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Young Mothers, under 25 preferably but not exclusivly.

jacquelineemmajacquelineemma member
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If I haven't already reached out to you already and if you're not already a member I've created a young mothers group, feel free to join. I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant so I made a group for all young girls to connect without judgement.
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  • NittanyPANittanyPA member
    Good point.
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    jacquelineemma said:

    @morethancottoncandy2 you're sick minded obviously. I'm a girl who is 20 and was 19 when I found out I was pregnant. I have no one to connect with because I have no friends with children and they have abandoned me because we can't connect anymore so I was looking for other young girls to connect with because I need a god damn friend.
    I made the group out of kindness so no one else would feel alone and so they thought they had someone to talk to and so I did to.
    So thanks for your ignorant comment.

    Why can't you connect with your friends anymore? Seriously, you are KU, not from an alien culture. Maybe we should try to unpack why your friends "abandoned you"? I'm not being snarky. I'm being serious.


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  • jacquelineemmajacquelineemma member
    How was I over dramatic. I message my friends and I don't get a reply. I try to organise things and they'd rather go out drinking or they cancel plans cause they're hung over or they just don't reply for weeks on end. So I feel abandoned by my friends and that's not dramatic. And yeah I was insulted that some woman said I am probably a creepy old man so I retaliated.
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  • Megan66966Megan66966 member
    I'll be 19 in June, I also moved to a new state by myself, dropped out of high school, and moved in with my boyfriend.

    My friends have become very few only because of my own choice to move. As of this moment, I have the full support of my boyfriend's family. A few old friends ahave remained in contact and are excited to be non-blood related aunties. My ex-step mom has been very helpful in being emotional support for me.

    It's nice to know that there are young soon to be mother's out there. My own mom was 19 when she had me. But she gave up, having two young children was hard.

    My dream is to always be there for my child, just knowing I'll have my own little part of me gives my life a whole new light.

    I do appreciate your idea of starting a group like this. whether you're a creepy old man or not (; Lol just teasing.
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  • jacquelineemmajacquelineemma member
    I saw there were new comments on this thread and I braced myself for rudeness then both your messages were possitive and it made me happier and reminded me of why I made the group in the first place
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  • HaruhiChanHaruhiChan member
    Primrosemama did have some good questions further up in this thread for you so maybe we can give you some advice about your friend situation. She's a very good source of advice and means well. She's also honest too.
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  • dchiapelladchiapella member
    jacquelineemma said:

    How was I over dramatic. I message my friends and I don't get a reply. I try to organise things and they'd rather go out drinking or they cancel plans cause they're hung over or they just don't reply for weeks on end. So I feel abandoned by my friends and that's not dramatic. And yeah I was insulted that some woman said I am probably a creepy old man so I retaliated.

    I am definitely not trying to step on toes here... but you're going to be a mom and these are the friends you want around your baby? You need to take a deep breath and reevaluate the life you want for your baby, not you, your baby. 

    Find a circle of young moms who have their stuff together a little bit, people with a similar situation that you can lean on for support. I understand that you're probably scared and feeling alone, I celebrated my first wedding anniversary when I was your age so I am no stranger to losing the people I thought to be friends because they didn't understand the changes going on in my life. But rather than taking it out on someone on the internet that was double checking that they were in correspondence with a sane person (you're old enough to realize how many sick people there are in the world and old enough to realize how someone would EASILY have drawn that conclusion), you should think about maybe getting into some therapy. I'm not saying that in a judgey way, it's just that being pregnant and eventually being a mom is hard enough, especially so when you're very young. You can't being dealing with these emotional issues once the baby is born, it's not fair to the baby... deal with them now. 

    And more importantly, you need to realize that when you decided to get pregnant or keep the baby (whatever your situation is), you accepted this responsibility, your "friends" did not. Right now that baby is what's important, not who you're going to gossip with at the mall over the weekend. You need to realize that so you can start producing the proper environment for that baby. EVERYONE has drama, EVERYONE gets hurt. You should take a look at some of the other threads where people have miscarried or their family has been legitimately cruel to them and realize that a group of people who are too busy getting drunk to go on this journey with you is the LAST thing on earth you should be concerned about.  
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  • Megan66966Megan66966 member
    So, I'm still kinda new navigating around the app. How do I get to the group that you made?
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  • jacquelineemmajacquelineemma member
    @Megan66966 at the bottom of all forums is 'groups' and it's under the same name as this thread.

    @dchiapella I know my friends didn't choose this life or anything, but I have still wanted to stay in contact because we have been friends for years. And I can't exactly surround myself with other young mums because I am literally the only one of my friends in this position. So that's why I made the group because I wanted to connect with other people my age in the same situation since I don't have that where I live.
    I have also had a miscarriage before so I know there are worse things. You don't know me so don't tell me I need therapy.
    I don't care about gossiping at the mall, don't put words in my mouth. I have tried to stay in touch with my friend because when I told them I was pregnant I kinda took their word when they said they'd be here for me so when I needed a shoulder it hurt when no one would reply. I've accepted that they don't care.
    I have the best interests for my baby in mind so please don't imply that I only think about myself.
    All I'm doing is trying to connect with other girls like me. That's literally all I wanted and I'm getting so much heat for it.
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  • HaruhiChanHaruhiChan member
    It's rough being the odd one out. And to the pp who made the "there's worse things out there" comment, just because there are more dreadful things out there doesn't mean her feelings aren't hurt or any less valid. Other than that, everything said was good advice and meant well. OP, take a breath for a moment and reread their post picturing a calm tone. It's hard to read tone over the Internet. They did not mean to offend you at all, they just suggested some hard support.

    OP, have you looked into a local facebook moms group? I've joined one months ago and I have found that it's so nice to make new connections. Some of my friends don't get the whole life changing thing. But, I'm also married when most of them aren't and that also sets a rift between. Sometimes, it's easier for me to connect with people of older ages too.

    A lot of my age group likes to party and shop and such, but it's not for me. I'm not the social type and I don't care too much for a lot of alcohol (I like sake and a small amount of red wine but not enough to party off it lol just a glass or so... before the pregnancy that is ;) lol). So I'm already the one who stands out and I'm sure after I have my kid there will be more relationships tried here and there because having kids is a huge change.

    The therapist suggestion would be good for learning how to deal with friends like that who don't seem to get it. But trying to make connections is a good start :)

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  • aleecatsaleecats member
    You should find out if your community has a program there's one where I'm from its called teen parent connections and they have different groups and outings for young moms that gave chosen to parent! I met some lovely ladies my age that o connected with really well!
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  • Sweetpea192Sweetpea192 member
    Do you have any bump to baby like groups in your local area? That will help you connect with other mums to be. Or any young mum groups? It don't matter your age friends will either stick by you through pregnancy or they won't. That's life & unfortunately it happens. If you've made the secret group to bash other members my suggestion to you is that's a wrong move. There are a lot of women on here young & older with good advice that you could probably benefit from...
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  • aleecatsaleecats member
    Sweetpea192 said:

    Do you have any bump to baby like groups in your local area? That will help you connect with other mums to be. Or any young mum groups? It don't matter your age friends will either stick by you through pregnancy or they won't. That's life & unfortunately it happens. If you've made the secret group to bash other members my suggestion to you is that's a wrong move. There are a lot of women on here young & older with good advice that you could probably benefit from...

    I'm apart of the group and it was established before she put up this thread don't worry it's just a private group for young and teen moms to vent and discuss their fears and concerns! I agree it'd be rude if she had but that is not the case! And I agree with PP find out if they have any young teen mom groups in your area, like I said I love the one I'm apart of! Try finding out if they have meetings near you since I know TeenParent Connections is a nationwide thing!
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  • brannon7brannon7 member
    I'm a very you mom I found out I was pregnant at 16 I'll be having my baby girl at 17 and I'm currently 24 month's pregnant.. I don't have any parenting or classes in that such In my area.
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  • Sweetpea192Sweetpea192 member
    brannon7 said:

    I'm a very you mom I found out I was pregnant at 16 I'll be having my baby girl at 17 and I'm currently 24 month's pregnant.. I don't have any parenting or classes in that such In my area.

    24 months pregnant? Did you mean 24 weeks pregnant
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  • brannon7brannon7 member
    Yes thank you
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  • BlueWaffleSpeshulBlueWaffleSpeshul member
    Sweetpea192 said:

    brannon7 said:

    I'm a very you mom I found out I was pregnant at 16 I'll be having my baby girl at 17 and I'm currently 24 month's pregnant.. I don't have any parenting or classes in that such In my area.

    24 months pregnant? Did you mean 24 weeks pregnant
    Anyone else thankful women don't have the same gestation period as elephants after reading this? 
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