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Bridesmaid at 31weeks?

stella+80stella+80 member
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Hi June moms, I'm actually an october mom, but I will be a bridesmaid in August (4months from now), when I'll be 31w3d.. So I came here just to ask you, would you feel up to being a bridesmaid this far along? 

And how many sizes up should I go, the bride is worried that we won't be able to find the dress later on, so she insists we buy it ASAP, I think I should be able to fit a baby bump in it, but unfortunately I don't know which other parts are going to grow :sigh:

this is the dress, in another color, but same style..

what do you think?

Thanks in advance :)
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Re: Bridesmaid at 31weeks?

  • gemkwgemkw member
    Hi, I am 31 weeks and was a bridesmaid this weekend. I was absolutely fine and had a brilliant time at the wedding (dancing till 2am
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  • sabettsabett member
    edited April 2015
    I'm 34 weeks and felt pretty good until about 32-33 weeks... but my doctor said that a lot of women start feeling tired, achy, etc. around 30 weeks. So it's hard to say how you'll feel... At this point, I'd say it depends on the day and how well I was able to sleep the night before :-)

    In terms of the dress, I think it would depend on how high you're carrying. I'm carrying very high and there is no way my bump would fit into that style (although it's pretty!). If you carried a bit lower, it could work, but I'd definitely want to buy a size or two up to accommodate things. And I'd plan on getting the dress tailored closer to the actual date. That said, it's hard to predict because some parts grow more than others. I still fit into some looser non-maternity items, often one size up although not always, but I've also stayed pretty small (except my basketball belly).

    Good luck!
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  • gemkwgemkw member
    Sorry only half my post came up...
    I was going to say I did really well but everyone is different. Think you should go for it and if things have got difficult bride would surely understand if you no longer do it.

    I wore a maternity version of the dress but I think you could just go one or two sizes up and get the dress adjusted nearer the time.
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  • upandbelowupandbelow member
    I'm 30 weeks today, and with how my pregnancy is going I think I could handle it.  As for sizes, IMO that's a very personal thing.  I've gained weight in my belly and that's about it.  I haven't purchased new bras yet and am able to wear some of my pre-pregnancy clothes still.  My suggestion, size up a size or two so long as they can take it in where they'll need to, and make sure that the dress leaves room for a decent sized bump, think stretchy fabric or empire waistlines!
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  • aj1327aj1327 member
    I think I could handle being in a wedding (I'll be 32 weeks on Thursday). I'm pretty much bump and boobs, and I'm not sure how I'd feel ahoy the dress, but if I'm being honest, I'm not feeling great in anything. I'd go up a couple of sizes, as things are always easier to take on. Congrats and good luck!
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  • tacoxxstacoxxs member
    edited April 2015
    I wasn't a bridesmaid this week, but I did do a 5k run/walk on Sunday and felt totally fine.  Can't tell you about how many sizes up to go. Every body is different.  For me, all parts of my body except my tummy have stayed the same size.  At Destination Maternity stores, they have a wrap around belly you can wear to simulate being 7 months pregnant.  Maybe you can borrow it for your dress fitting?  It won't be a perfect match, but might guide you a little??
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  • Katerina&BabyKaterina&Baby member
    At 31 weeks, you'll probably want to be in flats but other than that, you should be fine to be a bridesmaid (I would feel up to it now and I'm at 33w5d). This dress doesn't look tricky to tailor (straightforward seaming) so I would absolutely go up at LEAST 2 sizes to accommodate your growing bump and any extra curves you may develop in your breasts, hips, or butt (there's just no way to tell how you'll end up carrying). I would go try on the dress and see how it fits now and then add 2 sizes from that (better to be on the safe side and have to take it in a lot rather than not have it fit at all - that dress could definitely be gone in 4 months or just not available in the size you need).
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  • katiemarnoldkatiemarnold member
    I will be a bridesmaid at 35 weeks, and I'm not concerned at all. I feel great right now (31 weeks) and I don't anticipate that changing (hopefully). I normally wear a size 10 and bought a size 18 and it looks like it is going to work. . .it just needs some basic alterations
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  • ashleyahuffashleyahuff member
    I was in a wedding at 31 weeks. Size 8 normally at David's bridal. They recommended a 12. I said no way! Went up to a 16 and thank goodness I did! It's all belly and it was huge.

    Dress was perfect with alterations to the bust.

    Wedding and reception were just fine, danced until 10:30 with minor swelling.
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  • virginiaunicorn11virginiaunicorn11 member
    I felt great at 31 weeks, and am having a pretty easy pregnancy, knock on wood. Definitely flats and up a couple sizes. I really popped at 29 weeks.

    For me, feeling great day of is one thing, but I need some time to recover. So I would recommend building in an extra day or two after the wedding to sleep, relax, and put your feet up. If I overdo it (which I do, because I feel good), it can take me up to 5 days to fully recover.

    Have fun!
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  • rklinge0rklinge0 member
    I have good weeks and bad weeks at 34, some weeks I am super tired but I haven't been sleeping well. At 30 I was still able to fit into some pre pregnancy clothes. But I have a friend who is due 9 days after who has been out of her pre pregnancy clothes since 17 weeks. So it depends on how you carry the weight and how much you gain.
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  • SerenamarrSerenamarr member
    Four months is a long time for things to change. I know in our group of moms there are some who at 31-34 weeks are still working 12 hours a day and loving it, some who have good days and bad (me), some are on modified bed rest, and some have been unable to get out of bed or have been in the hospital for weeks now. I sincerely hope you are one of the former at this point in your pregnancy, but there is really no way to know! I would recommend reminding the bride of this, that you would love to participate and plan to do so, but you really have no control over how you will feel. God forbid something does happen down the line it won't come as a total shock to her right before her wedding. 

    I had to take this approach with my friend's wedding that I will be in very shortly after my due date. I told her yes, I would love to be a part of it, but just made sure she understood that there are things I simply won't know until that time comes so the ultimate decision would have to be made then. 

    As far as dress size its kind of the same. You might gain 35 pounds, you might gain 5. Personally, my pant size has stayed the same while my bra size has gone from a 36D to a 36DDD. When it comes to bridesmaids dresses, it might not matter how far up you go in size, those things are NOT designed to be pregnancy friendly, and even if it does fit, it might not look the way you or the bride are picturing it! Depending on the style, I'd say go two sizes up. Making something too big smaller is a lot easier than making something small bigger. I also discussed with the bride the possibility of wearing a different style dress in the same color as the other bridesmaids.
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  • WestypetWestypet member
    These ladies have some great advice!

    I would go up at least two sizes, probably three, just to be on the safe side with your growing body, and budget for alterations. I'm doing something similar for my post partum body/wedding post baby, just to avoid the added stress.

    I added two cup sizes, from 36D to 40DD and probably would have gained even more weight if I had not had such severe morning sickness that kept the rest of my body a bit smaller.

    I was a size 10 at 4 weeks, and now I'm a size 12-14 at 31.5 weeks with little weight gain, but due to belly and bust growing.

    Assume that you'll gain a normal amount of weight during your pregnancy, about 35 pounds, and that your chest/ribcage will expand and overaccommodate with the dress size. If it's a tent by 30 weeks, you can have it taken in.

    Enjoy the wedding! You're going to look adorable with a bump in that dress. Bride chose a great dress!
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  • KaLikeAWindKaLikeAWind member
    edited April 2015

    I'm 32 weeks, and I could bridesmaid a wedding I'm pretty sure. Honestly, if it was one of those REALLY long ceremonies, I might re-think it a little bit (to avoid standing there, fidgeting cause I have to PEE). But I think I'd be cool doing it. The ceremony itself should be fairly easy, show up, smile, and stand. The reception I would probably spend more time sitting than standing (my longstanding pregnancy complaint has been being tired), but as long as I had a chair to retire to when I needed, no big. As far as dancing and such, some days I could have the energy for that, others I would just sit and eat. However, PP mentioned the recovery time - do take this into consideration. When I work (I bartend, so I'm on my feet and moving around) I need a day after to recover my energy and my feet. Being super active will wear me out and I'm ready for bed early, and really tired still the day after and maybe even the day after that, too. Build in enough days afterwards to rest yourself. It's shocking to me how easily I tire, and for how long that lasts afterwards

    As far as the dress - I don't wear dresses often. But, I can say that my boobs got way bigger than they were. I must have gone up at least 2 cups, and my around the ribs measurement went from the inner or middle hooks to the outer hooks. I don't know if that dress cut would work for me, my bump begins to slope pretty much right underneath my boobs. My thighs are thicker a smidge, too, but this dress looks loose in the thigh area, so you'd probably be ok there.  Hard to know, but probably at least 2 sizes up, and then have it taken in.

    Have fun! I'm sure you'll look fantastic, bump bridesmaid!


    ETA - shoes. try to choose flat, stretchy, comfy ones. My feet swell after about an hour or two on my feet. Not that bad, but I could use an extra half size or full size for the room by the end of the night

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  • WestypetWestypet member
    amark11 said:

    I felt great at 31 weeks, and am having a pretty easy pregnancy, knock on wood. Definitely flats and up a couple sizes. I really popped at 29 weeks.

    For me, feeling great day of is one thing, but I need some time to recover. So I would recommend building in an extra day or two after the wedding to sleep, relax, and put your feet up. If I overdo it (which I do, because I feel good), it can take me up to 5 days to fully recover.

    Have fun!

    This is a good point! Try to take it very easy in the days leading up to the wedding and definitely plan to sleep on the day after. ;)
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  • fridaysdancefridaysdance member
    edited April 2015
    I am 33 weeks tomorrow and feel like I could do it if I took breaks from standing too much. I have a similsr dress from David's Bridal that I bought for a friend's wedding in my pre pregnancy size 2. It still fits aside from some tightness in the chest but it also has a slightly higher waist. Said dress can be ordered in a similar color and was on sale last I looked if you want options.
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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
    Also if you are pretty tall the length might be an issue - the bump will likely make the hem uneven, and if you don't have extra fabric it might not work. I'd also caution against having it fitted too precisely more than a week in advance - my bump growth rate has really increased since about 29 weeks!
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  • queequeg09256queequeg09256 member
    I'll be 32 weeks on thursday too. I think I could do a wedding I highly agree with getting a fake bump to try your bridesmaid dress though. I'm boob and belly and still fit my prepregnancy pants. That being said I'm a fatty and had bad morning sickness until 2 weeks ago. Lol. Also my baby is high up, so much will depend on how you gain and how baby sits. Flats for sure! Heels are so evil and be ready for some awesome cankles.
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  • stella+80stella+80 member
    Thank you soooo much for all your input ladies, I can't thank you enough!!.. There were A LOT of things that I would have never taken into consideration if I hadn't read your advice..

    I think I'm gonna try the fake bump, but I will probably wait until maybe 3-4 weeks before the wedding to actually buy the dress, now that I look carefully at the style I think it's not so pregnancy-friendly after all...There are just so many things to consider and I don't want to stress out about the dress for 4 more months, I have plenty of other things to stress out about lol.. 

    You're all super nice <3
    I wish you all a happy and healthy 3rd trimester :)

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