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Vent/ Lack of Family

ladyteach0505ladyteach0505 member
in May 2015 Moms
This is such a vent, but my husband is tired and I don't feel like I have anyone else to talk to.

My mom has been the other person besides my husband I've really been relying on to get through my anxiety. I have a counselor, but there are times when you just want to call someone and say, "I'm really worried about___/ what do you think?" She lives an hour away and though she doesn't work she doesn't really come to visit. (Changing her routine is one of HER anxiety issues. Sigh, it runs in the family...) But then a month and a half ago she announces out of the blue that she's bought a condo from my aunt and is moving. (She's owned her house for over 20 years.) Since then she doesn't answer my calls or is short when she does. She consistently tells me she'll call me back and never does. The only thing she's interested in is my weekly OB appointment to see if I'm closer to delivery because she wants to come up for that. (Never mind that DH and I have said that we would prefer having the two of us for delivery to all family members.)

I am feeling so lost right now because I am a week or so away from delivery and I don't have anyone to talk to about it. It's scary and depressing at the same time. I saw my counselor yesterday and her answer is to take meds when I'm not pregnant. But that doesn't really solve the problem now. :(
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  • hannahhassonnhannahhassonn member
    My mom lives 5 minutes away but it's as if it's 5 hours. I've been on bedrest and she's never stopped by. Now there's a chance we are moving this summer and she is all sad about it but honestly, if she can't drive 5 minutes now, the move won't change that much. I hope you've found some company here on the bump. I know I have. Also I've found that my FB friends who are moms are usually very excited to talk pregnancy/birth... so start some conversation via private message. They may turn into a phone call that will make your day!
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  • marthaudanimarthaudani member
    Our family and friends are mostly in Hawaii (we moved a year ago) and some are here on the US mainland but no one is close enough to drive.

    We have good friends here but it's not the same as being surrounded by family and friends back home. I feel like I don't have very many people to talk to about being pregnant except the ladies here and a few friends on Facebook that just had their babies.

    It's hard being away from family for sure. I hope that you have a few people to talk to.
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  • LadyBloodLadyBlood member
    Our family is mostly 4 hours away as are majority of our friends. Hubby is military so we're very fortunate to only be 4 hours from family, but I understand how you're feeling. My mom doesn't understand or agree with anything I want for labor or to raise my son and I'm one of the very few out of my friends to have a kid so I don't have a lot of people to talk to. It can be very stressful to not have someone to talk to.
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  • kaynix21kaynix21 member
    I'm with you there.

    We actually live in Hawaii (military) so we're not even remotely close to our family distance wise.

    I have a few people who consistently call to check on my doctor appts and asked me 8 million questions over and over that make my head want to explode.

    But other than like the 3 people who do that -- I feel like my family (and esp his) DGAF. The only way his mom knows what's happening is I try and be a good daughter in law and send her updates or pictures or whatever.

    And I think she might tell my SIL but no phone calls from SIL, no support nothing. It drives me a little crazy tbh. 

    But you have this board. Do you have friends that live nearby? Or a BFF you could call and talk to?

    Keep going to your counselor and trying and work through it. You're almost there 

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  • kyleighdale1kyleighdale1 member
    I feel the same way. My boyfriend (who Iis my only friend and family) is leaving for boot camp 2 weeks after our baby is born and I'm my mom is pretty distant so I won't have anyone to talk to once baby is here. I'll be home away from friends for 6 months so I completely feel you. Once your baby arrives he or she will be all you need :) keep your head up
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  • mars8kmars8k member
    That's what this community is for :) nvm those who rant about there being too many rants lol tell us what's on your mind we're probably going through the same thing :)
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  • MaddJay24567MaddJay24567 member
    ugh! It's sucks not to have anyone to vent/talk to. 

    My mom is pretty emotionally unavailable so I feel that way a lot too!

     Hugs!
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