now until my ultrasound is read...

    I'm beside myself that they weren't upfront and honest with me when they first saw his legs not measuring what they expect at whatever week. I guess it's not the worst that could happen, but I'm just so damn emotional lately with a TON of pelvic pain & pressure and stressed about irrational things...

    And my mom just is the "it's no big deal", "you should've lost weight before you got pregnant and you wouldn't have all this pain & complications", "Oh stop. You're being a drama queen" person.

    Thankfully, my husband and best friend understand & have been a God send.

    Oh my! I'm so sorry you're going through that. I can't believe your mom said that! Praying for you!
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  • fridaysdancefridaysdance member
    Your mom is being totally unfair. I was a perfectly healthy low weight pre pregnancy and have had my fair share of scares. I'm sorry you're going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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  • taboullio84taboullio84 member
    I was underweight.. And gained weight.. I have aches and pains too. Smh your mom needs to stop.

    My son had a big head and short femer when we did an ultrasound. Fast forward 5 years .. He's tall and healthy. :)

    I understand why you would be upset.. I don't like secrets ....
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  • queequeg09256queequeg09256 member
    Sorry to hear this op, I've had those moments like why wasn't thus brought to my attention? And it's usually oh because this one measurement means nothing and that's why we double check. As far as your mom I would be super pissed. I was heavy before I got pregnant and I would flip out if my mom said that. I have hypertension which was from pregnancy, so I get lots of scans too. I also have to call my dr office to make sure everything looks good. Ignore your mom she is clueless and trust that if something was super worrying they would take care of ya :)
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  • MrsWiggleWaggleMrsWiggleWaggle member
    edited April 2015
    Umm your doctor can not lie to you! The tech may have mixed up patients...I hope. I would demand a long and hard conversation with your doctor...and to review your chart which is your legal right. If I were you I might even change providers and file a complaint. You were basically asked to consent to a medical procedure after being give what sounds like purposefully incorrect information. I'm no attorney but this situation smells rotten.

    As for your mom...you really can't change other people's behavior sounds like this is typical of her. You will have to decide how to deal with or shut down her idiocy on such topics. People make lots of weird and stupid assumptions based on people's weight. Remind her you can't look at a person and determine how healthy they are.
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  • rklinge0rklinge0 member
    I went through something similar. My specialist told my ob that I was going to miscarry because of something he "saw" well when they measured it last week it was in a normal range. But the guy never once told me he saw it. I complained to my regular ob about his bedside manner and not telling me the same thing he has told her, some of which would can't be backed up by anything ( he said afl were high, they weren't measured). She found me someone different. It never hurts to say something to your ob if you are upset.
    I have been told the same thing about my baby having short long bones, but my ob said as long as they keep growing not to worry too much and some of it is genetics, short mom=short baby.
    Sorry you are having to go through this and try not to worry too much. Easier said than done.
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  • WestypetWestypet member
    I'm glad to hear some success stories from ladies who had abnormal results. I hope that gives you some comfort!

    Ignore your mom on this. She obviously doesn't know how to comfort you. :-(

    Tell your doc exactly how you feel!! PPs are right, maybe OB will say something or do something, and at the very least, comfort you.
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  • tobrieornottobrietobrieornottobrie member
    I'm sorry, I'm sure that's been frustrating for you. I'm glad that you have the support of your friends and your husband. Hang in there and try not to worry too much! Blessings! 






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