Mom not being considerate...

Re: Mom not being considerate...

• jmorneau09 member

  April 2015

  No! You are not being ungrateful. You should be bringing baby home to your home! So that you and baby can settle into your home. It doesn't really sound like she's thinking about what's best for baby

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• Tabbi8486 member

  April 2015

  I personally will be staying in my apartment. I would rather have me and my baby be comfy than have my mom be comfy. I would just tell her that you can't be inconvenienced right now by being forced to leave things like the crib at home. Try to get her to see things from your side and hopefully she will come around and if not maybe it's best that she isn't there if she's going to be so inconsiderate.

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• ALITAYLOR23 member

  April 2015

  This is exactly my situation. I live an hour away from my parents and I asked my mom to come stay for a few days after my csection and she said no because it will be uncomfortable for her and that if I want help I'll go to her town and her house. Like sorry I don't want to go somewhere that isn't my home anymore after I just have a baby cut out of my stomach. And sorry I wanna stay home with my fiancé and see him when he's off work and share our family experience with our first daughter and new baby. Ugh!

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• saric83 member

  April 2015

  If it were me, I would just decline her help and stay at your own place.  Obviously, it would be ideal (and make more sense from our perspective) for her to be at your place, but given that she's offering the help, she gets to dictate the conditions, and you get to either accept or turn it down. 

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• ldmw member

  April 2015

  saric83 said:

  If it were me, I would just decline her help and stay at your own place.  Obviously, it would be ideal (and make more sense from our perspective) for her to be at your place, but given that she's offering the help, she gets to dictate the conditions, and you get to either accept or turn it down. 

  Agree

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• ElleMuffin member

  April 2015

  I think you'll be totally fine without the help. It is such a pain to be in someone else's home, especially with a newborn! Hope all goes well.

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• MrsS728 member

  April 2015

  We are actually declining help for the first few days, which doesn't make any of the grandparents happy. We want to get settled at home as a family of three, plus the pup. It's going to be a huge change for all three of us (pup included) and we want to make it as smooth as possible for everyone. If I have a c-section, it might change things. I don't know but right now we don't want visitors the first few days we are home. Visitors at the hospital are one thing, not at home. 

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• locdglory member

  April 2015

  Thanks ladies for your advice/opinions! Moms can be kinda crazy lol, but I definitely think I'll be going home after we leave the hospital!

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