Rude!

ashlenn · April 2015

I am so sick of all these rude comments! Especially since they're coming from my mom and she just keeps throwing them to me. This morning I was so so sick when I stopped by to leave her some papers and had very little makeup on. I only shaded in my eyebrows because they're so light it looks like I barely have any and I had some mascara on. Right when I walked in the door she tells me "wow you're really letting yourself go since you've been pregnant!" I wanted to yell at her so bad but I just bit my tongue and told her I just came to drop her papers and leave. She should be happy I don't wear pajamas everyday and look so lazy! Oh and she made another comment a few days ago saying that hopefully I'm not one of those pregnant ladies who gain 50 lbs because it looks like I'm right on track for being one of those. My reaction to that was "excuse me?!?" I've only gained 2 lbs these whole 5 months I say I'm doing pretty good! I just want them to stop before I snap!

JenLovesDesign · April 2015

My mom also tells me not to be the pregnant woman that gains 70lbs during pregnancy. I posted this in another post, but she also told me that I probably wouldn't look pregnant because I'm a big girl (usually size 10, 5'-7'. ...been a runner for 10 years), then she saw I looked pregnant and kept saying how big i look. Wow you look so big! I didn't expect you to be so big! Ugh. Rude!

WDDCH · April 2015

Some people need filters.

excited2bmommy09 · April 2015

My patience with stupid has completely disappeared since being pregnant so forgive me when I say that I would snap on her. I consider myself to be a polite and respectful person, but those comments are uncalled for and there's no way I'd let that slide. My dad used to say stuff like that not really understanding how he was coming across and all it took was me letting him know that the comments were rude and hurting my feelings and he felt terrible and stopped saying that stuff. Your weight gain is none of her business and neither is your wardrobe. I've gained 20 pounds so far even with diet and exercise and very possibly may end up being one of those women who gain 40-50 pounds while pregnant. My mom tells me every time she sees me how beautiful I look (even when I know she is full of it lol), she is my biggest cheerleader. Your mom may not understand how her words are coming across to you and may need a reality check from you. I'm all about respecting parents/elders, but that doesn't mean they get to say hurtful things to you without you saying something back. Just my thoughts on it

kvilla4 · April 2015

My mil asked if I had gained any pounds and I told her no a actually lost weight and she told me well your arms look fatter -__-
Then!!! She told me if my sweats were tight on me cause it look like they didn't fit me !!! Then she told me my face is gonna get saggy cause Iam prego since when does your face sag!! Ugh!! I walk away when she talks now cause I might snap one of these days so I feel your pain

kjs08 · April 2015

We found out the sex of our baby yesterday (little girl!) and when my mom called, she told me that she hopes that my little girl will be just like I was. I never slept as a baby and would cry endlessly till I threw up multiple times a night according to her. Thanks mom for the confidence boost.

WDDCH · April 2015

kjs08 said:
We found out the sex of our baby yesterday (little girl!) and when my mom called, she told me that she hopes that my little girl will be just like I was. I never slept as a baby and would cry endlessly till I threw up multiple times a night according to her. Thanks mom for the confidence boost.

Maybe she was half joking but I'd probably tell her it isn't nice to joke that she wishes baby to be miserable. That's not kind at all. Especially at your expense.

ashlenn · April 2015

@WDDCH I agree !

@excited2bmommy09 I just don't want to be rude back because that's not how I am but I'm so close to it! These hormones make me crazy but her comments are out of line. Good thing you're mom tries to make you feel good about yourself still.

kjs08 · April 2015

@wddch She was 100% serious as it's not the first time she's said it to me, just the first time since I've been pregnant. I have no issue laying into my mom for similar comments and did give her a piece of my mind. I know I wasn't an easy baby or an easy kid to deal with, but I seriously don't need to be reminded frequently because I already knew that, along with all the other stories about her being pregnant all summer and how miserable she was (I was born at the end of August), blah, blah, blah.

ashlenn · April 2015

@JenLovesDesign I was a size 7 sometimes 9 in some jeans and she still told me I was big already! I think our moms forgot they were pregnant at one time too and it's not easy to just not fain any weight no matter how hard you try to eat healthy and exercise.

yessirio · April 2015

Wow I think I lost my patience long time ago lol I don't know how u guys can handle that I mean my mom is not near me at all n my mil is not even in the picture so is me my fiance n I lol
God bless u all! I don't think I could handle some of those comments very nicely!

excited2bmommy09 · April 2015

@ashlenn you don't have to be rude, just tell her that what she is saying is not okay. It's simply communicating your feelings to her and then if she continues with the inappropriate comments there is officially a problem. My mom and I have been through a lot to get to where we are at now and I'm a firm believer that mother/daughter relationships are just like any other and all about communication, communication, communication. As an adult my mom is my best friend and when she crosses the line and hurts my feelings I tell her and vice versa. The respect is mutual

Elecin · April 2015

Omg these are horrible. I would truly kill someone lol.

jen83mn · April 2015

I agree with some of the pp's that you have every right to say something to her. You don't need to be rude, but coming at it more from a "Mom, that really hurts my feelings and makes me feel bad" angle should hopefully make her feel guilty enough that she'll stop and watch her tongue next time. Sorry you have to deal with those kind of comments!

HWKI · April 2015

Does she mean to be rude or does she usually lack a filter? Maybe try repeating the comment back to her starting with, "I am sure you didn't just mean to say___". Maybe when she hears her own words she will realize how hurtful they sound. So sorry.

kzangs15 · April 2015

These are terrible, I really feel bad for those of you getting comments like that and from family members, especially! Luckily, I haven't gotten any rude comments from my mother (knock on wood) since telling her I'm pregnant. Years ago (while we were planning our wedding) She suggested we share our reception with my cousin and his bride who were getting married the same day (a whole other story) and when I said no, she replied "Oh, I didn't realize you wanted all of the attention for yourself." I was sooo mad at her, especially since we were paying for it - why would I foot the bill for everything and have another bride and groom there?!? Thinking about it still irritates me to this day, lol.

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