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May 2015 Moms
HaruhiChan
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cervix exam question and venting...
HaruhiChan
member
So checked into OB triage (l&d) due to contractions coming frequently (2-4min apart on their monitor, monitored for 2 hours) with increasing pressure and intensity (enough to make it hard to breathe at times) and the nurse did a rather ROUGH cervix exam and said I'm 1cm and thinning, the exam HURT bad and immediately I started bleeding a lot. And I mean onto the bed and everything. She told me after the exam "it's normal for people to bleed after". Like, tell me before hand next time? But like heavy enough to be my period and passing clots. Is this normal?
Either way was sent home without even seeing a doctor saying they don't know if it's false labour or early labour and to just keep an eye on it. Oh, and the resident told me that since this is my first pregnancy that counts, I don't know what the pain feels like. First, thanks for basically saying my miscarriage I previously had was invalid and second, just because I'm not shrieking in pain doesn't mean I'm not in pain. Sent home and told to watch for pain even though I already told them I was in pain and had been cramping consistently for a week now.
I'm just not overly happy with the staff. So now still stuck sitting and waiting with no answers while bleeding and feeling a lot more cervix pain than I did first going in! Either way, early labour or false labour would send me home anyways, but what call do they have to send me home without even seeing the doctor on call? They told me he'd be seeing me but then they just sent me home instead.
Vent over
frustrated with no answers and feeling a little miffed about being manhandled.
Either way was sent home without even seeing a doctor saying they don't know if it's false labour or early labour and to just keep an eye on it. Oh, and the resident told me that since this is my first pregnancy that counts, I don't know what the pain feels like. First, thanks for basically saying my miscarriage I previously had was invalid and second, just because I'm not shrieking in pain doesn't mean I'm not in pain. Sent home and told to watch for pain even though I already told them I was in pain and had been cramping consistently for a week now.
I'm just not overly happy with the staff. So now still stuck sitting and waiting with no answers while bleeding and feeling a lot more cervix pain than I did first going in! Either way, early labour or false labour would send me home anyways, but what call do they have to send me home without even seeing the doctor on call? They told me he'd be seeing me but then they just sent me home instead.
Vent over
frustrated with no answers and feeling a little miffed about being manhandled.
Re: cervix exam question and venting...
Makes me not even want to go back
The resident wasn't listening to me. I was telling him that I was having pain, I still am now at home. There's no change In anything except I'm still bleeding 7 hours later. And a lot of aching in the pelvis, still frequent contractions that are feeling intense and back pain.
My last OB apt I was told I was having prelabour symptoms and told to go to OB triage if my contractions became more frequent (they did) and if they became more intense (they did). I did what I was told and basically I don't really feel like I was taken seriously. And just sent home to be told to keep watch still.
At this point I don't even want to go back, but it's the only dang hospital in this county that has a labour and delivery ward! The next nearest is a long drive away. It's almost tempting if labour wasn't such a complex thing.
Makes me feel like there's a few red flags for me. They don't seem to listen to what I'm saying to them and seem to just shrug me off. Will they be taking my decisions seriously when it comes to when I do deliver? If I say no epidural are they going to listen or just do it anyways? It makes me really question the trust I should have in them, you know?
I'm still in pain here at home, but apparently it's not enough. I'm the sort of person who breaks bones and laughs. I've broken my arm and just laughed it off to cope with the pain. So of course I'm not going to be showing as much pain as the average person because I'm just not normal when it comes to that. So by saying that I'm basically not having pain I felt was insulting because I am in pain and just because I'm not crying or whining over it doesn't mean it's not there.
That's all. And if a rough exam and being ignored and shrugged off is normal, then I'm done with medical care
I want my regular OB
Not just ship you off with an "I don't know."
Then when you see your ob next time- I'd complain about your treatment in l&d. I know mine would not stand for treatment like that!
I asked the nurse about the clots and heavy bleeding, she says it's not normally like that, but didn't look into it further. I didn't get to see the OB at all, the resident sent me home after saying before that that the OB would be seeing me.
What kills me is that I'm 34 w 5 d. Having labour signs and issues and they brush me off and send me home with an "I don't know" and that's that. So, if I am going into preterm labour, or showing signs I could be, wouldn't it be smart to stop it or something? I feel slightly disappointed in that decision, but what do I know? I was told before 36 weeks at least they'd try to stop labour as it's preterm. I wasn't even given instructions as to whether I need to be on any sort of bedrest or anything.
My next apt is this wednesday, I'll definitely be having a word with her about this.
Nothing like being told what to go to the OB triage for and go for it, just to be told "I don't know" and told what to go for again. Feels frustrating. Next time I think I'll be demanding to see the OB and have them do the exam rather than the nurses. She was NOT gentle one bit.
Still contracting and still a LOT of painful pressure and backache. Still bleeding, though not AS heavy as before. Just not sure anymore what they want me to watch for. Mixed messages
Top it all off, they lost my chart though my OB Apts are all in the same hospital. 3rd time I've been to the triage my entire pregnancy (once for a vasovagal attack, another wasn't pregnancy related but needed to be brought by ambulance for not being able to breathe due to pneumonia so they brought me there first to check on my baby first) and all 3 times they lost my chart.
I will say nothing you described is out of the ordinary. There is a button you can push to call for assistance like to be unhooked from monitors when you have to pee. Shame on them for not telling you that! Being sent home if you're only dilated to 1 cm is normal, too, even if you're still in pain having contractions. My hospital does that sometimes because they want beds open for women who are further along in labor. They advise to return if it continues, then you'll presumably be further dilated and closer to delivering.
As for the amount of bleeding... That does sound a little concerning. I would put on a pad if you haven't already and then you have proof of how much you're losing. That's what my hospital asks, "are you bleeding enough to fill a pad in x amount of time?"
Call back and hope for better staff on the next shift. You can't be too cautious when you're pregnant.
I don't wanna ever go back for the night shift again. Nor do I want that nurse again. I said she was hurting me with the exam and she just shoves her hand in farther
The lady next to me was having horrendous back pain, 3 cm dilated, strong contractions and brutal pain with it. Offered her morphine and sent her home too.
It really makes me not want to deliver in this place. I'm contacting my doula in a bit and explaining the situation. I just feel like I'm an idiot for doing what they said to do and get treated like I was making a deal out of nothing.
But it's still continuing, I'm feeling even more pressure and pain in the lower belly, but is it really enough for them to take me seriously? Don't think so.
I do wish they did explain things better or at least showed a bit more interest in trying to help people. Even if it's fake interest.
But no one was concerned there, just shrugged it off and said it would stop and that some people bleed after exams.
Additionally maybe it is just my hospital and most NYC hospitals but nurses should not be doing interal exams. The resident should be doing the exam and if a resident isn't available wait and ask to be seen my one.
One of my close friends is a labor and delivery nurse and she said they never never do internals.
You should not be scared or deterred from going to L&D so you def want to make your OB aware of it. Also any bleeding this late in the game should be reported to your OB
Sorry for your experience! Don't let anyone devalue anything that is happening in your body now!
That said, I don't know where you live but I'd go to my OB and tell them that I had lost faith in the L&D unit and ask what other options you have. I think the way you were treated was very unusual. I've been to L&D for less than you and everyone has always been kind to me- even if they think I'm stupid for coming. They always say "better safe than sorry- come back if you need us". In this day and age I can't believe anyone would be so dismissive of a pregnant woman. It sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen if something goes wrong.
If you're in the states maybe you could hire a doula to be your advocate when you deliver. I've heard of some people doing that.
I feel like I've been hit by a truck today and I'm still in some pain, but I don't know if maybe it's the treatment from yesterday. I will be discussing everything with my regular OB and hopefully get some answers from her and I will update this thread after that too.
I am still bleeding, but it's not as heavy. I feel very crampy (I've been cramping anyways now for 7 days) but a little more than normal--probably normal from the exam.
I am in Canada and not in an area known for its medical skill. My area is really lacking in good quality doctors. Unfortunately, there's no other options for where to go for delivery but this OB triage.
It sucks royally. I don't even think we have a birthing centre.
I think when I go back, I'm waiting as long as I can if it's in the middle of the night and trying to get the day shift. This is not my first issue with night staff at this hospital, but it's the first time I've had issues in the OB ward.
The blood started off really bright red immediately after the nurse removed her hand. This morning it is still red but not bright. It was not spotting, it was bleeding.
It took 3 days for the bleeding to stop.
My OB said the nurse was really rough but some people tend to be very sensitive if they're not quite in labour yet.
So kinda disappointing but at least I know to avoid that particular nurse again
My doula and I also discussed things further today and she's going to help advocate for what I want for labour
I know my miscarried pregnancy counts. No one can change that
I do feel a bit better after speaking with my OB and doula.