Thursday Family/In-Law Vents

MissRissx3 · April 2015

A little late start, but better late than never.

What's bothering you?

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MissRissx3 · April 2015

I'll go first I suppose.

So my weekly tirades about DH's grammy have stopped, because i'm tired of filling this vent conversation with her bs.

But I just want an opinion on something.. I recently talked Zach (DH) into getting a little lock for our door. He wanted to know the reason behind it. And i explained to him that his Grandma is a bit sneaky, and likes to go into our room without our permission. He thought I was overreacting a little bit, and I can understand because he's lived with it his whole life. Now, last night I was napping, and I woke up to the feeling of someone staring at me. Zach was out back with his brother and his Grandma was literally in our room, staring at me. When i shuffled the blankets, she scurried out of our room and went into her room. So I though "Okay? Whatever." I walk downstairs to grab a water and all of the sudden I hear footsteps upstairs in our room! I hurry up the steps because I'm about to bust her sneaking into our room again, and all the sudden i hear her door close quietly. Now, am I overreacting for wanting a lock on our door? Do you all think i'm crazy for getting pissed about this? I mean, privacy is #1 for me. Like, it's very important to me. I just kind of feel a little, okay a LOT annoyed with this situation. So what would you all do?

sarahgracewedding · April 2015

Someone going in my room would really piss me off, but watching you sleep brings the creep factor to a whole new level!!! @MissRissx3 I would tell your DH about both those events and tell him how creepy it is!! I think most grandmas snoop around and are bored but her fascination with you seems unhealthy!!!!

dec2018mom · April 2015

This lady has problems and it's sad that your DH won't take it as serious as he should. I'd feel really uneasy about her being around a newborn, so hell yes...get a lock for your door. With all the crazy crap you've shared about her...I'd end up trying to find other living arrangements for either you guys or her. That whole situation isn't working and I'd not tolerate it. She's causing a lot of stress in your life that you don't need.

I think you could make millions if you turned this into a movie on the Lifetime channel...she's THAT crazy. On a side note...you handle her very well...you're going to be a fantastic mother with an overflow of patience lol.

babyblue0501 · April 2015

@MissRissx3 Um YES! Get a lock! That is some creepy stuff. You may live in her house, but you're not children, you have the right to have your privacy!

My in-law rant is about my alcoholic FIL, who has been saying since I was about 6 months pregnant that we would be here for the birth. We live right outside NE phila, and he moved to boonies of pittsburgh about 5 years ago. He said something (while he was drunk) really messed up to my husband about a month ago in regards to us having to go through IVF. My husband hasn't talked to him since, because he was so hurt. His father has no idea why my husband was upset with him, and according to my SIL, still planned on making the trip for the baby's birth. My husband reached out to his Dad, and they had a brief convo, mostly about my SIL and BIL, and my husband decided not to confront his Dad about the comments he made weeks prior. Mostly because FIL was drunk again. He wanted to wait until he wasn't wasted to have a serious convo.
Last February my MIL died unexpectedly, and DH's only surviving parent is his father. He isn't a bad man, just can be insensitive and opinionated as well as a heavy drinker. Not a good combination at times. He informed my husband that he will not be making it down for the birth, and instead will be going on a planned fishing trip that week. My husband is crushed. I'm boiling mad, and borderline ready to call him, and tell him off. I'm so upset for my husband, and he is really hurt. I'll let my husband handle it, and speak his peace. I just hope he does it soon, because my pregnancy hormones can't take this BS. In what right mind does a parent do that to their child? Your son is upset about something hurtful you said, so you decide to be even more selfish and book a fishing trip instead of coming to meet your first born son's son? Sometimes I just don't understand the word "family". I'm thankful my parents have adopted him as their son, and have always been there for him. He never feels like a SIL, but just their son.

cassietegtmeier · April 2015

F*ck a lock, set a bear trap.

MissRissx3 · April 2015

And I have found the reason to why she's been sneaking into our bedroom. We have a bag of candy on the back of our door (I actually forgot it was there lol) and i went to get a Reese cup, tell me why there's only 8 mini cups left out of a whole entire fucking bag! I asked dh if he had any, and his response was "No, I haven't had one actually."

Sooo.. the sneaking into our bedroom, is over a bag of fucking chocolate. Well, one of the reasons. I'm sure there's more to it. I'm to the point now to where I want a lock that locks from the outside, so I can lock it when we leave.

And yes, this is getting very horror storie-ish, I don't know how I haven't completely snapped yet..

Thank you for the support ladies, If it weren't for you all i'd be in a nut house.

MissRissx3 · April 2015

This lady has problems and it's sad that your DH won't take it as serious as he should. I'd feel really uneasy about her being around a newborn, so hell yes...get a lock for your door. With all the crazy crap you've shared about her...I'd end up trying to find other living arrangements for either you guys or her. That whole situation isn't working and I'd not tolerate it. She's causing a lot of stress in your life that you don't need.

I think you could make millions if you turned this into a movie on the Lifetime channel...she's THAT crazy. On a side note...you handle her very well...you're going to be a fantastic mother with an overflow of patience lol.

I'm considering writing a book. She really is crazy, and yeah dh just basically thinks "Eh she's just old babe.. She's my grandma." Yeah well i'm your wife and your daughter is about to be sharing a room with us, so when your grandma wants to be a fucking weirdo and creep into our room, I will pepper spray a bitch. So serious right now. The shitty thing is that she will deny it like "I wasn't sneaking in there I swear it.. Whyyyy would I do that Marissa?"

Makes me want to rip my hair out

MissRissx3 · April 2015

Aw that would be horrible to have to watch someone go through that

Even worse having to be the one going through it. I hope that somehow things get better for their situation. My Mom is pretty bad like that too, and has said some pretty mean things to my husband that he has a hard time letting go. He did, but it's still hard to look past.

FTArmyM · April 2015

MissRissx3 said:
I'll go first I suppose.
So my weekly tirades about DH's grammy have stopped, because i'm tired of filling this vent conversation with her bs.
But I just want an opinion on something.. I recently talked Zach (DH) into getting a little lock for our door. He wanted to know the reason behind it. And i explained to him that his Grandma is a bit sneaky, and likes to go into our room without our permission. He thought I was overreacting a little bit, and I can understand because he's lived with it his whole life. Now, last night I was napping, and I woke up to the feeling of someone staring at me. Zach was out back with his brother and his Grandma was literally in our room, staring at me. When i shuffled the blankets, she scurried out of our room and went into her room. So I though "Okay? Whatever." I walk downstairs to grab a water and all of the sudden I hear footsteps upstairs in our room! I hurry up the steps because I'm about to bust her sneaking into our room again, and all the sudden i hear her door close quietly. Now, am I overreacting for wanting a lock on our door? Do you all think i'm crazy for getting pissed about this? I mean, privacy is #1 for me. Like, it's very important to me. I just kind of feel a little, okay a LOT annoyed with this situation. So what would you all do?

I would lock it tight with a coded lock so there are no keys to steal.

mamajama3 · April 2015

I think you should sneak into her room at night and just stand there and stare at her. When she notices you and startles just say "Oh, sorry, just continuing our creepy new little family tradition of sneaking into each others' rooms and staring at each other." That might do it. Extra brownie points for rubbing your belly creepily while you stare at her. If you do this please get it on video lmao! Seriously though- get a lock. Not ok what she's doing, chocolate motivation or not.

MissRissx3 · April 2015

mnmarcy said:
I think you should sneak into her room at night and just stand there and stare at her. When she notices you and startles just say "Oh, sorry, just continuing our creepy new little family tradition of sneaking into each others' rooms and staring at each other." That might do it. Extra brownie points for rubbing your belly creepily while you stare at her. If you do this please get it on video lmao! Seriously though- get a lock. Not ok what she's doing, chocolate motivation or not.

Dude I just laughed so hard. So so hard Lmao! I want to do it so bad now. With a bag of chocolate in one hand ..

cassietegtmeier · April 2015

I don't have a inlaw issue I have a sister issue.
My sister decided around Christmas she was going to up and move to AZ with her boyfriend of 6 months. Needless to say things didn't work out and they are back... Living with me. She originally said she was going to help us get ready for the baby. That hasn't happened. She sleeps till its time for her to go to work, comes home goes right to "their" room and that's about it. Unless it's the weekend. Then they take over my living room and I can't sit and enjoy my tv. I also peed my pants today because she was in the bathroom taking a shower when I got home & I couldn't hold it. They have an apartment but it won't be ready till May 16th, my due date is May 7th & at my Drs appointment today I was 2cm dilated. I know this doesn't mean I'll go. Regardless they will be living here when I bring a newborn home. Not exactly how I pictured things.

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