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So my husband kicked me out

erinrose91413erinrose91413 member
in May 2015 Moms
We got in a huge fight last night about money and he told me to leave and that he wanted a divorce. Luckily I have a friend in town who let me sleep on her couch last night, but now I dont know what I'm going to do. Im 36 weeks, 4 days, and this is not something I think I should be going through...Any advice would help!
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  • cpage2211cpage2211 member
    erinrose91413 said:

    We got in a huge fight last night about money and he told me to leave and that he wanted a divorce. Luckily I have a friend in town who let me sleep on her couch last night, but now I dont know what I'm going to do. Im 36 weeks, 4 days, and this is not something I think I should be going through...Any advice would help!

    I'd have to agree that this has to have way more to it then just this one fight, which stinks either way. My husband and I have had our tiffs over money this pregnancy and he has never told me to leave. Finances are never a fun topic! Especially when you're adding another mouth to feed. Give him a call now that you've both spent the night apart and had time to think.
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  • babinantebabinante member
    My husband read this and thinks it tragic, but said that he must be feeling some inner frustration and not know how to communicate it to you or not had a chance to express himself. Ask yourself what is it specifically that is bugging him and you about the finances? Are there some things you can do together to fix it? Remember to remember how you felt about each other on the wedding day and know these things are going to come up in a marriage, but I believe you can work this out! There's just some compromise and communication that needs to happen! Best of luck! You guys are in our prayers!
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  • blitzy23blitzy23 member
    I think intense fights can be very normal at this stage, but I can't believe that he let you walk out. That's not normal. My husband gets upset when we fight, but still has a huge heart for baby and me, and a deep down instinct to care for us. Please consider seeking a psychologist and friends for support until you figure out the next step. Your goal is to take care of you and baby!!!! So sorry, and best wishes to you.
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  • saric83saric83 member
    I'm so sorry this is happening right now. All of the PPs had great advice, and I would just strongly echo the therapist and lawyer. If nothing else right now, a therapist can help you guys just figure out the next couple of weeks. Beyond that, no decisions need to be made and just get through it day-by-day.
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  • Tabbi8486Tabbi8486 member
    If I was you I would've never left. He cannot legally kick you out at this time. If he wanted one of you to leave then he should've been the one to pack up and leave. You are very pregnant! Go home and be comfortable and if he has a problem with it then he can get a lawyer and start the legal process. He cannot kick you out though. I really hope that he's just stressed out about the baby coming home so soon (which is no excuse for that behavior) and he's just maxed out on stress because that in my book is repairable. Im so sorry you are going through this right now. Do what you think is best but just know that you do have a lot more rights in this situation than you think. You know your husband best. If you think he would be more calm today then I would call him and try to rationally talk. If you think he will need a couple days then give him a couple days and then try. I really hope everything works out. I would be hysterical if my husband were to leave me right now. I can't imagine what you're going through.
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  • erinrose91413erinrose91413 member
    I am home now, but he hasn't talked to me except to ask me to sleep in the guest room. I can tell he is still upset about something, so I am going to give him his space. Hopefully tomorrow he will be able to talk to me in a rational calm manner....
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  • Valancia1Valancia1 member
    I'm so sorry you're going through this. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • cookiesmaccookiesmac member
    As mentioned by PP, seeing a therapist may be very helpful right now. However, you do need to protect yourself and perhaps consulting an attorney will give you an idea of what might happen if the marriage is over. There's obviously something major going on either with household finances, other marital stressors, work issues, or outside relationships. The key is figuring it out.

    If he's truly over it, then let him go...
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  • sunnysidexupsunnysidexup member
    edited April 2015
    Sorry to say this, but in my past relationships, usually when the guy wanted me to feel that bad and shunned me so severely like that, HE was cheating (or had cheated) and possibly used his anger toward me as a defense mechanism before I knew he wanted to hide something. While I'd be slow to forgive if I were in your position, being stubborn never solved anything. When you talk more, do what you want to do but keep your guard up. That is total TOTAL BS to kick out your pregnant wife. Top of the line douche-baggery right there.


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    erinrose91413 said:

    I am home now, but he hasn't talked to me except to ask me to sleep in the guest room. I can tell he is still upset about something, so I am going to give him his space. Hopefully tomorrow he will be able to talk to me in a rational calm manner....

    You have no clue what he is mad about? There has to be way more to this story..


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