Knowing before gender reveal party?

jrenee956 · April 2015

I want a gender reveal party and my husband is on board, but he's not so sure about having the gender in an envelope and just not looking... I know it would be hard not to know, but I don't have a poker face either!

Have you ever been to or heard of a party where the parents-to-be know and the guests are surprised?

paisleybee · April 2015

Yes, my brother and sister in law did theirs that way. I like that they still had that intimate and special moment when they found out privately together, and we honestly had no idea as guests.

beanie1977 · April 2015

We watched the episode of 19 Kids and Counting and Jill and Derrick knew ahead of time. I think the party would be more fun not knowing, personally. I was at the doctor and delivered the note immediately to my friend after the appointment. There was no time for temptation!

Princessbcw · April 2015

Sex* reveal parties are not my style and what's the point if you already know?
I'd rather have a BBQ or dinner not surrounding what's between baby's legs and have cute cup cakes or something.

jamielynne1533 · April 2015

I think the same thing! What's the point of a gender reveal party if you already know. I had one with my first and we found out when everyone else did. Loved it that way! My in laws were able to capture on video and on pictures our exact moment of finding out and it is my absolute favorite picture. I had to give my friend who baked the cake the envelope immediately! Lol I mean I went straight from my ultrasound to her house. So there was no temptation.

justyh · April 2015

We will have a bbq and reveal it to our close families and friends, we will know at my ultrasound. Unfortunately everyone we know has a big mouth and will tell us anyways. I think it will be nice to have a day with my family and celebrate the baby. Why not?

millereliz13 · April 2015

My friends knew before their party but their two children and family did not.

gograce · April 2015

I'm too afraid to have a negative reaction to find out in front of everyone! My friends are having boy-girl twins and found out at their reveal party. She had the boy popper and he had the girl popper. When they pulled their strings at the same time, all he saw was pink and his face fell for a moment. It's captured on video and in pictures. I'm sure he's thrilled to have a girl, he just really wanted a boy and didn't see the blue confetti at the time. I'd be so sad to let everyone see my momentary disappointment in my baby's gender.

We're planning on finding out together and the US and surprising our parents and siblings at dinner. Just something small.

mrstps · April 2015

You probably shouldn't have a reveal party if you will be dissapointed in any way by the result!

I think the point of the "reveal" is for the mom and dad, so I wouldn't make a big party around a "reveal" if you already know. People want to see your reaction! But by all means, have a nice family dinner to celebrate after you find out.

babyynumbertwo2015 · April 2015

With my daughter, my husband and I both knew but threw a party to tell our friends. This time around, we are waiting to find out at the party with our family and friends. I can tell you from experience, to wait. I regretted finding out earlier and not with our friends and family

anorthro · April 2015

We were going to that, but we ended up telling one or two people the sex of the baby...and then another person...and another...and finally decided that half our guests would know and the other half wouldn't so it would be silly to reveal it at the shower. Edited to clarify: We are not doing the reveal anymore-we're just telling people we are having a girl.

I say go for it, though! Many of my friends and family have been excited to find out if we are having a boy or girl, so I don't see why they would be any less excited to find out if you already know.

mrsdhouse89 · April 2015

We are finding out before hand. It's my husband and I's special time to learn this information before everyone else. We are having a bbq later that evening to tell family and close friends so we are able to let everyone special in our lives know in person instead of calling or texting. It's a way to celebrate and get together.

kpgoncalves · April 2015

We are having a reveal party and my husband and I already know. We wanted to share the moment by ourselves first and enjoy knowing this secret before everyone else. It seems like knowing and not telling is making everyone more excited for it too.

nperezwhite · April 2015

paisleybee said:
Yes, my brother and sister in law did theirs that way. I like that they still had that intimate and special moment when they found out privately together, and we honestly had no idea as guests.

That's actually what my husband and I are doing. He wants to find out at the ultrasound and I like that we will have that moment just us. We are not doing anything big just a brunch and a gender reveal cake for a small group of people. There are no rules to these things- people should do whatever works for them.

tate62610 · April 2015

There's no real rule. It's fun to surprise people

if you want to know before, that's perfectly fine. We were completely on board with having a gender reveal party but it's our last pregnancy so we've decided to go ridiculous with this announcement.

brittanispears · April 2015

We find out May 5 but I wanted it to be a surprise for us and our families at the same time. Now that I'm reading what some of you ladies did, that makes sense to share it with your husband first. Definitely something to think about.

jrenee956 · April 2015

Thanks, everyone. Our "party" would really just be a dinner with our parents and siblings. It's just another reason to celebrate, share in the excitement, and learn a little more about the baby on the way.

I also talked to my husband about having our names narrowed down so we could say - it's a boy, which means baby _____ is coming! Another fun element to add to the excitement. If we can settle on a boy and girl name by then

tate62610 · April 2015

That sounds like a sweet idea

nrocke129 · April 2015

My husband and only my husband will know at the ultra sound. He is revealing to me and our families at a party. Originally he wanted to find out and I didn't so he said he would find out and keep it a secret until birth. I didn't like that idea so this is our compromise. I trust that he can keep it a secret. So he gets his secret for a while and I get a creative surprise.

toniann46 · April 2015

We found out the sex of our baby (a girl!) and had a big gender reveal party for our families. Our parents brothers and sisters aunts and uncles and the baby's god parents were so excited to find out the sex. After we revealed the sex we revealed the name. It was an amazing day filled with so much excitement and love for our baby girl.

I'm glad my husband and I found out prior bc we got to have that amazing experience alone. We got to celebrate our excitement and our baby to be just the 2 of us before sharing w our families.

soberrysweet · April 2015

The only thing even remotely appealing about attending one of these AWing events would be to see the reactions of the PTB on hearing the news. It seems kind of pointless if you already know.

I can't imagine being that excited about the sex of someone else's baby.

beanie1977 · April 2015

We didn't know and it was soooo much fun finding out with all of our friends and family around. Be sure you will be happy either way! We were!

audreyb12 · April 2015

There's nothing wrong with having a reveal party to tell family and friends if you already know. That's what me and my sister in law plan on doing. Our due dates are 3 days apart. However, if you're doing the party you shouldn't tell anyone until then. Not even your mom or best friend. My sister in law found out today and told her mom and step dad and her father in law. Now I feel like our reveal party is ruined

margies2010 · April 2015

Our "reveal" will go like this. I have my u/s, DH and I find out together at the doc. The following weeked, we will gather close family/friends where I will shoot the exploding target that will reveal to our loved ones what our miracle is, then it will go to fb for everyone else.

knottie88eaf561049cabc5 · April 2024

My neighbor wanted a gender reveal party but didn't discuss it with her husband. She planned it and told her husband they were going to a cookout. She knew her husband wanted to know the sex of the baby first before anyone else as he explained it to her in some detail. She went ahead with her plans and lied that there was no way to find out the sex of the baby. Apparently, the look on her husbands face when he found out it was his baby he was about to find out the gender for and not a cook out. I feel it was deceptive for her to do that. I think it was her husbands right to decide how he found out and not her decision to make for him. What does anyone else think?

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