Scheduled c section and visitors

jodi1008 · April 2015

im almost 36 weeks and baby is still breech. Dr wants to try a version but if that's unsuccessful then it will be a c section so what I'm wondering is how the whole process goes. I'm wanting to have my hubby and newborn in the OR room with me until im stitched up and we all 3 switch rooms together. Is that the norm? Or do they send hubby out with our son before im taken to my recovery room? Why I ask is because I know people are overly sensitive and want to show up at the hospital and I don't want anyone seeing our son until I've had the chance to bond with him once im out of the OR. I've read stories where women come back to their room upset that their husband is in the room waiting and family members are coming in even before they've had the chance to hold their own child.

jessicazimmer · April 2015

Family and friends always get excited about the baby, but if you've just had major abdominal surgery you need time to recover and be with your baby. With my first c section we went to recovery together and when I felt up to it I called my parents to tell them everything went well and they could come by in a few hours. This time I won't have anyone come till the next day. I would highly suggest planning time not only to bond with your baby but also to let yourself rest and recover before people come in. Good luck!

jodi1008 · April 2015

Family has been insisting they want to wait at the hospital while I'm in the operating room

I have said otherwise but pretty sure they aren't going to listen so was also wondering how long the c section and everything takes for us to all 3 be back in recovery when we go together?

cmackjjl2i · April 2015

I think you could probably request that baby stay with you if surgery goes well and you both are healthy. When I had my daughter 2 years ago my husband went with her to be weighed and cleaned and then they brought her back to me in recovery. I am about to have another CSection in a few weeks and I talked with the OB about keeping baby with me, doing skin to skin right away and attempting breastfeeding even when they are still operating. And she said they could do all that as long as we are both healthy. I would ask your OB and at your pre-op appointment

padleylynn · April 2015

With this LO no one is allowed to see me or baby expect for the support person (in my case DH) for 2 hours. As long as there are no issues I will be in the recovery room with LO. If for any reason we have to be separated, DH is allowed to go with LO. That's how it was with my first too, but due to some complications she was put in the NICU, still other then DH no one got to see her until I had a chance to bond (2 hours later)

ekaeb · April 2015

I'm going for my 3rd csection and it takes about 3hrs till u get put in ur room! I had hubby stay with the baby's wile they were cleaned up. I requested baby be with me in the recovery room and attempted feeding and skin to skin I also made it clear to family that I did not want anyone showing up till we called them to let them know it was ok to visit! This time I have two big brothers waiting to meet there sister so I asked everyone not to show up till after 3 so my boys could meet there sister and bond with her first!!

Mari621 · April 2015

I had two c section. My husband and both sons were with me while I stitched up To allow bonding time. I also held my sons as they wheeled me to the recovery area while I was on the stretcher. Then once my room was ready they took the babies ahead of me to the nursery to be assessed. Once I got to my room they brought then to me immediately.

twodreamers · April 2015

I'm having a scheduled c-section and we've made it very clear to family that if they want to sit in the waiting room for a few hours while we bond with our baby after surgery, they're more than welcome too. And my fiancée knows that no one holds or sees that sweet baby except him and I. He's the gatekeeper. It'll be only him and I in the room until I've had a couple hours to bond and nurse. Don't worry about hurting people's feelings. It's not about them. It's about you and your new family and being able to savor and enjoy that however YOU choose to do so.

jmorneau09 · April 2015

I had a section with my first and he and my hubby were with me the entire time. Our hospital has a windowed room within mom's line of sight so even while he was being cleaned and weighed and i wss being stitched up I could see him and daddy with him. Then daddy held him skin to skin until I was in recovery and I could do skin to skin and nurse. Our hospital doesn't take babies to the nursery unless a serious need. So he never left my husbands or my side for our entire stay.
I would just ask your doctor about what the norm is for your hospital. You can always request that baby stay with you.

As for all the extra family I would tell the nurses that you don't want anyone/visitors your room until a certain time. They are usually really good about being the middle man in those situations and making family wait and/or keeping them out.

a316b · April 2015

Agree with PP. make sure to tell nursing staff that you're not allowing any visitors until the all clear from you. They have to buzz people in at the door, and they can stop them there.

bean8213 · April 2015

I would make it clear that they are welcome to stay in the waiting room, but that they should plan to be there for a few hours.

If you're worried about family getting upset about them not being allowed in immediately, make up some hospital rule about it - or tell them your csection isn't until later in the day.

I delivered my first vaginally, but my mother didn't listen to my wishes about not coming to the hospital immediately. It still annoys me just thinking about her showing up unannounced (and unwanted). This time we aren't sharing that baby is coming until after we get some time alone with baby.

rklinge0 · April 2015

Ask your hospital their policy. I went and toured mine the other day and they said only one person back with you if you are having a c section. They also pushed kangaroo time and said they weren't going to let people back there during that time. I have no experience with this since I am a ftm. But as the the lady who led the tour said they have no problem being the bad guy and even if it isn't policy saying that it is.

CordeliaD87 · April 2015

My hospital told me that no one would be allowed to see my baby except for the one person I had in the room during my section.. Until I was ready for them to see him. If you have questions, be sure to ask the policy and make certain requests.

kaynix21 · April 2015

I think it depends on the hospital tbh.

Mine is telling me as long as nothing is medically wrong with the me or the baby we will pretty much stay together the entire time. We are also writing that in our birth plan.

As for visitors -- I'm assuming your C section won't be scheduled until after the version (that's how mine went last week).

Honestly -- don't tell people when you are scheduled! We aren't telling everyone and that's just because I don't want to deal with all the stupid questions and phone calls. You don't new all the extra stuff to deal with. Or if you really want to tell people when you are scheduled tell them absolutely no visitors for the first day or however many hours.... Maybe until you are up walking? If people get offended... They will get over it honestly. Don't add stress or pressure that you don't need.

We have told my MIL/SIL but they live 6000 miles away and aren't coming.

My parents will be in town they will come say hi and meet him and leave me to recover with hubby and baby.

As for my friends who live here it will all depend on how I feel after. If I feel awesome, sure. If not they can wait.

nicolemaletz · April 2015

I just had my second csection. While they finished up the nurse took my son and husband so they could get him cleaned up but no one was allowed in to the recovery area until I gave the okay to have visitors.

katiegarrett66 · April 2015

I'm scheduled a c section on Friday & the hospital I'm going to don't allow any visitors in the recovery area apart from your partner, they say I'll be in there for a good 4hrs after theatre. While I'm getting stitched back up baby will still be with me but OH has to leave theatre till that's done. Visitors will have to wait till I'm back in my room & settled. The visiting times are only from 2pm till 4pm and 6pm till 8pm which is great as it gives us more time to bond with our baby. I've told everyone they need to wait till the Saturday to come in and see us apart from my mam & dad!

nicolebishop91 · April 2015

I agree every hospital is different with policy, but let your Dr know what you'd like. And make sure dh/so knows what the game plan is! Mine didn't and brought his parents back to recovery they got to hold my first before I did. I was so upset. He brought them back before I even got the feeling back in my arms. It really sucked.

sunnyday016 · April 2015

Just don't tell people when you are scheduled! If you think they will come and intrude on your bonding, they don't deserve to be in the know.

mamajama3 · April 2015

My doctor said today that you never know how you'll feel right after surgery- some women are super nauseous and need some time to get through that before it's a good idea to see visitors. I told my family that DH will let them know via text when they can come in but there's no promises and we don't know exactly when it will be. Our apt is tentatively at 7:45am so I told my mom it would likely be about 10-11 before we are in recovery and it will depend on how baby and I are doing as to how soon they can come in. She and our other family are planning to bring books and hang out patiently until we call them in, and they totally understand.

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