Anyone else not tell their family or work yet?

eat111315 · April 2015

I'm not due until the end of October, but we have yet to tell anyone except my bil and sister. We even found out the gender (girl!) but I don't feel the need to scream it from the hills.
This is #3 and part of me frankly just doesn't want the attention. I know in the next couple of weeks it will be hard to hide, and people are probably already guessing from my erratic behavior and insatiable appetite for sweets what's going on.

Anyone else in the same boat?

brandypinky22 · April 2015

I am not telling most people at work. I told my boss, in case I need to be gone for appointments or illness and a few friends that I spend time with outside of work but that is it. I don't want to be asked a million questions. I am banking on the fact that I am a FTM and plus size so hopefully I can go quite awhile until it is super obvious. I just feel like so many coworkers will as inappropriate questions that are none of their business.

VallieS86 · April 2015

This is my first and I have the urge to tell everyone. But haven't yet. 15w 4d and at work 3 friends and 1 manager knows. My husbands mother, sister, brother, father and stepmother know. I think the stepmom told some of her family (we never see them) but my parents don't know yet and neither does most of my coworkers. Oh, hubby grandparents know too. None of my family knows. We're telling my parents next weekend and expect it to go out pretty quickly after that. I've had coworkers ask if I'm pregnant and I've blatantly lied and said we're working on it. I get the urge to tell people when you're ready.

aah1013 · April 2015

We told our parents right away because they have been very supportive during our ivf struggles. I told my boss and supervisor after my 8.5w u/s, for the reasons you mentioned. We dragged our feet telling our family, but I'm showing quite a bit and there wasn't much hiding it on Easter. I finally told my coworkers when I had to go up a size in scrubs. The clothing size change was super obvious. I am still not telling others I work with, just immediate coworkers. I'm sure the world will spread sooner than later at my job.

VioletandRose · April 2015

I'm 16 weeks and we just told our families this weekend. My boss knows, but no one else at work. I hate being the center of attention and not looking forward to the comments/questions from people I work with. I'll hold off until I absolutely have to. Family is different. I wanted to be after the first tri before we told anyone, and this weekend is the first time we've been able to get together with my parents since that time. Plus, we sort of enjoyed having this be our little secret.

mommygrams0730 · April 2015

My parents know and 1of my teacher friends knows.

I haven't told my principal yet. I can't decide if I'll tell him this week, but if not this week then for sure next week.

choyandjill · April 2015

Hi aah1013! I'm also a FTM and pregnant because of IVF. We've only ever told our families up til now (15weeks exactly). And friends who we've seen since getting pregnant. But we haven't announced yet because my OB considers me high risk (I have subchorionic hematoma) and we just don't want to jinx anything. Haha. I'm really really hoping my next ultrasound will show my SCH has completely resolved... Maybe we'll announce then.

erinboehme · April 2015

We haven't told my husband's family at all and went for a while longer. They live several thousand miles away. I haven't told many people at all, but they're all figuring it out pretty quick.

chjcfhk · April 2015

Having been through a miscarriage, it made me hesitant to tell everyone during the first term. The only people to know of the pregnancy during this time was my fiancé, best friend and my mom. The closer we got to the second term, we slowly let the news out. But I didn't put it on face book until my fiancé told his family, because I felt it was disrespectful for them to find out that way.
I did want the family's and friends too know because this is the first grand baby for both sides, and I feel they have a right too know. Lucky for me both sides are very excited about the baby.
Everyone knows now, and I post weekly belly pictures and U/S when I get them. BUT I have found out the gender of the baby (boy) and the only person to know right now is my mom (and me). I want to do something special for my fiancé before tell everyone.

LaurenBee24 · April 2015

I too am due at the end of October. Recently I told my siblings and got a ton of flack for keeping it a secret. However, I Had heavy cramping and a subchorionic bleed early and was a "threat to abort" and awful term that nearly made me vomit at 6 weeks. I wasn't even willing to join this forum until 12 weeks I was so afraid.

KristynLee15 · April 2015

My family knows. And ive told my direct manager at work. I have yet to tell human resources or the rest of work.

nadivalenzuela · April 2015

I have told my parents and siblings, same thing my husband and just some very few close friends. I dont feel like having it on Facebook and I have told just the people I think they do care.

beanie1977 · April 2015

We've told close friends and family and had a reveal party and everything. I have not told my father. We aren't close. He will learn on Facebook when everyone else I'm not that close to learns.

But everyone we have told is super excited! We've got lots of good support and my mom is very excited to be a first time grandma and my in laws are fantastic!

mirygmz07 · April 2015

16wks FTM. Both of our families knows but I have yet to tell anyone at work. Im just not really close with anyone there & dont feel like I need to share such special news with people im not close with. I dont go into work til 12p so I schedule all my appointments early in the mornings so I dont need to ask for time off which works out great! & im actually dreading having to tell them but I know its going to happen sooner than later.

StephN310 · April 2015

I am 15 weeks today and have told very few people. I had two miscarriages between this pregnancy and my last child. I think it is a protective measure on my part. I am terrified to get too excited because I am so scared about what another miscarriage will do to me. I am also having a hard time bonding with this peanut. I will not be able to hide it much longer. 1 or 2 weeks maybe. I live in a frigid tundra so I've been able to cover up with jackets and just look like I've put on weight over the winter. It is a mentally tough place to be. I am so excited about this baby but so scared to be excited.

eat111315 · April 2015

It's nice to hear I'm not alone! I feel I have to tell my family on the next couple of weeks, I think I'll just relish the secret for a little while longer

kelsa101 · April 2015

We've told our mothers and my father. That's it. I will have my next appointment at 14 weeks exactly. We will tell the rest of the family and friends then. I don't plan on telling working until 18-20 weeks if I can help it.

jharrison119 · April 2015

I haven't told my newest job just because I don't want them to fire me . I don't start till the 4th && my fam said not to say anything until I can't hide it anymore .

mishala12 · April 2015

I haven't told any of my family or work. FTM and i kinda enjoy having the secret. I have 3 friends that know along with my hubby obviously, & i feel like thats good enough for now.

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