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jas060515 · April 2015

We lost our previous pregnancy at 16 weeks and it was a boy. We decided to "name" him Joseph as it has always been our favorite name for a boy. Now we are expecting another boy and my husband wants to name him Joseph Michael. I LOVE the name but I dont know how I feel about using the same name. What are your thoughts on this? Would you go ahead and use the name or save it because it belonged to the other baby?

ksimo6 · April 2015

To me, you already have a Joseph. My sister had three stillborns and they are all named and we talk about them by name so it would be hard to have another child with that name in the family... in my opinion.

JessHeppell · April 2015

i think that you could switch the names, name your child Michael Joseph, and when he asks where his middle name comes from say his older brother.

aj1327 · April 2015

JessHeppell said:
i think that you could switch the names, name your child Michael Joseph, and when he asks where his middle name comes from say his older brother.

This is a great idea!

KaLikeAWind · April 2015

I think @JessHeppell has a great idea. I've been mulling over this situation in my head and I honestly can't decide which way I fall here. On the one hand, I don't see a problem with using the name (sorry to those who may see this as insensitive) but on the other hand I'm not sure if that would make me feel like I was being disrespectful, 'forgetting' and not honoring the previous loss. You may feel that you *are* honoring the previous loss by using the name, so... Tough to say.

I wouldn't think less of you if you did end up using Joseph, tho.

jas060515 · April 2015

JessHeppell said:
i think that you could switch the names, name your child Michael Joseph, and when he asks where his middle name comes from say his older brother.

This is something my husband suggested but the name Michael is too common in my family. I only agreed to use it as a middle name because my husband loves it. Also, I've thought about maybe using Joseph as a middle name but I can't come up with first names that go well with it or that I really like.

karaelaine1991 · April 2015

jas060515 said:

JessHeppell said:
i think that you could switch the names, name your child Michael Joseph, and when he asks where his middle name comes from say his older brother.
This is something my husband suggested but the name Michael is too common in my family. I only agreed to use it as a middle name because my husband loves it. Also, I've thought about maybe using Joseph as a middle name but I can't come up with first names that go well with it or that I really like.

If you really like the middle name idea, the two names we were considering if we were going to have a boy were Ryan Joseph or Andrew Joseph. We're having a girl so we dropped both of those after our anatomy scan, but they're ideas if you're interested!

jas060515 · April 2015

karaelaine1991 said:

jas060515 said:

JessHeppell said:
i think that you could switch the names, name your child Michael Joseph, and when he asks where his middle name comes from say his older brother.
This is something my husband suggested but the name Michael is too common in my family. I only agreed to use it as a middle name because my husband loves it. Also, I've thought about maybe using Joseph as a middle name but I can't come up with first names that go well with it or that I really like.
If you really like the middle name idea, the two names we were considering if we were going to have a boy were Ryan Joseph or Andrew Joseph. We're having a girl so we dropped both of those after our anatomy scan, but they're ideas if you're interested!

Thank you! We already have an Andrew but I like Ryan. Congrats on your baby girl!

karaelaine1991 · April 2015

jas060515 said:

karaelaine1991 said:

jas060515 said:

JessHeppell said:
i think that you could switch the names, name your child Michael Joseph, and when he asks where his middle name comes from say his older brother.
This is something my husband suggested but the name Michael is too common in my family. I only agreed to use it as a middle name because my husband loves it. Also, I've thought about maybe using Joseph as a middle name but I can't come up with first names that go well with it or that I really like.
If you really like the middle name idea, the two names we were considering if we were going to have a boy were Ryan Joseph or Andrew Joseph. We're having a girl so we dropped both of those after our anatomy scan, but they're ideas if you're interested!
Thank you! We already have an Andrew but I like Ryan. Congrats on your baby girl!

Thanks! Good luck thinking of a name for LO, I'm sure that whatever you come up with will be perfect for him!

katyertl · April 2015

I agree with the PP I wouldn't use the name then if you already have previously "named" your other child that. Even if he isn't with you today. I think for grieving and things like that I would just leave that name to be that child's. Don't make your new baby boy feel like he has to live up to that name. I love the idea of using It as a middle name though. Just try to come up with name ideas and go from there. There's no rush yet you still have time!

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