I guess I'm just in the "yay! We have a new baby!" camp, and not the "ok so I just spent a day in labor and gave birth. Huge inconvenience. Where is my present?" camp. Call me old fashioned. Just don't feel like I deserve something special for doing something billions of women have been doing for thousands of years, when I'm already getting the best gift ever. All of a sudden we need special presents. Sounds a bit spoiled to me.
Yes this will be my 3rd baby too .. Hopefully all goes well ..and I actually have 2 girls already so were going to see what this one is going to be but baby showers could get pricey so I'm still debating about wether to have one or just buy all my own stuff
Yes this will be my 3rd baby too .. Hopefully all goes well ..and I actually have 2 girls already so were going to see what this one is going to be but baby showers could get pricey so I'm still debating about wether to have one or just buy all my own stuff
Baby showers shouldn't be pricey for the mom, because she shouldn't be hosting it/paying for it.
You can certainly have a shower. Don't listen to all these people who say it's tacky. What is tacky is responding so nastily to a simple question. I don't think you should go out and throw a party for yourself, but if someone offers you can gladly accept. This is my 3rd pregnancy 4th baby, I plan on accepting any shower offer with the expectation that the invitation will clearly state no gifts please. I want to honor and celebrate this baby like I did with my last. Every healthy baby/pregnancy deserves to be celebrated. Do whatever you want and feel comfortable with.
Here's a joke: what do you call a pile of kittens?
Ahh I know this. My 1st grader came home telling me that one the other day, its a "meowtain"! As for a "push present", no thanks. The day a beautiful healthy baby isn't enough is just craziness.
You can come try have a shower. Don't listen to all these people who say it's tacky. What is tacky is responding so nastily to a simple question. I don't think you should go out and throw a party for yourself, but if someone offers you can gladly accept. This is my 3rd pregnancy 4th baby, I plan on accepting any shower offer with the expectation that the invitation will clearly state no gifts please. I want to honor and celebrate this baby like I did with my last. Every healthy baby/pregnancy deserves to be celebrated. Do whatever you want and feel comfortable with.
How does pointing out etiquette equal being nasty?!
I think she's referring to the "OMG so tackyyyyyy have some etiquette " comments. A simple "some look at that as poor etiquette but to each their own" would have sufficed. It's kind of ironic some of the ladies pointing out etiquette and class used zero etiquette or class when responding. But to each their own
You can come try have a shower. Don't listen to all these people who say it's tacky. What is tacky is responding so nastily to a simple question. I don't think you should go out and throw a party for yourself, but if someone offers you can gladly accept. This is my 3rd pregnancy 4th baby, I plan on accepting any shower offer with the expectation that the invitation will clearly state no gifts please. I want to honor and celebrate this baby like I did with my last. Every healthy baby/pregnancy deserves to be celebrated. Do whatever you want and feel comfortable with.
How does pointing out etiquette equal being nasty?!
I think she's referring to the "OMG so tackyyyyyy have some etiquette " comments. A simple "some look at that as poor etiquette but to each their own" would have sufficed. It's kind of ironic some of the ladies pointing out etiquette and class used zero etiquette or class when responding. But to each their own
Those are the exactly types of comments I was referring to.
You could call it a baby celebration, baby get together, baby honoring, etc. I had a shower let pregnancy and said no gifts. I got no gifts. I mean my MiL got something for the baby but no one else did. I made it very clear I needed and wanted nothing. I just wanted to get together with friends and a luncheon/celebration of this precious new baby. It's so hard to get everyone together at the same time, I would call it anything to get my closest friends and family all together at the same time.
Actually y'all, I'm pretty sure that you're supposed to give the baby sponge baths first. You don't give it a shower until after the umbilical cord falls off...
You could call it a baby celebration, baby get together, baby honoring, etc. I had a shower let pregnancy and said no gifts. I got no gifts. I mean my MiL got something for the baby but no one else did. I made it very clear I needed and wanted nothing. I just wanted to get together with friends and a luncheon/celebration of this precious new baby. It's so hard to get everyone together at the same time, I would call it anything to get my closest friends and family all together at the same time.
You clearly don't understand what a shower is. It's called a shower because you shower the mother to be with gifts to care for her baby, to welcome her to motherhood.
You could call it a baby celebration, baby get together, baby honoring, etc. I had a shower let pregnancy and said no gifts. I got no gifts. I mean my MiL got something for the baby but no one else did. I made it very clear I needed and wanted nothing. I just wanted to get together with friends and a luncheon/celebration of this precious new baby. It's so hard to get everyone together at the same time, I would call it anything to get my closest friends and family all together at the same time.
You clearly don't understand what a shower is. It's called a shower because you shower the mother to be with gifts to care for her baby, to welcome her to motherhood.
What you had just sounds like a get together.
Why does a shower have to equal gifts. People are so freaking materialistic. A shower can be a shower with NO gifts, you can shower a mother with love and advice.
Queenwog and giraffesramazing you are both clearly smarter than anyone else. You both like to pick fights with anyone and everyone all over these boards. You CLEARLY have the "mean girl" complex. I never said shower a FTM with "love and advice" I said for a second, third or fourth shower. I wish you all the best in your future. I will not be responding to any of your responses. I hope you have a wonderful and healthy pregnancy. I also hope you learn to be happy and positive for others.
For my first I had 5 showers and I did not ask for any of them! People were just so happy to give. We're now on number two and some ladies from my church have already spoken to me about throwing a small shower for some of the girls. I told them it wasn't necessary but it is also bad manners to refuse when someone is doing something nice for you. So, if it's coming from someone else then it could be okay. And if someone is offended by you having a shower then they can stay home.
I think it depends on the circumstances. I had one cousin go through infertility treatments after her first for over 8 years and ended up with twins. You better believe we have her a shower. We were just so happy for her. But on the other hand, someone like me who is on number 3 in 6 years, should not get one. I think it just looks super tacky. But in saying that I think I'm going to do a gender reveal party to celebrate this little one and invite some friends and family. Not a shower. But a chance to get together and be happy about a sweet new baby!!
Queenwog and giraffesramazing you are both clearly smarter than anyone else. You both like to pick fights with anyone and everyone all over these boards. You CLEARLY have the "mean girl" complex. I never said shower a FTM with "love and advice" I said for a second, third or fourth shower. I wish you all the best in your future. I will not be responding to any of your responses. I hope you have a wonderful and healthy pregnancy. I also hope you learn to be happy and positive for others.
I am very happy, thank you. Again, showering a second, third or fourth time mom with advice is almost worst. Can't it just be called lunch.
I am not a mean girl. I am a dedicated wife, mother, working mom, caretaker, gardener, listener, so please do not judge me.
How can someone NOT judge you, when you clearly judge everyone else.
Queenwog and giraffesramazing you are both clearly smarter than anyone else. You both like to pick fights with anyone and everyone all over these boards. You CLEARLY have the "mean girl" complex. I never said shower a FTM with "love and advice" I said for a second, third or fourth shower. I wish you all the best in your future. I will not be responding to any of your responses. I hope you have a wonderful and healthy pregnancy. I also hope you learn to be happy and positive for others.
Sigh. Nobody is being a mean girl here. Showers are gift giving events which is why they are acceptable for your first baby and your first wedding and that's all. It sounds silly to shower someone with love and advice when obviously they've had a baby already, what would be the point.
And a sense of humor might serve you well. Seriously.
I think a shower for a third baby is a bit tacky. Regardless of the sex of the new baby versus the older kids. If a friend is having a baby I tend to buy gifts no matter what number they're on because I a WANT to but it can feel pushy to get a shower invite for a third. But I'd probably still go....I usually do. But like someone else mentioned....I'm going to judge you! I can still remember the few friends I have that did ridiculous showers for second and third babies. They're often because the new baby is a different sex but I never had any issue feeding my daughter in her green monkey high chair or her beigy colored swing and bouncer. And I won't care if my newborn boy gets bathed in a pink tub!
I do not want a shower for this baby because I'd feel very rude "asking" for gifts. I think a sip and see after baby is here would be a lot of fun. I never feel obligated to bring gifts for those! Just an opportunity to snuggle a new baby.
Plus, other than clothes, all the major things we bought or registered for were gender neutral so we won't need to buy much of anything anything new if this is a boy. It seems common sense to me that people shouldn't buy things ultra girly or really boyish, particularly expensive things they wouldn't want to buy twice, that they refuse to use for another child of the opposite sex. But that's just me!
Queenwog and giraffesramazing you are both clearly smarter than anyone else. You both like to pick fights with anyone and everyone all over these boards. You CLEARLY have the "mean girl" complex. I never said shower a FTM with "love and advice" I said for a second, third or fourth shower. I wish you all the best in your future. I will not be responding to any of your responses. I hope you have a wonderful and healthy pregnancy. I also hope you learn to be happy and positive for others.
Sigh. Nobody is being a mean girl here. Showers are gift giving events which is why they are acceptable for your first baby and your first wedding and that's all. It sounds silly to shower someone with love and advice when obviously they've had a baby already, what would be the point.
And a sense of humor might serve you well. Seriously.
There are moms on their subsequent pregnancies on here for advice. Silly moms, they need to go elsewhere because that is not something you give a woman after her first child.....
I like to pick fights all over these boards? Have you even read any of my posts outside of this particular thread? I don't think you have, but I can see you like to make quick judgments about people you don't know anything about.
I'm quite happy, hence my use of humor. You should try it.
Peace and love, y'all. Enjoy your showers, sprinkles, brunches, velociraptor parties, and whatever else you decide to have.
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Baby showers shouldn't be pricey for the mom, because she shouldn't be hosting it/paying for it.
Round and round we go....
She should certainly honor and celebrate this new baby. Just ask for no gifts.
If you call it a shower, people will bring gifts, even if you request not to.
What you had just sounds like a get together.
Why does a shower have to equal gifts. People are so freaking materialistic. A shower can be a shower with NO gifts, you can shower a mother with love and advice.
How can someone NOT judge you, when you clearly judge everyone else.
And a sense of humor might serve you well. Seriously.
I do not want a shower for this baby because I'd feel very rude "asking" for gifts. I think a sip and see after baby is here would be a lot of fun. I never feel obligated to bring gifts for those! Just an opportunity to snuggle a new baby.
Plus, other than clothes, all the major things we bought or registered for were gender neutral so we won't need to buy much of anything anything new if this is a boy. It seems common sense to me that people shouldn't buy things ultra girly or really boyish, particularly expensive things they wouldn't want to buy twice, that they refuse to use for another child of the opposite sex. But that's just me!
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Peace and love, y'all. Enjoy your showers, sprinkles, brunches, velociraptor parties, and whatever else you decide to have.